Rebecca Gray on How to Stop a Bullying Boss


Rebecca Gray is a freelance blogger and an information security specialist for, a website that helps employers learn about the ins and outs of a thorough background check. Rebecca specializes in various types of information screenings, such as pre-employment background checks, criminal records, security etc. She writes for NoBullying about how to stop a bullying boss.


Bullying… it’s not just for school kids any more. Actually, it never was just for school kids. The sad truth is that some people never outgrow the need to bully, and bullying happens in the adult world all the time – including the workplace. It’s bad enough when coworkers bully each other, but when the boss is a bully, the problem is even worse.

Bullying Boss: A long-neglected problem

Most of us are pretty well educated about school bullying, particularly since tragic stories about its most devastating effects have been in the news so frequently in recent years. Fortunately there are many resources these days to help combat the problem: advocacy groups, forums, and web sites, not to mention celebrity spokespeople. All serve to make the public aware of the problem and motivate people to take action to prevent bullying and help those who are being bullied.

What is not being discussed nearly enough is that the adult versions of bullying can be every bit as devastating as the junior versions – particularly workplace bullying, as the victim’s livelihood can be at stake, as well as his or her physical and emotional health. In addition, the bullied adult usually doesn’t attract the sympathy given to a bullied child, the reasoning being that an adult should just be able to handle things without making a big deal of it.

If you’ve ever been a victim of workplace bullying, however, you know it’s rarely that easy. A civil response often doesn’t work with bullies, and you may not be able to escape the situation by finding another job or getting a transfer. The problem is compounded if it’s the boss who’s the one doing the bullying – a phenomenon that is more common than many people know (or are willing to acknowledge).

Yes, despite a whole generation’s worth of best-selling business books and seminars that teach enlightened management techniques, the bullying boss is far from an extinct species. To the contrary, a 2010 survey conducted by the Workplace Bullying Institute revealed that 35% of American workers – about 53.5 million people – had directly experienced workplace bullying. Another 15% said they had witnessed bullying in the workplace. Bullying was defined as repeated mistreatment by one or more employees that took the form of intimidation, threats, verbal abuse, humiliation or sabotage.

And according to the survey, about 72% of those were a bullying boss.

Unlike the blatant, sometimes clumsy bullying that kids commit against their peers, bullying by a boss can often take subtle forms that make it difficult to even define as bullying. Certainly there are the loud, obvious bully bosses who throw tantrums, go on tirades, or commit flagrant acts of discrimination or sexual harassment. These are the ones whose misdeeds are clearly worthy of legal action or termination. But many bosses commit more nebulous, insidious acts of bullying. They know how to stay under the radar and get around the laws that exist to protect workers. Some even make a point of seeking out meek victims who are less likely to speak up about the bullying.

But the problem isn’t hopeless. You can fight back a bullying boss – and win. Here are a few tips on how to deal with a bullying boss.

  1. Determine if the situation is fixable or worthy of a formal complaint or lawsuit. If your boss repeatedly makes sexual advances, shouts racial epithets at you, physically assaults you, or otherwise creates what is clearly a hostile workplace, you’re probably looking at grounds for a formal complaint with Human Resources, or perhaps even a lawsuit. Of course you need to document the incidents, and it helps to have witnesses – though many bosses are careful only to commit some of their more blatant acts when there aren’t any other witnesses. A large percentage of bullying bosses, however, may fall into the “manageable” category, meaning that you should try to deal with the problem in a more moderate fashion. In a best-case scenario you’ll be able to solve the problem and keep your job.
  2. Be compassionate and understanding. Don’t get us wrong. Bullying is never acceptable. But as is the case with abuse in general, most people who are bullies were bullied or abused themselves when they were growing up, and some may still be experiencing abuse or bullying from some source. A little compassion and understanding – and a willingness to look at things from your boss’s point of view – might just help you to be calmer and less reactive, so you can deal with the situation from a position of strength. And don’t forget the magic of positive reinforcement; you don’t want to be a sycophant or insincere, but when your boss does something nice or truly praiseworthy, don’t be stingy with the praise.
  3. Learn to be assertive and set boundaries. Back in the 1970s when the “assertiveness” movement first took hold, there were several best-selling pop-psychology books and numerous workshops that taught people how to say “no” and stand up for themselves. A couple of generations later, many people still have problems being assertive (or finding a balance between being assertive and aggressive or non-cooperative). The trick is to make it clear that while you are more than willing to go the extra mile at work, you are nobody’s doormat. Learning to say “no” when your boss makes unreasonable demands can actually earn you that boss’s respect and possibly defuse the bullying impulse.
  4. Become an expert at deflecting bullying episodes. Many bosses are episodic bullies who may be Mr. or Ms. Nice Guy/Gal much of the time, but turn into monsters when under stress. If you know your boss’s patterns well enough, perhaps you can act to deflect the episodes, such as doing something to lessen his or her stress – taking on a little extra work, canceling a non-essential meeting. Or at the very least, perhaps you can get out of the way. That doesn’t really solve the problem, but makes it more manageable.>/li>
  5. Get support– and outside help if necessary. Talk to your co-workers and other managers; chances are that some or most of these people are aware of the problem and may provide guidance or at least moral support. You may need to contact Human Resources or even outside counsel if all else fails. But if you truly need the job and the market doesn’t look so good, perhaps you can simply request a transfer. Just don’t think that you have to suffer in silence, because if you do, the problem will almost certainly just get worse. Don’t ever be afraid to seek help and support.

