Canada & Greeders ~ The Hidden Hatred

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I have watched, listened and learnt so lets talk about Canada, where men account for three terry-2015out of every four suicides, with seven men dying by suicide every day. And the risk is even greater for gay and bisexual men. Where the middle class and above are cherished, honored and respected and all others degraded and sentenced to a life of struggles, desperation the result of most suffering from mental health issues, resulting in…suicide. The hidden hatred within it’s walls for the most vulnerable of it’s population,  LGBT peoples, Indigenous people’s, Muslin peoples and outsiders if you will etc, a place where still today Racism still runs ram-pit, not to mention a place that even women are beaten and badder beyond belief and murdered or cast out and Homelessness is raging out of control for forks sake , and I can go on.

Now at a ripe 56 years old and an OUT non-closeted member of the hidden LGBT community in Canada all my life I know only too well the difference between doing whats right because it’s legislation and doing whats right because it’s comes from the heart. Being called names, beaten up and even sexually assaulted, also where for the most part kids and adults alike are being diagnosed with depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder which is the norm.

slide_360376_4031618_compressedAnd due to this perception by society, which sickens me to the core, I am shocked when I realize the closeted LGBT people I have met over the years in Canada whom still hide and spend their whole life suffering in pain and anguish, hiding behind a woman in marriage or just a relationship terrified to be themselves.

In Canada, only one in five people with depression get appropriate treatment. And in Ontario, only one in three patients discharged from psychiatric hospitalization will get a follow-up within the month. Why is Canada doing so poorly in helping people with mental illness? {because it’s not from the heart but rather for Greed~Terry.K}

Dr. Paul Kurdyak and Sanjeev Sockalingam explain why treatment is so difficult to come by. Paul Kurdyak is an expert advisor with EvidenceNetwork.ca, a psychiatrist and clinician scientist at CAMH (the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health). Sanjeev Sockalingam is a psychiatrist and Deputy Psychiatrist-in-Chief at the University Health Network and Associate Professor at the University of Toronto.

With all due respect I also have to say that more than 70 countries have Anti-Gay Laws (Death penalty) which include country’s like Russia, Sudan, Saudi Arabia and Iran to name a few.

I do have respect for the leaders of these counties in question (excluding the newly formed American Government, whom should know better) for being honest unlike, Canada whom have created fake legislation said to protect all citizens, that I have fought and suffered to obtain more than 30 years, which in reality, I believe it’s only to quit those protesting, because as sure as I sit here, they will stick a knife in your back the first chance they get whom I have no respect for at all.

As a survivor of a suicide attempt at 19 years of age I now long for my time to cease on this planet, which I truly believe to be hell.

There are only two types of people I despise, and that is Liar’s, perjurer, deceiver’s and thieves, call them what you like but Canada is over whelmed with this type of individual that I call Greeders whom will walk on or over anyone to satisfy their own needs & greed, the place that if you Rob a bank, your life is finished but that same bank can rob you without repercussions.

Millions of people continue to live in places that outlaw same sex relationships and prosecute people for being gay. In five countries and in parts of two others, homosexuality is still punishable with the death penalty, while a further 70 imprison citizens because of their sexual orientation. ~ United Nations Feb 10, 2014.

slide_360376_4031617_compressedBelow is what one man from Ireland had to say about living in Canada after immigrating here to Vancouver and being here just five years, this is an excerpt from his review Pros & Cons of living in Canada:

High taxes, not just on wages but on everything you purchase and sometimes yearly on certain things like the value assessed property tax, high commercial tax, high living tax, just high tax on everything like GST and HST.

The pay gap between struggling and comfortable is so far removed from reality that half the people in Vancouver can’t afford to leave Vancouver because it costs so much just to survive.

Services, all of them are expensive. I never once imagined an incoming call could be considered a charge.

I have once again filed a Claim in The Federal Court of Canada against the Royal Bank of Canada on January 21, 2017 and I don’t even know if it’s been accepted or declined to date!

These are a few of my thoughts on the evils and how my Country has failed me!

Article by Terry.K posted Febuary 5, 2017

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The Story of the Fourth of July

The Declaration of Independence  

smilie-chuckie2We celebrate American Independence Day on the Fourth of July every year. We think of July 4, 1776, as a day that represents the Declaration of Independence and the birth of the United States of America as an independent nation.

But July 4, 1776 wasn’t the day that the Continental Congress decided to declare independence (they did that on July 2, 1776).

