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“It was so precious for me to see people really change their mindset about the problems they face. That’s what I want for my people.” ~ Sarah Rogers, Elder and Cultural Support Worker, Inuvik

Part of being human is getting hurt. Sometimes we hurt others; sometimes others hurt us. We even hurt ourselves. Holding onto this hurt and allowing it to dictate the course of our lives can have negative long-term consequences. Forgiveness can change the shape of our journeys. It can release anger, fear, judgement and resentment, and open the door to peace and a positive future.

FULL CIRCLE offers customized forgiveness programs for hurt people and communities. We excel in creating safe, experiential opportunities for people of all ages to explore what forgiveness means—and doesn’t mean—in their lives.  We also consult with non-profits, employers, community groups and schools interested in restorative solutions to repairing harm and peace building.

Who We Are

foundersWe, Katy Hutchison and Shannon Moroney, have walked the difficult and complex paths to forgiveness in our own lives. Now we work together to help our clients do the same.

We are Canadian women affected by violent crime, best-selling authors, sought-after public speakers, and advocates of restorative justice. We are volunteers with Leave Out Violence (LOVE), members of the international Forgiveness Project and we share our stories around the world. We first partnered in 2009 to create the F-Word, an experiential workshop designed to give participants an opportunity to explore what Forgiveness means and its transformative potential for healing. Since then, we have brought our life-changing programs to diverse settings in communities around the world.  

SHANNON MORONEY  was a teacher and counsellor when her husband kidnapped and boy orange3sexually assaulted two women in 2005. After personally discovering the lack of help available for families of criminals, and the vast ripple-effect of violent crime, she became a restorative justice advocate who speaks internationally on the topic.

In 2011, Shannon published her memoir Through the Glass, which became an instant national bestseller and was nominated for several awards, including the Governor General’s Award. In 2015, she co-produced “In Harm’s Way” for CBC Radio’s The Current. She lives in Toronto where she is remarried and the mother of twins.

KATY HUTCHISON was widowed and left with four year old twins following the murder of her husband in 1997. In meeting with the young man responsible, she learned that the only way through the trauma was by forgiveness and education.

Her memoir, Walking After Midnight (2006), was endorsed by the Dalai Lama and inspired Lifetime Network’s movie “Bond of Silence” (2010). Katy received the Me to We Social Action Award (2005) and was nominated for the Courage to Come Back award (2003). In 2013 she delivered a TEDx talk on rethinking education. Katy lives in Victoria. She speaks internationally on social responsibility & restorative justice issues.

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The Desmond Tutu Peace Foundation

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“If you want Peace, you don’t talk to your friends, you talk to your enemies” ~ Desmond Tutu

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Mission

The mission of the Desmond Tutu Peace Foundation is to use Desmond Tutu’s life and teachings to inspire young people to build a world of peace within themselves, peace between people, and peace among nations.

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Vision

The Desmond Tutu Peace Foundation envisions a world in which everyone values human dignity and our interconnectedness. Real peace will prevail when there is a culture of peace in red-rosethe USA and around the world.  That culture originates in the hearts and minds of our youth, the future leaders and peace-makers of the world. Our programs are based on the teachings of Desmond Tutu who has dedicated his life to reshaping conversations about peace, equality, and forgiveness.

The philosophy of Ubuntu guides us with its meaning of We are all connected. What affects one of us affects us all.

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The Desmond Tutu Peace Foundation is the only nonprofit organisation in North America incorporated by Archbishop Emeritus Desmond Tutu.

Archbishop Desmond Tutu is a South African Anglican cleric who became one of the central leaders of the global peace movement. An outspoken defender of human rights and sister3campaigner for the oppressed, Desmond Tutu’s eloquent advocacy and brave leadership lead to the end of South African apartheid in 1993 and the installation of Nelson Mandela as the nation’s first black President. The Archbishop has dedicated his red-roselife to reshaping conversations about peace, equality and forgiveness. In 1984, Tutu earned the Nobel Peace Prize for his efforts as a global peace maker and now devotes his time with the Desmond and Leah Tutu Legacy Foundation and the Desmond Tutu Peace Foundation to teaching youth the powerful role and voice they play in creating a more compassionate and peaceful world.