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Anti Bullying Day – Spreading from Canada to the World


“Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words will never harm me”

travis-davidAbove is an English rhyme for children that is reported to have first appeared back in the 1800s. While this line may be true on so many levels but the fact remains that our children are still suffering from hurtful actions and words, otherwise known as Bullying. That is why we need an anti-bullying day!

Not everyone has heard of the event, but Anti Bullying Day is starting to spread in popularity, much of the distribution being due to social media and the ability to explain the event via the Internet. Anti Bullying Day first began as a singular high school event in Nova Scotia, Canada, with a groups of students participating by choosing to wear a pink shirt to school. The color and date were chosen to signify a visual support to protest and stand against activities that constitute bullying. This event gained its approach when a boy in the ninth grade at the same school had previously been bullied by other teens for the simple innocent act of wearing a pink shirt one day when school started. The event organizers then used that incident as a catalyst to create 50 pink shirts and protest both the act and how the student was treated when bullied in 2007.

pinky2A year later, Anti Bullying Day gained greater exposure when the Premier of the province of British Columbia joined the movement and stated February 27 would from then on be Anti-Bullying Day. Since that time, except for 2009 when it was marked on February 2009, kids across Canada have been wearing a pink shirt or celebrating a pink shirt day for Anti-Bullying Day.

The event now takes different forms, depending which school is involved, producing shows with bands, crafts, speeches, educational programs, and community assistance activities. Every element involved focuses on some aspect of promoting anti-bullying and related messages. Everyone is welcome to attend and participate, and often many organization participants set up booths to speak with people attending one-on-one, distribute printed information, or to distribute free marketing products promotion anti-bullying or resources for helping victims of bullying.

Not surprisingly, many events also sell or even give away hats and shorts with anti-bullying messages or slogans, all being part of a general education effort to convert thinking and perspectives socially over time.

Pink Shirt friendsThe event is now widespread across Canada and is growing in size. For example, in the province of Manitoba, as many as 17,000 students engaged and participated in wearing pink against bullying activities. Much of the activity as well as the province’s government involvement was triggered after a student committed suicide in 2012 in British Columbia due to cyber bullying she suffered. Teachers in the province’s schools have been witnesses to a steady rise in bullying, particularly with the use of the Internet. Further, those that deal with the effects and grow up, still carry the scars afterwards, affecting their adulthood and socialization. So Manitoba’s efforts and their own involvement in Anti Bullying Day is now seen as beneficial both short-term and long-term.

The annual event is a perfect example of a grassroots effort to generate a response to bullying in school, particularly in the high school arena. The hope is that the same winkapproach can carry to more and more schools exponentially over time, making Anti Bullying Day an anticipated event annually. Not only does the event promote prevention and safety of students, it also pushes awareness, reminding students as well as adults in schools that everyone has a responsibility to stop bullying when it occurs, for themselves as well as for others who may not be able to speak up at the time its occurring.

Last updated June 15, 2017

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Does Cyber Harassment affect Employees? A Survey


Cyberbullying is becoming more and more prevalent. Children, celebrities and campaigners are among those who have experienced abuse, whilst evidence suggests that it is also becoming a problem in workplaces.

4727417010651136In the past decade communication technologies have increasingly infiltrated the workplace. For instance, UK office workers send and receive 10,000 emails per year according to researchers at Warwick Business School. Many of these will be generic work requests, a few might be impolite and some could be downright abusive.

There are reasons to believe that cyberbullying behaviours perpetrated in the organisational context are more subtle than those observed among children and adolescents. This is because employees are bound by regulations that prohibit explicit abuse aimed at co-workers and adults may have developed the capacity to disguise bullying behaviours. Despite this, workplace cyberbullying can still cause harm as researchers have linked it to low job satisfaction, mental strain and intention to quit the organisation.