It wasn’t the day we started the American Revolution either (that had happened back in April 1775).

And it wasn’t the day Thomas Jefferson wrote the first draft of the Declaration of Independence (that was in June 1776). Or the date on which the Declaration was delivered to Great Britain (that didn’t happen untilNovember 1776). Or the date it was signed (that was August 2, 1776).

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Authorisation for Parliamentarians

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“Consideration for others is the basis of a good life, a good society.” ~ Confucius

d75d52b474686317ef75a21c4099e5dfOn June 8, 2016 I signed a document named (Authorisation for Parliamentarians~ this form authorises the Canada Revenue Agency to release confidential client information to a member of Parliament or a senator and their staff) to give Federal MP Mr Greg Fergus authorisation to look into my CRA account issues.

Below is one of the documents Mr Fergus received from the CRA, I will call here “Doc #1”, this letter, one of many he forwarded to me, was issued on October 5, 2010 canada (1)which seems to have made it to the mainstream, This document with out a doubt indicates I did not paid my Taxes from 2004 to 2009, and I have a current outstanding balance of $25,160.66. 

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This document can be viewed in it’s entirety at this link “Canada Revenue demand letter

As we move along I am going to prove and show you that not only is the above a derogatory Canadadocument,  which is also evidence of defamation of my personal & financial characters. I did in fact pay my fair share, a fact of life that I have been always aware of and is everybody’s responsibility.

Canada (1) Payments I made to my Canada Revenue Account for the years 2007 & 2008:

  1. Payment date ~ July 25, 2007 ~ Amount of payment ~ $500
  2. Payment date ~ Mar 12, 2008 ~ Amount of payment ~ $500
  3. Payment date ~June 6, 2007 ~ Amount of payment ~ $500
  4. Payment date ~Nov 21, 2007 ~ Amount of payment ~ $500
  5. Payment date ~ Aug 22, 2007 ~ Amount of payment ~ $500
  6. Payment date ~Dec 12, 2007 ~ Amount of payment ~ $500

Below I have also supplied six (6) images of the payments, the front and back of each cheque that cleared my account during 2007 and 2008, totalling $3000,  my only concern is that there has been thousand’s of dollars I paid to “The Receiver General for Canada” that is not reflected on my account and nobody cares to find out where it went or should I say who’s pocket?


Below are images of payments I made to my CRA account in 2007 and, 2008

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Let me finish with this, the document below is the current status of my CRA account, or should I say, what I believe to be the status of my CRA account.

In April 2016 I filed my 2015 income Tax return the result of which I received a refund of canada-maple-leaf-stylized1$1175.00, with a outstanding balance of $457.48.

The legal system is designed in such a way that it is not accessible to the less fortunate, this has to change if we are ever going to accomplish peace and understanding for all humanity, justice should be accessible to everyone because this is the soul purpose of why it is so important and their determination to prevent me from obtaining employment, “Lack of funds = no legal representation = no Justice”.

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The Means To No End

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Commissionaires, Trusted everyday, everywhere ~ Really

On June 7, 2016 I when on-line to the Commissionaires Ottawa website and registered for an account to electronically purchase my background check which is required and requested by the employer for employment purposes. The process requires paying the fee ($63.23) which can be done on-line after which the certificate is Untitled-1forwarded to your email which takes any where from 24 to 48 hours.

After clicking submit I instantly received a message, according to the email my identity could not be verified through normal channels, I must appear at a physical Commissionaires outlet office to surrender two pieces of Government picture ID to obtain the required background check. Considering the commissionaires office was five minutes away I proceeded to 721 St. Joseph BLVD to complete the process.

This process is intended for persons living and working in Canada, there are two types of record checks as follows:

  1. ECPIC is a name and date of birth check only.
  2. or an RCMP certified fingerprint based record check.  

The next day on  June 8, 2016 I received an email message from the Commissionaires office woman-cop2which included a certificate stating the record check was REJECTED and read as follows:

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to: “terr.kinnn2@gmail.com” terr.kinnn2@gmail.com
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Please find attached the completed police certificate.
If your certificates states “fingerprints required” please click the link below to locate the nearest Commissionaires Location where you can have your digital fingerprints completed.
https://www.commissionaires.ca/en/offices
Regards,
Commissionaires Ottawa ID Team
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So again I called their office to inquire, I told the agent Mr Jacques Sorel that I did not request or require a certified fingerprint based record check that in fact I had only requested and required the “ECPIC name and date of birth check ”  because I was going to be working from home, the last time I acquired the Background check was Nov 21, 2010 from the OPP at a cost of $25.00.