Since the demise of apartheid, Desmond Tutu has been active in the defence of human rights and uses his high profile to campaign for the oppressed. He has campaigned to fight HIV/AIDS, tuberculosis, poverty,racism, sexism, the imprisonment of Chelsea Manning, homophobia and transphobia.

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He received the Nobel Peace Prizein 1984; the Albert Schweitzer Prize for Humanitarianism in 1986; the Pacem in the-book-of-joy2Terris Award in 1987; the Sydney Peace Prize the-best-of-forgivingin 1999; the Gandhi Peace Prize in 2007; and the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 2009.

He has also authored several books including the Book of Forgiving which he co-wrote with his daughter, the Reverend Mpho Tutu, and the forthcoming Book of Joy which he is co-authoring with his friend the Dalai Lama.

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They are our family – LGBT Community

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Other Video’s from the Desmond Tutu Peace Foundation

Archbishop Desmond Tutu on Forgiveness

Archbishop and Friend Dalai Lama

We Are Human Only Through Relationships: UBUNTU

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Michelle Obama, Archbishop Tutu Exercise with Children -South Africa

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smilie-peaceThere are so many ways to get involved in our Peace3 Conversations. Whether in person or online, Peace3 has been set up to include your voice!

Host a Peace3 event: If you would like to sponsor a Peace3 Conversation at your school, let us know! To find our more about hosting a Conversation on Peace, contact brian@tutufoundationusa.org.

Attend a Peace3 event:  All of our Peace3 events are open to every one of all ages. For a live event in your area, visit our LIVE EVENTS page to find out when we will be visiting a campus near you. Please note that events sometimes have limited seating so inquire about attendance as soon as possible.

Don’t see an event near you? Follow us on social media for up to date details on upcoming events and how to participate in the live discussions online.

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Peace3 Digital Conversations: Watch our video conversations with luminaries from all over the world, discussing peace, how they achieve inner peace and how they contribute to peace in the world.

Create your own Peace3 video: Share with us how you define “peace within” with your acts of 556724504_1201366the wonderful. Show us how your conversations, your activities, your friends, and your hobbies are creating your peace within and, in turn, creating peaceful relationships and communities. Illustrate practices in empathy, respect for others, forgiveness, conflict prevention, conflict resolution as tools for counteracting pressing social problems. Think of this a new opportunity to make brand new personal connections with a global community working on creating a better world.

Send your video to Peace3vids@tutufoundationusa.org. Please keep submissions to more than two and a half minutes. Be sure to include your name, age, and contact information in your email to us, learn more about the Desmond Tutu Peace Foundation»»»»»»

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A Lesson from Nelson Mandela on Forgiveness (P-2)

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So back to forgiveness. If those who have harmed us are not sorry for the damage they have done, is there any point to forgiving them when they have no remorse? Perhaps mandellarevenge is sufficient reason, for as Oscar Wilde once said, “Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.” Another reason might be that if we forgive in our hearts those who are not sorry, we open our own hearts to compassion, and the ability to forgive ourselves.Forgiveness requires compassion, which is to say, remembering the humanity in each person—whether we respect or like them or not is irrelevant. Recognizing that those who harm us have made poor choices—choices that may have cost them nothing, may even have advantaged them, but for which we alone must suffer—does not mean that they are exempt from moral responsibility for their actions. It means only that we understand they were not acting as “monsters,” but as humans. And humans can indeed behave monstrously at times. Finally, when forgiveness is too hard, there is another way.

When anger and pain overpower a person’s ability to forgive, perhaps it is not forgiving one must focus on, but on forgetting. Clearly, there are historical events such as Apartheid 15241417_1262531507123016_1677386702677847004_nor the Holocaust that one must never forget. And any act of cruelty we suffer comes with it lessons we best not forget lest it happen again. But to release the anger and heal the pain of wounds caused by another, we must first learn not to think on how much we are hurting. We must learn not to relive the event again and again in our words and our minds. When thoughts of another’s injustice intrude, we become empowered by pushing them out.