Examples of workplace cyberbullying can include online threats, overly critical emails and the distribution of embarrassing pictures and personal information. Aspects of computer mediated communication mean that workplace cyberbullying differs from offline workplace bullying in several key ways. For instance, it is possible for perpetrators to remain anonymous, the perpetrator and victim are often in different locations when messages are distributed and cyber acts can be seen by a much larger audience. Furthermore, certain acts of cyberbullying are more permanent than the transience of offline bullying acts and they can be experience by employees outside of the work environment.

Before in-depth research can address workplace cyberbullying it is critical to develop valid and reliable tools to measure it. This is the focus of a study being run by researchers at the University of Sheffield. If you are employed and would like to take part in the study please click on the link below.

Researchers from the University of Sheffield are working with the support of No Bullying to identify how negative behaviours conducted through technology can impact employee health, job satisfaction and working relationships. People are increasingly using technology to communicate with their colleagues. It is therefore important to investigate how negative technology-mediated behaviours affect employees.

If you are employed and would like to contribute to knowledge on cyberbullying within the context of work, we would like to invite you to take a short survey on negative technological experiences, job satisfaction, health and work engagement.

To obtain data that will give a casual indication of how negative technological behaviours affect people, we need to collect data now and again in six months’ time. Therefore we would like to invite you to complete this survey now as well as a second survey that will be distributed in six months.

This study has been ethically approved by the Sheffield University Management School. All responses are anonymous and strictly confidential. You are also free to withdraw from the study at any time by closing the web page. To participate in the study click on this link.

images (10)Learn more about the Study and do take some time to participate in it.smiley-wearing-glasses-reading-a-book

Sam Farley is a doctoral researcher at Sheffield University Management School – email twitter: @sam_farley3

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Searching for Suicide Methods


Suicide-Methods1-642x336Youth suicide rates are sadly out of control. Research from the Center for Disease Control (CDC) says among young people, suicide is third leading cause of their death. About 4,600 young people, between the ages of ten to twenty-four, die from suicide each year.

Death is not the only result from a suicide attempt, because more people survive than die. Around 147,000 youth end up in hospital emergency rooms each year with a self-inflicted injury. Some survivors have permanent damage from the suicide attempt, such as having a brain injury or paralysis. Those who survive have a higher risk of attempting suicide again.

Suicide methods statistics say forty-five percent use guns, forty percent use hanging or suffocating, and eight percent use drug overdoses or poison.

The CDC reports many young people are thinking about suicide. A survey across America found sixteen percent of high school students had seriously contemplated suicide, thirteen percent had made a plan, and eight percent attempted suicide.

Suicide affects all youth. Males die from suicide more frequently than females, but females make more attempts. Deaths from suicides, for ten to twenty-four year-olds, were eighty-one percent boys and nineteen percent girls. Native American youth have the highest suicide rates. Hispanic youth report more suicide attempts than blacks or Caucasians. Suicide is especially impactful for those who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgendered (LGBT). Bullying is a major cause of youth suicide, when those under attack see no other way out. Many adults question why don’t these depressed youth seek help or reach out. Often they do reach out, but others ignore calls for help or do not take them seriously. In the case of bullying, often a call for help has no effect whatsoever on the daily torments these youth are facing.

The Search for Suicide Methods for Teens and Youth Today, Shocking!

There are certain risk factors, which may influence whether a young person attempts suicide. Just because the risk factors exist, does not mean they will attempt suicide. Nevertheless, these are the warning signs as published by the CDC:

  • A previous attempt of suicide
  • Suicide of another family member
  • Mental health problems and depression
  • Using drugs or alcohol
  • A life event, which is extremely stressful
  • A major loss
  • Easy access to firearms or other suicide methods
  • Other youth’s suicidal behavior (copy-cat syndrome)
  • Going to jail

If any of these risk factors are present, there are things to do to help a suicidal young person.

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The Demon’s

This is my first video in the Demon series of Workplace Bullying, Harassment, Sexual Assault and Assault.

The Hearing after two years has been scheduled for Sept 17, 2014 and yesterday my lawyer decides she is to busy with another case, I wonder Why?

Justice? where? as I always said there is no Justice in Canada

Stay tuned as I will be taking a break from my regular routine as these (MY LIFE) has precedence now… lotsa luv

To the Newly elected Premier of Ontario I hereby say to you, I am shocked that you are not appalled as 80% of my concerns are within the confines of your state (province).

