My personal suggestion from Rory B. Mackay, a great writer with words of inspiration, a guiding light a look at reality as reality and nothing more; http://beyondthedream.co.uk/: or http://www.dreamlight-fugitive.co.uk/Dreamlight_Fugitive/Home.html Dreamlight Fugitive is a new website showcasing the work of writer and artist Rory B Mackay. Here you’ll find a selection of Rory’s work, including details on his upcoming debut novel ‘ELADRIA’, prelude to the epic Alanar Ascendant series. Follow the links above to navigate the site.
It seems to me that pretty much at the core of Western spirituality and personal development is a desire to change ourselves — to be better, to feel better, to improve who we think we are and to also improve the world and other people. Now there’s nothing wrong with that at all, but is it perhaps possible that our need to affect change is in fact a subtle act of war; a declaration of war against ourselves and reality? And could it ultimately be self-defeating?
I’ve found in my own experience that our need to change ourselves and change the world creates a tension and resistance within us. Certainly, if we’re experiencing pain, then it’s only natural and healthy to take immediate steps to deal with that pain. If we’re are standing with our hand on a burning hot stove, then for goodness sake we should take it off! Pain isn’t our natural state; if it was, it would feel good. Pain is a signal that something is wrong and needs to be taken care of, and then we can return to our natural state of equilibrium.
Our drive to continually change and better ourselves is in many respects a good thing and has created so many of our greatest breakthroughs. But it’s a double-edged sword and needs to be kept in balance. If we’re continually dissatisfied with who we are and what’s going on around us, then even when we make changes, we’ll still be stuck in that mindset of striving and frustration. It can become our predominant mindset and a kind of addiction. How much do you have to change before enough is enough and you can just be happy with who you are?
Going through life forever trying to match up to some mind-created ideal of what we think we should be (“I should be thinner/stronger/prettier/more successful/more respected/more spiritual”) is a recipe for continual dissatisfaction and frustration. It’s the same with our attempts to change the world. The world is as it is: a play of duality, of light and dark, happiness and suffering. It’s always going to be that way, because that’s the nature of life — or maya. We can certainly do what we feel compelled to do within our capabilities and nature to help make the world a better place. In fact, that’s part of why we’re here — to live and embody our dharma and to flow in harmony with life.
But in order to be truly at peace in life, we need to let go of our desperate compulsion to change everything, to make everything better. Because we can’t. And it’s not our responsibility anyhow! Our problem is we perceive ourselves to be the ‘doer’ in life, when in fact the doer-entity is just one among dozens of factors that causes action to happen in the dharma field. We do have a limited amount of free will, but the truth is the results of our actions is never up to us. It’s up to life. Surrendering to this realisation, and allowing life to simply unfold as it will, knowing that life flows in its own innate perfection, is really the key to living in a state of peace, balance and harmony with life.
Although a self-contained novel, ELADRIA also serves as prelude to a planned series, entitled The Alanar Ascendant.; A dire prophecy is fulfilled when Tahnadra’s royal moon is attacked and overthrown by religious extremists. Forced to flee for her life, Princess Eladria finds herself embroiled in a sinister experiment that threatens to destroy her world and countless others. http://www.dreamlight-fugitive.co.uk/Dreamlight_Fugitive/Eladria.html
I recently saw this quote from Anthony De Mello, which were apparently his last recorded words.
Don’t change: Desire to change is the enemy of love.
Don’t change yourselves: Love yourselves as you are.
Don’t change others: Love all others as they are.
Don’t change the world: It is in God’s hands and he knows.
And if you do that change will occur
Marvellously in its own way and in its own time
Yield to the current of life unencumbered by baggage.
I can’t say much more than that! Instead of continually stressing ourselves by trying to change ourselves and reality, why not learn to truly LOVE IT (and OURSELVES!) and then allow changes to naturally happen with ease and grace? Surely worth a try. And what a way to live…!