Fingerprintforcriminologystubs2I believe he was not as forthcoming, honest and open as he should have been, I asked why he was refusing to sell me one of their products, also that I had the right to purchase any product I choose, that it was unfair to demand my fingerprints and or suggest which products were available to me, he responded with your only option is to come back in the office and he would take my digital fingerprints which would cost another $85.00 and forward them to the RCMP to have the record check completed.

At this time I inquired about getting a refund for the $63.23, he stated I would not get a refund because it was the charge for performing the search regardless if I received the certificate or not, the cost is non-refundable.

The result of which I loose $63.23 and still without a background check, no available funds to purchase the certified fingerprint based record check even if I wanted it, resulting in the lost of another employment opportunity due to no fault of my own.

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Kinden v RBC Royal Bank of Canada ~ Published on Mar 4, 2015

After much debate I have decided to move ahead with this action because now it’s a matter of principal. They first took all my money, then fired me from my job in 2009, defamed my name so I could not obtain employment and when I did manage to secure employment I was harassed and Mobbed at every job. Now I must take all necessary action to prevent them from destroying the lives of others.

The only question remaining is “Will the rule of Law apply this time?”

Today June 10, 2016, the reality is there won’t an end to this madness if I don’t do anything, since December 2014 twice I have attempted to file this action in the federal courts but it was rejected and returned to me, it may never surrender results but I will never find out if I don’t file it in the federal courts.

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Recent Developments in Ontario in Employment and Human Rights Law

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There were two interesting developments in Ontario this month in employment and human rights law, another step forward for Human Rights in Canada.

 Changes to the Occupational Health and Safety Act

smilie-trueBill 132 received Royal Assent. Important to our employer clients in Ontario are
the amendments to the Occupational Health and Safety Act (OHSA). Bill 132
now expands the definition of “workplace harassment” in the OHSA to include:

  • Engaging in a course of vexatious comment or conduct against a worker
    in a workplace that is known or ought reasonably to be known to be
    unwelcome; or
  •  Workplace sexual harassment

Bill 132 clarifies that reasonable action taken by an employer in managing or directing the workplace and workers is not workplace harassment.

Bill 132 also specifically defines “workplace sexual harassment” as:

  • Engaging in a course of vexatious comment or conduct against a worker in a workplace because of sex, sexual orientation, general identify or gender expressed, where the course of comment or conduct is known or ought reasonably to be known to be unwelcome; or
  • Making a sexual solicitation or advance where the person making the solicitation or advance is in a position to confer, grant or deny a benefit or advancement to the worker and the person knows or ought reasonably to know that the solicitation or advance is unwelcome.

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Bill 132 requires employers to develop written programs, which must be reviewed annually, to respond to issues of harassment and sexual harassment in the workplace. Further, employers must provide training to their employees on their workplace harassment policy and program.

The changes to the OHSA will come into force on September 8, 2016.

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AN OPEN STATEMENT TO THE PRIME MINISTER OF CANADA “MR JUSTIN TRUDEAU”

“A Life Survey ~ A Recognition of Truth”

“The confirmation of the termination of my employment by my employer today, brings a mild since of grief, as I am over whelmed with the feeling of finally being free from persecution which takes presidency right now”

Mr Trudeau

canadianflagI was recently made aware that you were an Advocate, knowing that, I would like at this time to share my thoughts with you on “Workplace Bullying, Harassment,  Discrimination and Violence!

Also when you were running for the leader of the Liberal Party of Canada, I voted for you and had the up-most respect and confidence in your leadership abilities, on Feb 5, 2014 I wrote an article, “Canada” where I expressed and gave the reasons why I believed in your leadership abilities.

Well I guess it’s official, the corruption of the entity in question this time “easyhome” making this, give or take one or two because I lost track, the 40th job I have been dismissed from due to no fault of my own, well I guess it is my fault because I choose to be me, not what was suggested I be, for this I have paid a hefty price.

This is an example of the hatred that is now embedded in our society, that needs to be seriously recolonized and acknowledged, Canadaa destructive brand of evil that has been silently endorsed by society and our governments, it has been given the supreme authority to thrive, leading to it’s acceptance and approval and it’s continued existence of an ever growing form of hatred, prejudice and violence in our workplaces and schools.

canadian-flag-heartSince I filed my first Human Rights complaint in 1998, again in 2012 with the latest being March 4, 2016. Timeless appearances in front of a judge pleading my case for survival and all request for closure or remedies has been time and time again ignored or denied.