I lived the majority of my life from 1983 to 2009 in the province of Ontario, the only time I felt secure was when I lived in the gay village in downtown Toronto, once relocating north to Downsview after which I spent the majority of my life fighting my my rights.

I was sexually assaulted, Bullied, Harassed and fired from my employment of six years because in 2004 I would not let Equifax, Royal Bank, Rogers, Bell etc. and select other financial institutions steal money from me by bringing my concerns to a court of law whereas I received a judgement but lost everything anyway.

So is the moral of this situation, I should have done nothing and let them steal my vehicle and money because in their eyes I was just a “FAG”, is that what it is to be LGBT in Canada? to just shut up and say or do nothing or else? is this what “JUSTICE” in Canada is based on? because after 30 years it’s the only conclusion I can draw!!!


Investigative Reporting


Justin Trudeau, what a fool I was to put my trust in him and his party! a bunch of Bullies, calling my home every day for a week and hanging up when I answered, and that’s just the beginning of what he’s put me through here in Quebec these last few years.

Out of guilt and a cover up, he paraded around hiding in plain site in the gay pride celebrations which was also a ploy to get your votes.

Don’t be fooled like I was, he really suffers from homophobia!!!

He is also just another greedy politician looking to get rich and an immature spoiled brat, what an insult to the great Mr Trudeau.

Canada Would be in serious trouble if he gets elected and I’m going to do everything in power to see that don’t happen, it can’t happen, as much as I would hate to see it but I’d rather see Harper reelected!!

I will tell you now I have 1000’s of followers and, people are afraid!

I also believe that the next room here in the house is rented by a member of the local police.
A guy late 20’s who only comes maybe by once every couple of weeks, he has been living here for 6 months.

The last time he came by or home was two weeks ago and he showed up or was chased by the local Police regarding a personal issue of his, I heard them talking but stayed in my room.

They eventually knocked on my bedroom door for the house phone number, which of course I gave them but recorded the conversation as I record all the time now.

Call me paranoid but thats a lot of money, to pay $400 a month rent for a room and only come by once every two or three weeks, kinda strange don’t you think for a college student on a training allowance? I do.

Just last weekend there was another guy who was only here for two days, the first time I saw him he wanted to access my computer to get my IP address, which I told him nobody touches my machine, as that’s the way to gain access to my computer, I’m guessing he was from one of the service providers.

He told me during the conversation the best place for me was in alberta, I stayed in my room until I was told he was gone.

Remember I am willing to die so whatever you do to me I will post it and maybe I will get lucky and you will honor my wish.

Was I ever mistaken about the Liberal Party of Canada, next year 2015 vote for the Green Party if you value this great Country of ours!

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End Gay Bullying

nobullying_logoV02End-Gay-Bullying-642x336Gay bullying is particularly difficult to address because kids are searching for their identity in adolescence. Bullying based on sexual orientation can be particularly damaging. Yet these students get bullied at a higher rate than their heterosexual peers.The types of bullying lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) students suffer are varied and some types are more common:

The places in which gay bullying take place also are varied, but the bulk take place common areas:

  • 39 percent in locker rooms
  • 38.8 percent in bathrooms
  • 32.5 percent in gym class.

This type of harassment typically involves witnesses, as they are carried within school grounds. Yet witnesses do not come forward. Further student education may change that, but the situation also requires greater vigilance from teachers, coaches, administrators and support staff.

As with any type of bullying, the damage of gay bullying goes beyond emotional and spills out onto academics.

Gay bullying affects victims’ school attendance:

  • 29.8 percent reported skipping a class at least once
  • 31.8 percent missed a day of school in the past month due to safety fears

Missed days and emotional distress affects these students’ grades. Students who reported being harassed due to their sexual orientation had a lower grade point average, 2.9, than their lesser harassed peers with an average grade point average of 3.2.

The good news is that of the data that has been collected, school efforts to improve the school environment for LGBT students is having a positive outcome. The 2011 National School Climate Survey reports decreased levels of biased language and victimization. Teens surveyed also reported greater access to LGBT resources and support. The increased efforts for fighting gay bullying on behalf of school translate into a safer school environment for students. The 2011 survey had 8,584 student respondents from all 50 states and the District of Columbia.

Schools around the country are working to make improvements, but much more needs to be done to end gay bullying.

  • Only 45.7 percent of LGBT students reported having a Gay-Straight Alliance at school.
  • A mere 16.8 percent learned positive representations in school about LGBT historical figures.
  • Lamentably, only 54.6 percent could identify six or more supportive educators
  • Only 7.4 percent said their school included gay bulling in their anti-bullying initiatives.

