We know it’s kind of late and out of season but we at B.P had mixed opinions about certain aspects of the content in this article, but we all concurred, this to be a very interesting article that needed and should be shared, as we would welcome your opinions and thoughts as well, to see how the majority would interpret it or if there is any relevance to actual fact in your life.
It was sent to us a couple of months ago, we apologize but due to all the emails we receive it’s almost next to impossible to keep up with all comments and suggestions, nevertheless we maybe late and behind but we will get to them all eventually.
We would first like to say that we also agree that love isn’t just to be expressed or acknowledged on valentines day rather every minute of every hour of every day, it don’t mater what it is you are expressing your love for, no mater what, love is love and we all know that it is an emotion that has no comparison.
Loving Yourself and Loving your Partner
Well Y’all – February is here and that means February 14th…Valentine’s Day is almost here! What does that mean to the heart felt ones? What does it mean to those who are single…to those who are in a relationship? What does it mean to those who have given up on relationships?
It means it’s time to re-examine Love. There are lots of definitions and interpretations of the word “love.” There is love for raw food; there is the love for chocolate; and then there’s the heart felt love we have for our parents, our grandparents, our children, and our pets. The love we feel for humanity, for Mother Earth and for lots of other things in life!
The Love we think about on February 14th is the feelings we have about and for our significant other! But let’s be careful about using that word “feelings” as I think that when we focus on this word, in can affect what real love is. So what is real love? Is it enjoying the company of your sweetheart? Is it sex with your partner? Is it
that feeling you get when you see or think about them? Is it a combination of all of those or something else?
We all know of people who “love” each other but can’t seem to get along. Why is that?
Is it because there are basic differences in their core values and they are only attracted to the things they like about that person but are repelled by numerous other characteristics? Or is it something from the childhood or from some past unsuccessful relationship? It could be any of those things.
So let’s talk about what makes a great relationship. What is the basis for it and what makes it last forever? Or are some relationships just transitional and only meant to be so that one or both of the partners can grow and learn? So many questions!!!
From my experiences and wisdom, and at 60 years of age I have collected a lot of both, I can present my perceptions, feelings, thoughts and intuitive insight. To me, the basis of a true feeling of loving your partner is to truly love yourself. To know yourself and to see that love inside reflected back from the eyes of your Partner…from the Soul of your Partner.
I remember reading a book that talked about a Devotee going to his Master and asking “Master…how do you have so much love to give?” And the Master replied “Because my heart is overflowing with it and I see it everywhere. In the beauty of nature, in the heavens, and in all sentient beings.” What a wonderful way to explain this person’s perception of love. But what about those of us who have not attained this level of connection to the Universe? Again, we must love ourselves and see that love everywhere. At that point in our lives we are ready to attract our Partner…and we are prepared to allow our selves to love.
And the great thing about this wonderful universe we live in is that when we are ready we will attract that person to us. Think about it…aren’t you drawn to the person who has a smile on their face or a sense of self-acceptance? When you see them or are around them, don’t you yourself feel better? That is because Love is an energy. We can feel it! So we are drawn to that person and if there is a basis for that relationship to flourish, then indeed it can.
When I talk about there being “a basis for a relationship to flourish,” I am talking about significant characteristics that help bind a relationship together. Things like similar or complimentary interests and goals, energy levels, a sense of humor, politics or religion or a thousand other things. All of these things are great reasons for love to develop.
But how do you maintain that love? How do you make it last? Well, let’s look at the words “maintain” and “make.” They are both verbs. So, does that mean that “love” is a verb? Actually, it is a verb. This means that when you have been fortunate enough to love yourself – to attract that Partner that you can love – then you need to practice love.
Many times I get that feeling of love for my wonderful Wife, Katy Joy. I wake up in the middle of the night and my body feels connected to her energy and I know how much I love her. When I come home at night and she isn’t there, I have even stood on top of the stairwell and yelled out “I Love Katy Joy.” And I tell her my feelings often…but not only in words. I practice Love. Remember that Love is a verb. This means that when I come home before her, I make both of us a wonderful raw salad with tons of sprouts. Or I empty the dishwasher or make sure that the room is straightened out. I give her a massage at night in front of the fireplace. I listen to her when she talks. And then I also admire her and respect her. I give her hugs when she needs them and I
give her space when she wants it.
So this February 14th, remember to practice Love. And this can be to your Partner but it can mean that you send messages of Love to all those around you. And remember that practicing Love also means loving yourself…and forgiving yourself.
With that frame of mind, we can make a change in the world. And that’s what we really want, because “All the world really needs is Love.”
Again, remember that Love is a verb, so practice it often!
Kind Blessings and Love to All,
Rick H. Cabados