For those of us looking for some sort of closure or results to stop the torture, it’s now obvious were not going to get it, not in Canada that’s for sure, our concerns has been and it’s safe to assume, considering! will always be in vain unless things change.

Again this time, “ONLY” out of concerns for my health and safety at work, to bring the undeniable facts of workplace violence to society’s attention which I have experienced for more than 20 years, I made my employer aware of the situation, but rather then help or try to resolve the matter, or honour my request for transfer to another store, I was not asking for a monetary remedy, I was asking for and still am, a transfer out of a poison and violent environment to a safe one, this was my only request and concern, “Safety” the reasons and my motive, but having to file another complain with a Human Rights Body to ask for the transfer from a poison and violent workplace only to protect myself, being continuously denied a transfer by the employer, this only confirms just how much hatred the employer actually has for me.

In closing, what I have learnt from a life time of experiences, awareness and acknowledgement of, not to have reliance on the justice system because it is non-existent, you are wasting your time and your life, speaking out has no result, I have time and time again over the course of the last 4 years asked, yes even you, our Prime Minister for assistance many times, whom at the time was not even a political leader, is this the result Canadian-flag-background-for-Canada-map (2)the lower class can expect?, I also begged the United Nations for assistance, time and time again but got no response to date, which in all honesty, only made life worst, and had no effect on for the end result at all.

We need to realize it now, there is no one who cares but most of all, there is no justice system you can rely on to assist or save you!

In seven days I will be 56 years old, I would be full of concern and fear knowing what I know now, if I were 20 years old today, probably the realization, a depressive one, a false since of relief, this I know, so I accept reality for what it is.

I leave you with this thought A Victim of Bullying-Revenge (Ottawa Massacre OC Transpo1999), is taking up arms the answer to put workplace flag-of-canadaviolence in check? as in what one Ottawa citizen had to do to resolve his issue of workplace bullying, violence and harassment in 1999 at OCTranspo?

I relocated to Gatineau on May 10, 2011, since then I have complied a list of 30 employers in the Ottawa region where through temporary work assignments from an employment agency in Ottawa, (Handyman Personnel) I experienced Bullying, Harassment, discrimination and workplace violence, I will be sharing that list!

We all have dreams, all different ones, my only dream has been for a peaceful and enjoyable life, to live free from persecution, free of a poisoned community!

To be put in a position of destruction, why not use my knowledge for your benefit?

Thank you

Melvin Kinden
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Gatineau, QC
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It’s Always Good To Make Others Laugh

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“If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.” ~ Pema Chodron

I want to take you back to Jan 10, 1977, it was a simple time, I was still in High School half way through the 10 Grade. I remember to this day, one incident that occurred that left me totally confused and hurt but a chuckle for sure.

I’m not really sure what day of the week it was but what happened as the end result of what I thought was a good deed totally shocked me, It goes like this.

670px-Revive-Dry-Play-Doh-Step-1.jpgThere were 29 students in my class, a even mixture of boys and girls, the day in question , I came into the procession of some play-doh, green to be exact. I’m sure we all remember play-doh, the magical things you could create with it was endless.

We were going through a transition with a substitute Teacher Mr Drover, whom we nick named Mr Grover, as a fill in, what we were doing was not logo_phpBBreally related to the suggested learning schedule and I was sort of bored,  anyway I took a small piece of the play-doh and rolled it into a little ball, small enough to fit up my nose while no one was noticing.

I started by pulling it out of my nose in a long string and putting the other end, in my mouth, when a couple of classmates noticed and started laughing, I quickly hid the play-doh as the teacher was reading and looked up at us, after just giving us a look, he continued to read.

sleeping-in-classI did it a few more times, trying different things with the play-doh with the end result, laughter, until the teacher looked up and caught me. He told me to bring my desk to the front of the class and turn it around facing the class, what he assumed to be punishment, I thought to be an audience, I’m in my glory.

Well needless to say I had the whole room in laughter, until he turned again and caught me and said in a firm voice, go stand out side the classroom door until the bell rings, I obeyed. After the period ended he took me to the office to see the principle, Mr Penny I believe at the time, anyway because it wasn’t my first visit to his office, he simply told me to leave, I was now suspend indefinitely, in other words don’t come back.

a.baa-wivf-wiv-wpeoiv-wpvn-wpeiuvbNow I’m walking home fearing what my parents would say and think of me, trying to sneak in but as soon as I got in the door I encountered my mother, she was full of questions, asking what are you doing home and why are you crying, what happened?