The task for the community is to push schools to do more. Students, teachers, administrators and parents can do more to help eradicate gay bullying. The actions below are a step in right direction.

  • Consider lobbying your school to implement Gay-Straight Alliances, which help bridge understanding among students, focusing tolerance. If a student cannot gain the attention of administrators, seek assistance from supportive school staff. You may want to seek support from the Equal Access Act which protects the right to form a GSA. right to form a GSA under the Equal Access Act.
  • Youth can work with student councils to include gay tolerance in their schools anti-bullying policies. If students do not want to stand out by spearheading these initiatives, an anonymous suggestion can be made or a supportive staff member can make the suggestion to the student council.
  • Parents and teachers can urge the school to schedule a discussion at an assembly or an after school activity about tolerance. Suggest a guest speaker from your community of from the media.
  • Seek support from a teacher, coach or administrator to start an organization on campus that offers students support and resources, such as the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN). Contact these groups to send educational materials and resources that can be distributed to students.
  • School administrators should consider an anonymous suggestion box, where students can feel uninhibited to make anonymous bullying reports.
  • Adults should be mindful of protecting student privacy. The youth may not want a teacher to disclose LGBT issues to their parents or vice versa.

Adults and students must be aware of their rights. While federal civil right laws to not protect harassment based on sexual orientation, the bullying may target a particular student’s non-conformity to gender norms, which then falls under sexual harassment that is covered under Title IX. Learn more about federal civil rights laws here.

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Gay Rights (Human Rights for LGBTQ people)

Defining “Gay Rights”

Let’s begin by defining what we mean by “Gay Rights.” This particular word combination is bandied about quite freely by people on both the conservative and the progressive sides of the aisle, both in politics and in church; and we must therefore step back and look at the origin of the terms “human rights” and “civil rights”. These kinds of linguistic terms started to come into being around the time of the democratic revolutions in the United States and in France; and they intended a radical equality between all (sic) in a way that hadn’t been seen in human societies for hundreds of years, if ever. As is said in the U.S. Declaration of Independence, “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights; that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

History of the Movement

For nearly 250 years, churchmen and politicians, philosophers and activists have debated not only on what all of these unalienable Rights should include, but also who is to be included in the definition of all “men”. When Jefferson penned these words, it did not include women or slaves or indentured servants. (Male slaves were counted as 3/5 of a person in order to determine ratios for states’ political representation.) Slowly, over the centuries, other non-male, non-white people were recognized as citizens and given the right to vote. At least in theory, black men became citizens with the 14th amendment and had the right to vote with the 15th amendment after the Civil War. Women did not obtain the right to vote until the 19th amendment in 1920.

“Human rights” began to take on a global dimension after the 1899 Hague Convention that implied all human beings have inborn rights independent of the government that seeks to control them. This movement was nourished both by the anti-colonialist movements in Africa and by the labor reform movements of Europe and the United States in the early part of the twentieth century.

Other groups of people have been denied their “human rights” (however we choose to understand that broader term) for reasons other than gender and skin color. During the ‘60’s and ‘70’s there was a broad flowering of many human rights movements, and during that time the seeds for “Gay Rights” were sown. Those who found themselves outside of the socially-constructed U.S. norm of “heterosexual, homoracial marriages” were often denied equal protection of the law in many arenas: law enforcement, random prosecution of homosexual acts, employment discrimination, and family law, to name a few.

In 1969 a police raid of the Stonewall Inn “gay” nightclub in Greenwich Village, NY, set off three days’ of riots which were the spark to unite a national public movement to gain equal rights for those who defined themselves as homosexual, or in any other way outside the narrow confines of “sexual normalcy”. In the last forty years of this movement, the accepted terminology has moved from “Gay” to “Gay and Lesbian”, to “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered” and most recently to LGBTQ, adding the category of Questioning for those who cannot fit themselves in any of the other four descriptions.

Hereafter this article will refer to “GLBTQ rights”

Who Said It?

The next thing to consider, in informing yourself how to understand this, is WHO used the term, “Gay Rights” or “Gay and Lesbian Rights” or “GLBTQ rights”.

If you heard it from a politician or a church person, you will probably have some idea of that person’s leanings, conservative or progressive. In general, conservative politicians – like conservative churchmen – have disparaged the concept of “Gay Rights” because they do not believe that any sexual behavior outside the “heterosexual” is natural and/or God-approved. In fact, many believe that any sexuality outside of “normalcy” between a man and a woman is a learned or conditioned behavior, rather than an inborn mostly genetic trait. For that reason, they are particularly concerned that it will be “learned” from an older “homosexual” who is also often wrongly assumed to be a pedophile.