When the swelling anger of a wrong once done begins to mount, we learn to shift to another thought or vision. We move our bodies and move our minds, from our pain to our presence—and fill that presence with laughter, peace or a concentrated focus on anything but our pain. And we do it again and again, until those thoughts diminish. And in time, we begin to forget. And in forgetting, we make room to forgive. To forgive someone does not mean what they have done is excused; it means we recognize that they made a poor choice mandella2in how they acted and for that lapse in judgment, they are forgiven.

That is not the same thing as forgiving someone for the damage they have caused. The damage is done. It is up to the other person to accept or reject responsibility for that damage (and chances are, they’ll reject it). But it is up to each of us to accept or reject responsibility for our futures, whatever limits there may now be upon it. In honor of the life Nelson Mandela has lived, let us each find one small place in our hearts to extend forgiveness to another. And if we cannot forgive, let us work to forget. Once we have forgotten, and moved forward in our lives, we may discover we’ve forgiven, if no one other than ourselves. Which is where all healing begins.

Published on June 10, 2013 by Janice Harper, Ph.D. in Beyond Bullying.

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A Lesson from Nelson Mandela on Forgiveness (P-1)

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In recent weeks I have received a couple of different queries about how and why one should forgive. One reader wrote asking if he should forgive those who had so seriously nelson-m4hurt him in his workplace, costing him his job and reputation. Another wrote that she knew that healing required forgiving those who’d harmed her, but she was not yet ready to do so. In both cases, those the readers sought to forgive probably weren’t even sorry for the very real damage and wounding they had caused. Particularly in cases where damage is inflicted by a group, the individuals within that group rarely take responsibility for their own actions. Like members of a firing squad who simultaneously pull the trigger, they sleep soundly at night knowing they couldn’t have fired the deadly bullet. Besides, such logic follows, if “everyone” is hurting someone, the blame falls on the target for having done something to deserve it.

There can be no more timely moment to contemplate the concept of forgiveness of those who are not sorry than now, as Nelson Mandela reaches the end of a life that became an exemplar of forgiveness. Imprisoned for 27 years for his objection to Apartheid, tortured many of those years, when he was finally released from prison in 1990, he called not for revenge, but for forgiveness and reconciliation.

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Many felt betrayed that he would turn away from righteous anger, particularly when the terrors of Apartheid were ongoing, yet the world took note of such a powerful heart and mind, and thus it came to be that the dark years of Apartheid reached their end. If a man nelson-m6tortured and imprisoned for nearly three decades could find in himself forgiveness, what lessons might we take from him on how to respond to acts of aggression and cruelty in our ordinary lives? Ought we forgive those who are not sorry for their cruelty and the pain and suffering it produced?

Perhaps we must first give thought to why those who harmed us may not be sorry. If we bump into someone in the street, we will say we’re sorry. But if we bump into them with our car and break their bones, we are less likely to apologize. Why is that? (Aside from the fact that we don’t want to be sued once we’ve admitted our culpability.) Assuming we are normal healthy people and not sadists or psychopaths, the reason we are less likely to be sorry for our actions the greater the damage they have caused is because we are humane. And because we are humane, we find it very troubling to face those aspects of ourselves that are fallible and cruel.

Think of it this way: if we bump into someone in the street, we aren’t likely to stay awake nelson-m5at night reliving the event and wondering if we did the right thing by walking in their path. It was an inconsequential act that won’t even cross our minds again. But if we have really hurt someone with our actions, we are more likely to toss and turn and relive the event—until we settle on the best possible explanation for our own actions. And that explanation usually comes down to: I did the only thing I could do. I had no other choice. They were the ones who weren’t watching where they were going. It was their fault, not mine. They got me into this ordeal. We will focus more on forgiving ourselves for our actions by excusing them, than on asking for forgiveness, because we do not want to believe we are the kind of people who would so something to hurt another so badly. This is the process of cognitive dissonance, which enables us to psychologically adapt to facts which make us uncomfortable. We tend to find the loopholes.

Published on June 10, 2013 by Janice Harper, Ph.D. in Beyond Bullying.

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