I asked her why she lied to me, she asked, how did I lie to you? I said, you told me “it’s always Good to make others laugh” she said that’s not a lie, more people will like you. I said, then I don’t understand, I made everybody laugh but I got kicked out of school, never to go back, and that’s why I’m crying (because I liked school).

17yearsold2My parents did resolve the matter, and I returned to school that September in the fall to complete my grade 10 all over again, but not without my parents begging for my reinstatement to the School Board.

In the end, after realizing my mistake, she said, it is good to make others laugh and never stop doing that, just be more aware of where you are and your surrounding.

I was disciplined many times during my years in high school by the staff, and every time was because I made others smile and laugh! I still believe laughter is the best medicine, how ironic that laughter was a bad thing and didn’t catch on in the schools over the years but it’s opposite did “BULLYING” a very bad thing, and nobody cared to resolve that!

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Pink

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me-pink2pinkfacePink is any of the colours between bluish red (purple) and red, of medium to high brightness and of low to moderate saturation. Commonly used for Valentine’s Day and Easter, Pink is sometimes referred to as “the colour of love“, “the artist Pink” and now “Pink Shirt Day” in Canada falling this year on Feb 22, 2017.

A little history on the use of the word Pink

The colour “Pink” was first recorded in the late 17th century. Although Pink is roughly considered just as a tint of red, most variations of Pink lie between red, white and magenta colors. This pink-smileymeans that the Pink’s hue is somewhat between red and magenta. Lucretius used the word to describe the dawn in his epic poem “On the Nature of Things” (De rerum natura). Roseus is a Latin word meaning “rosy” or “Pink.”

My Thoughts on Pink Shirt Day

I first heard about the boys in Nova Scotia in 2009 after discovering an article on-line, since which I started to follow. After a couple years and having the opportunity to  read and learn more from past articles in the archives of Pink Shirt Day, there was one detail that seem to have got lost since the first article I read. It’s all about awareness and prevention of Bullying above all else but I noticed that one main detail from the original story over time seemed to had somehow got omitted smilie=countryfrom the original story line, which added to the soul purpose of “Pink Shirt Day”. In the first few articles the Grade 9 boy who was being bullied for wearing a Pink shirt to school was a member of the “LGBTQI Community” and Two Straight boys stood up for him, this is a fine example of good character, something that all youth should know or hear about, it needs to be spoken out loud. Once realizing this I became more interested and involved and started to follow along. I soon realized I was right and not everyone was aware of the complete history that lead up to that day in 2007, we need not forget how and why “Pink Shirt Day” was started, and make sure history remembers.

I posted my first article “Speak out! Stop bullying: Wear pink on April 10” for “DayofPink” on April 10, 2013, after realizing just how far the “Pink Campaign” has actually travelled. streghtieIt’s now known around the world as “The International Day of Pinkthe International Day against Bullying, Discrimination, Homophobia, Transphobia, and Transmisogyny, this year falling on April 13, 2016.

I would like to close by commending the two youth, in their mid 20’s now and all those of you who have dedicated your time and efforts to the “Pink Shirt Day Campaign” and the fight against Bullying because “Awesome” don’t get any better then you!

Article posted Feb 21, 2016 – last updated Feb 21, 2017 by Terry.K

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THERE’S NO QUICK FIX TO WORKPLACE BULLYING – THAT’S WHY WE NEED COURAGE

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“The standard you walk by is the standard you accept.” ~ Australian of the Year David Morrison

Studies on workplace bullying suggest as many as 96% of people have been victims, and it leaves a permanent impression. Petrina Coventry outlines some things we can do about it.

Despite increasing measures to combat workplace harassment, bullies remain entrenched in organisations. Changes to law and regulation aimed to stamp out the practice altogether, but instead they have transformed bullying into an underground, subversive set of behaviours. Now hidden, these behaviours often remain unaddressed.

drawing-the-love-sign-smiley-emoticonIn others cases anti-bullying policies can actually work to support perpetrators. Where regulations specify what bullying is some people will cleverly use those rules as a guide to work around. Although these people are no longer bullying in the narrow sense outlined by policies or regulations, their acts of shunning, scapegoating and ostracism have the same effect. Rules that explicitly define bullying create exemptions, or even permissions, for behaviours that do not meet the formal standard.