In particular, conservative churchmen will often recommend to a family a “rehabilitation” program, which is supposed to help the “afflicted” family member to relearn “natural” sexual behavior by reconditioning. Not only do these programs have a very low “success” rate, but they also frequently lead to a precipitous lowering of self-esteem in the individuals who have been forced to undertake them and even led to a marked increase in suicidality. (reference)

If you heard it from a progressive politician or church person, you probably heard either “LBGTQ rights” or perhaps “Gay and Lesbian Rights” which usually indicates that they are supportive of obtaining civil rights for people who identify in this way.

If you heard it from your son or daughter, it might have been in the context of their “coming out” to you as someone who has discovered themselves to be in this category, and who may be trying to assert their civil rights to persuade you or some other person in authority that they, like all human beings, deserve their rights as a human being.

What are Civil Rights for LGBTQ people?

Nationally, they are the same as for any other citizen of the United States. The ACLU states “No LGBT person should experience discrimination in employment, housing, or in businesses and public places, or the suppression of their free expression or privacy rights.” Additionally, the ACLU is proactively strengthening and seeking to create state and federal legislation protecting rights for those of any sexual preference and gender identity.

Which of the rights of U.S. citizens are most often violated by practice or by regressive legislation for LGBTQ people? Here is a partial list:

  1. The right to marry
  2. The federal government accords 1,138 benefits and responsibilities based on marital status (online source). These include benefits like receiving unpaid leave to care for an ill spouse without losing one’s job; visitation rights in the hospital; social security survivor benefits; the right not to testify against one’s spouse, among many others. Up until this time, only nine states and the District of Columbia have legalized same sex marriage.

  3. The right to be safe from hate crimes
  4. Anti-hate crime laws exist in the District of Columbia and 47 states. However, in only 24 states and D.C. is sexual orientation and gender preference included in the legislation. In the remaining states, adult or minor LGBTQ people are not protected from hate crimes directed against them because of their identity, whether such bullying be of a minor or major variety, by law.

  5. The right to be free from discrimination in finding employment
  6. The federal Employment Nondiscrimination Act was passed by congress in 2007. During the hiring process, it is now illegal to exclude qualified workers on the basis of sexual orientation. This law has yet to impact many of the more conservative states in practice.

  7. The right to be protected from harassment and discrimination in school
  8. 75 percent of students have no state laws to protect them in the classroom. In public high schools, 97 percent of students report regularly hearing homophobic remarks from their peers.

  9. The right to be cared for by a parent until the age of majority
  10. Between 20 and 40% of 1.6 million homeless youth (estimated) identify as LGBTQ. In one study, 26 percent of gay teens who came out to their parents or guardians were told they must leave home.

    The above-mentioned rights are only a sampling of the ways in which LGBTQ youth and adults do not receive the full protection of the law and its agencies in a uniform or protected manner. The list of violations to LGBTQ civil rights is very long.

What are the symbols associated with the movement?

In addition to the terminology of LGBTQ, the rainbow or the rainbow flag is widely recognized as a shorthand symbol for both the movement and its successful access to civil rights. In many places, “Pride Week” is celebrated with a parade or other public gathering in order to make publicly visible the existence of LGBTQ people and to affirm their hard-won civil rights.

Supportive Organizations (for members of LGBTQ communities, their families, and allies)

There are many excellent organizations helping to protect and legislate and heal those who have suffered from violation of human rights due to LGBTQ status. Here are links to the two oldest and most effective of organizations; do your own investigation online and if you have questions about any organization you discover, you can ask about it from these two sites


One of the earliest organizations was PFLAG, originally known as Parents and Friends and Family of Lesbians and Gays. Now it chooses to use only the acronym PFLAG in order to be completely inclusive. It is the U.S.’s largest organization for family and allies of LGBTQ people, having more than 350 chapters throughout the country and more than 200,000 members and supporters and works not only for human rights but also to create support groups and resources.

The Human Rights Campaign (

This organization has more than 1.5 million members and supporters nationwide. Its mission is to ensure LGBTQ people of their basic equal rights so they can be “open, honest, and safe at home, at work, and in the community.”

Status of LBGTQ rights globally

Many other countries have begun to create legislation to protect the rights of their LGBTQ citizens. However, other nations have an abysmal record in terms of such civil rights. In some countries, a homosexual act between two consulting adults is still an offense punishable by death.

