Bullying & Self identity

Cyber-Bully-Cyber-Bullying-fact The need to recognize and to intervene in a cyberbully event is critical. Once recognized, intervention must be immediate to reduce the effects and potential damage that will occur to the victim. Unlike physical bullying, where bruises and scars are visible, the bruises and scars from cyberbullying remain buried in the psyche. With no avenue of escape, the victim will consider and then take the final step to avoidance. That step being suicide. How can we teach the various age groups about recognition and intervention? There are a number of programs available to help in that development. For more information please visit our web site http://www.steeringsteps.com. Contact us at joepalmer@steeringsteps.com to create a specific program for your school or business.

Failure to intervene can no longer be an option.

COMING OUT TO ONESELF – is not restricted to sexual orientation alone, but rather the process of finding oneself weather that be sexually, socially, professionally and many other aspects of self awareness. We do-not endorse the following but believe it to be useful and helpful information for those concerned.

Recognizing your own sexual identity and working toward self-acceptance are the first steps in coming out. First, concerning sexual identity, it helps to think of a sexual orientation continuum that ranges from exclusive same sex attraction to exclusive opposite sex attraction. Exploring your sexual identity may include determining where you presently fit along that continuum.

Concerning self-acceptance, it can be very helpful to focus on the positive aspects of LGBT culture, for example, its music, art, theater, books, events, and groups. It is also very helpful to seek out positive, well adjusted and comfortable role models among LGBT people. Building on the positive does not mean that you pretend that our society is past its discrimination, fears, and negative myths concerning LGBT people, or that these things do not have any effects on LGBT people. However, these negative things are better understood as externally based rather than inherent to your identity or your orientation. Part of developing a positive sense of self is understanding that your own homophobia is also externally based, the product of societal prejudices and anti-LGBT biases that have impinged upon you for much of your life.

There are many things to think about when considering coming out. Some of the positive outcomes may be increased self-esteem, greater honesty in oneโ€™s life, and a sense of greater personal integrity. In addition, there is often a sense of relief and a reduction of tension when one stops trying to deny or hide such an important part of his/her life. Coming out can lead to greater freedom of self-expression, positive sense of self and more healthy and honest relationships.

One safe means of beginning to come out to yourself is through reading about how others have dealt with similar issues. There are many books and periodicals available on all facets of LGBT life, from clinical studies on LGBT people to collections of A coming out stories.