Anti-bullying rules can help bullies to manipulate without being punished.

749e22b0b3ee4102fdaaaef442a2f74fThese insidious behaviours can remain undetected for long periods of time because they are more difficult to notice or prove. As Kipling Williams and Steve Nida argued in a 2011 research paper, “being excluded or ostracized is an invisible form of bullying that doesn’t leave bruises, and therefore we often underestimate its impact”.

“Ostracism” Consequences and Coping

thumbsOstracism means being ignored and excluded by one or more others. Despite the absence of verbal derogation and physical assault, ostracism is painful: It threatens psychological needs (belonging, self-esteem, control, and meaningful existence); and it unleashes a variety of physiological, affective, cognitive, and behavioral responses. Here we review the empirical literature on ostracism within the framework of the temporal need-threat model. 

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smileys-cz-7The bruises, cuts and blows are less evident but the internal bleeding is real. This new, psychological violence can have severe, long term effects. According to Williams, “Ostracism or exclusion may not leave external scars, but it can cause pain that often is deeper and lasts longer than a physical injury”. 

This is a costly issue for both individuals and organisations. No one wins. Individuals can suffer symptoms akin to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Organisations in which harassment occurs must endure lost time, absences, workers compensation claims, employee turnover, lack of productivity and the risk of costly and lengthy law suits as well as a poor reputation.

So why does it continue?

continueFirstbullies tend to be very good at office politics, working upwards and attack those they consider rivals through innuendo and social networks. Bullies are often socially savvy, even charming. Because of this, they are able to strategically abuse co-workers whilst receiving positive work evaluations from managers.

Secondly: policies aren’t the panacea they are sometimes painted as. If they exist at all they are often ignored or ineffective. Areport by corporate training company VitalSmarts showed only 7% of workers know someone who used an anti-bullying policy in their defence – for the majority, it didn’t work. Plus, we now know some bullies use policy to craft new and seemingly licit means of enacting their power.

Thirdly: cases often go unreported, undetected and unchallenged. This inaction rewards perpetrators and empowers them to continue behaving in the same way. This is confusing for the victim, who is stressed, unsure and can feel isolated in the workplace, undermining the confidence necessary to report the issue. Because of this, many opt for less confrontational path – hoping it will go away in time. It usually doesn’t.

We always need to be mindful of the possibility one of our colleagues is being subject to unacknowledged bullying.

zipWhat can you do if colleagues are being shunned and ostracised by peers or managers? The first step is not to participate. However, most people are already likely to be aware of this. More relevant for most people is the need not to become complicit by remaining silent. It’s not enough to abstain from being a bully ~ the onus is on you to take positive steps against harassment where you witness it.

Watch Australia’s Chief of the Army, Lieutenant General David Morrison’s message about unacceptable behaviour, this attitude is the ONLY attitude that should be acceptable for any ethical leader in a professional role, or as General Morrison’s states, “GET OUT” and go do something else with your life!

good-luck-2By doing nothing you allow psychological attacks to continue. In this way, silent witnesses bear partial responsibility for the consequences of bullying. Moreover, unless the toxic culture that facilitates bullying is undone, logic says you could be the next victim.

However, merely standing up to harassment isn’t likely to be a cure~all solution. Tackling workplace bullying is a shared responsibility. It takes regulators, managers and individuals in co-operation with law, policy and healthy organisational culture.

It’s not enough to abstain from being a bully – the onus is on you to take positive steps against harassment where you witness it.

your-wealthOrganisational leaders in particular need to express public and ongoing support for clearly-worded policies. In doing so, policies begin to shape and inform the culture of an organisation rather than serving only as stand~alone documents. It is critical managers understand bullying’s implications for culture, employee wellbeing and their own personal liability.

When regulation fails ~ the dilemma most frequently seen today ~ we need to depend on individual moral character. Herein lays the ethical challenge. “Character” is an underappreciated ethical trait in many executive education programs, but the moral virtues that form a person’s character are the foundation of ethical leadership.

What can we do about it? Challenging workplace bulling takes vigilance, awareness and courage.

A return to character might diminish the need for articles like this. In the meantime, workplace bullying provides us all the opportunity to practice courage.

the-silent=killers

Article by Professor Petrina Coventry ~ Feb 7, 2016 ~ As Industry Professor and Director of Development at the University of Adelaide, specialising in the area of organisational and business ethics. She is also a Vincent Fairfax Fellow.

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