In December 2010, United Nations Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon gave a landmark speech on LGBT equality in New York calling for the worldwide decriminalization of homosexuality and for other measures to tackle violence and discrimination against LGBT people. “As men and women of conscience, we reject discrimination in general, and in particular discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. Where there is a tension between cultural attitudes and universal human rights, rights must carry the day,” said Moon.

Based on the Universal Declaration of Human Rights and subsequently agreed international human rights treaties, the legal obligations of States to safeguard the human rights of LGBTQ people are well established. International human rights laws include the right to life, security of person and privacy, the right to be free from torture, arbitrary arrest and detention, the right to be free from discrimination and the right to freedom of expression, association and peaceful assembly.

Here is the mission of the United Nations with regard to this concern:

  • Protect individuals from homophobic and transphobic violence.
  • Prevent torture and cruel, inhuman and degrading treatment.
  • Repeal laws criminalizing homosexuality.
  • Prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity.
  • Safeguard freedom of expression, association and peaceful assembly for all LGBT people.

Relationship of GLBTQ civil rights within faith-based organizations

Every faith-based organization has its own beliefs and practices with regard to GLBTQ rights and practices. Many traditional, conservative churches, synagogues, and mosques are opposed to allowing full participation by those who self-identify as LGBTQ. In contrast, many faith-based organizations are specifically supportive of LGBTQ people and permit them to be full members of the organization and even, in some cases, to be ordained. One denomination was actually created FOR LGBTQ members: it is called the Metropolitan Community Church and was established in 1968 with the express purpose of promoting a primary, positive ministry to gays, lesbians, bisexual, and transgender persons. Other specifically gay-friendly Christian denominations include the Unitarian Universalist and the United Church of Christ It is easy to determine the faith-based organization’s position on GLBTQ rights by examining their website.

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Sexual Orientation Bullying : Definition and Prevention

July 29, 2014
What Is Sexual Orientation?

Sexual orientation is a person’s sexual identity as it relates to the gender to which they are attracted. Sexual identity terms have been abbreviated and are now commonly referred to as LGBTQ or the LGBTQ community.

LGBTQ does not include heterosexual individuals. Heterosexual or “Straight” individuals are attracted to the opposite sex.

Homosexual terms are each represented by a corresponding letter of the alphabet:

L – Lesbian – woman who is attracted to females.

G – Gay – male who is attracted to males

B – Bisexual – male or female attracted to both sexes.

T – Transgender – A person whose self-identity doesn’t conform to conventional typing. An example would be a person whose gender was designated at birth based genitalia but feels that the true self is the opposite sex or a combination of both sexes. (Non-identification or non-presentation as the sex one was assigned at birth).

Q – Queer – An umbrella term for persons who feel outside of norms in regards to gender or sexuality but do not wish to specifically self – identify as L, G, B or T.

What Is Sexual Orientation Bullying

When a child or teen is being bullied because of gender associations or preferences of any type it is referred to as sexual orientation bullying.

Bullying is an aggressive and unwanted behavior inflicted upon a vulnerable child or teen and is usually repetitive. It can be physical, emotional, verbal, or written as a text message or email. Foul or explicit language, hitting, tripping, ignoring, staring, pushing, name calling, stalking, are all examples of bully tactics.

“Cyberbullying” has become a convenient way for kids and teens to hide behind a screen while sending texts or emails containing defamatory, derogatory, or ridiculing content.

Gender identity and LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender or questioning) bullying begins at a very young age. When children who bully others perceive gender-related differences in another child, bullies will aggressively target that child (or children) with the intention of hurting or overpowering him or her.

Why Does It Happen?

Sex is assigned as male or female at birth based upon observation of the baby’s genitalia. From there, the baby is described as a boy or girl usually for the rest of its life. From the moment of birth, the child’s name, clothing colors, clothing styles, toys, haircuts, and mainstream-acceptable behavior is predominantly based upon the child’s assigned gender.

At a very early age, children are influenced by parents and teachers to recognize commonly accepted differences between boys and girls.

However, when a child or teen behaves in a way that deviates from the established gender norms h/she is often labeled by other children who are uncomfortable with or uneducated about the differences. The vulnerable child becomes a magnet for bully activity.

A bullying child doesn’t need much of a reason to harass another child and one with obvious differences is a standing target. Sometimes the bullying child doesn’t even know why he or she does it. Underlying issues within the child that have not been identified may be causing him or her to act out.

Sexual Orientation Bullying Happens Most Often in School

Bullying of all types can happen anywhere there’s a group of kids. It happens at school, church, youth groups, after-school activities, sports teams, in the community; bullying can take place anywhere and has no boundaries. Sexual orientation bullying happens most often in school.

School should be a place where kids are safe but unfortunately, it is not the case. Numerous surveys have been conducted with students, teachers and parents about bullying and harassment of LGBTQ students and the results are alarming.

“According to the gay bullying statistics from the (LGBT) community, about one fourth of all students from elementary age through high school are the victims of bullying and harassment while on school property because of their race, ethnicity, gender, disability, religion or sexual orientation. Unfortunately the primary reason for bullying is due to something that may set them apart from the norm, and that includes sexual orientation.”

  • Bullied kids tend to develop difficulties with their studies and have trouble developing peer relationships. The situation is compounded and kids may become depressed and have thoughts of suicide.
  • The results of one report suggested that 26 percent of male 12th graders who were the target of LGBTQ bullying had experienced thoughts of suicide within the previous year.
  • Whether or not suicide and depression is higher amongst LGBTQ adolescents and teens has not yet been fully proven but most parents and school officials believe it to be true.
  • Being on the receiving end of bullying in any form is damaging in some way to every child struggling with his or her identity.
  • We should never take bullying lightly. Any action that causes an individual to feel threatened, shamed, or afraid for any reason should be recognized as an unacceptable behavior. Parents, teachers and adults in general should never turn the other cheek to the bad behavior of a bully.

How Can We Help LGBT Kids and Teens Feel Safe

LGBT kids can help themselves tremendously by building strong connections with their parents and families, peers, teachers, and clergy. They should seek….continue reading

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Adults Being Bullied

4801879238246400London, UK (PRWEB) July 24, 2014

Adults-Being-Bullied-642x336Instances of adults being bullied are more common than people think. While the everyday person associates the word “Bullying” with school children and teens. The image of bullying is more distorted and affects people of all ages and walks of life. NoBullying writes today about adults being bullied.
An adult being bullied is not that uncommon, in fact, adult bullying happens in colleges, workplaces, social organizations and even in the form of relationship bullying, spousal abuse and homosexual bullying.
By definition, a bully is someone who uses force, threats or other means to control or manipulate another person. Bullying tactics are used by individuals of all ages, sexes, genders as well as ethnic and religious persuasions. Adults are bullied for financial gain, revenge or to assert the bully’s power and control. Whatever the circumstances, the results can cause lasting damage to the victims’ emotional, mental and physical health.
Caregivers, members of management in the workplace, law enforcement or individuals in any other environment can all be guilty of bullying at one time or another. Even individuals who may not normally be apt to try and manipulate or harass others are guilty of bullying at some point and time. It’s human nature. When a person gets angry, frustrated or upset, they can lash out at others. Individuals who are the objects of their outburst can easily become victims.
A major factor in the development of the bully’s psyche is growing up with bullying parents, that is, parents who berate their children for several reasons, such as the desire for them to excel or develop or as a reflection of their own stress. A violent abusive home raises adults who think bullying is a normal part of everyday life.
Children can be repeatedly told that those behaviors are wrong, but when they watch adults continually act in a bullying fashion, the actions speak louder than words. Children often mimic the acts of adults and will begin to bully at a young age. Unless the patterns are stopped when they are first noticed, they can continue into high school and last throughout their lifetime.
Adults who use bullying tactics on a regular basis often choose “targets” just like children and teen bullies do. They will often choose victims who are depressed, have low self-esteem, feel as if they are worthless and normally have few friends or no support system. An adult bully will often chip away at their victim’s defenses by making verbal comments that are intended to belittle or degrade. Over time the continued insults and slurs can make the victim feel worthless and inferior.
Macartan Mulligan, Co-Founder of, said, “Bullying isn’t strictly about teens and children, sometimes bullying can be in the form of a workplace bully or an abusive spouse.”
He added that parents and teachers should make a point to educate the younger generations about the sad outcome of bullying online and offline. According to Mulligan, it is quite imperative to press for more firm laws condemning all acts of bullying and harassment. features many pages dedicated to parents, teens, teachers, health professionals as well as posts related to cyber safety and the latest news about law making concerning curbing Bullying worldwide as well as inspirational Bullying Poems and famous Bullying Quotes.
The website regularly updates its bullying statistics and cyber bullying statistics as it is essential to understand how widespread the bullying epidemic is. It also regularly runs cyber bullying surveys and questionnaires to get recent updated statistics on everything related to cyberbullying.
He also added that anyone suffering from bullying in any form or way can always find advice and help on the NoBullying website – but if anyone is suffering from severe bullying or cyber bullying, the best thing is to talk to someone locally – a parent, teacher or local organization that has been set up to help with specialized councilors to deal with this topic. continue reading…..