🇨🇦 Love My Haters Prayer

goodvsatan“And remember, as it was written, to love another person is to see the face of God.” — Les Miserables 

To My Enemies who are really My Friends but don’t know it Yet.bible studes

I love my haters, I send kisses of mercy to all my haters. I bless those who’ve have to curse meI forgive those who’ve wronged me. I ask for forgiveness to those whom I may have wrongedTo those who’ve rejected my gifts I declare the abundance of gifts to you.

I am going to be so outrageously and contagiously blessed that we are going to be blessed as well! Thank you!

I release the revelation of God’s securing love upon those who are jealous of or intimidated by me. I speak long life to my enemies that they live long enough to see me fulfill my God-ordained destiny.

To all those who’ve put time in to destructively criticize me and ruin my reputation, I say thank you thank you and thank you again for the free advertisement.

To those who thought I was perfect, well, sorry to disappoint you, but you’re not either. I pledge to not hold you to a standard that I can’t live myself.

For all the hard labor, covert press releases, and tireless hours of deformation of character; I say God’s blessings of purity, prosperity, and longevity be yours.

To those who are loquacious and pretentious towards me, you get the credit for driving me to the Lord.

303127_10151286533221890_281583574_nI will exceed the opinions and expectations of others including my own, because my expectations now, are of Him, not them. I choose to walk in love with the unloving. I choose to surpass the past. I am determined to not allow the devil, myself, or anyone else, to hold me hostage to my past.

For all those who’ve prophe-lied concerning me, May God bless you to get it right the next time; because what you meant for my evil, God designed for my good! I release this with the love God gave to me. Amen….and the winner is LOVE! 

This Blog post came my way a couple of years ago, I often wondered why I shared it, until now, as it does not represent my exact words but it’s close enough. Terry.K

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The WorkPlace and Mobbing

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923004_10151331384711890_1479766938_nwork-schoolEmployed under contract from April 3, 2003 to Sept 9, 2009, we were a team of thirty (30) the staff were like family but one day that all changed, for reasons unknown as I can only speculate, they all turned on me and with extreme hate better known as Mobbing. Try to imagine going to work everyday knowing you were going to be harassed by twenty (20) or more people, I did for three (3) years, tried to do my job and no matter how much hatred they showed I always retaliated with “LOVE” until they finally broke the contract.

06b0d8e9b941e43e1dd480db2d16e45dMobbing can be understood as the stressor to beat all stressors. It is an impassioned, collective campaign by co-workers to exclude, punish, and humiliate a targeted worker. Initiated most often by a person in a position of power or influence, mobbing is a desperate urge to crush and eliminate the target. The urge travels through the workplace like a virus, infecting 1912531_10152067186641890_3897369818398031821_none person after another.The target comes to be viewed as absolutely abhorrent, with no redeeming qualities, outside the circle of acceptance and respectability, deserving only of contempt. As the campaign proceeds, a steadily larger range of hostile ploys and communications comes to be seen as legitimate. Mobbing is hardly the only source of debilitating stress at work, and it was not the only one on which Leymann did research.

miorrrbinHe interviewed bank employees who had undergone the terror of armed robbery, and subway drivers who had watched helplessly as their trains ran over persons who fell or jumped onto the tracks. Leymann documented the depression, absenteeism, sleeplessness, and other symptoms of trauma resulting from such stressful experiences.

supermanBank robberies and subway suicides were no match, however, for being mobbed by co-workers in the personal devastation that ensued. Not doctor-smiley-emoticoninfrequently, mobbing spelled the end of the target’s career, marriage, health, and livelihood. From a study of circumstances surrounding suicides in Sweden, Leymann estimated that about twelve percent of people who take their own lives have recently been mobbed at work.the-silent=killers

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Adult Bully’s “The Five Types”

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I am re-blogging this post which I origanally posted Feb 21, 2013, as there are others that need re-posting as well, this being the first. “Adult Bully’s The Five Types”, the one we are dealing with 90% of the time is number one, The Narcissistic Adult Bully, please read the description below: “You may not hear a lot about adult bullying, but it is a problem. Read this article to learn more about different types of adult bullies and get some ideas on how to deal with an adult bully. Adult bullying is a serious problem and may require legal action. One would think that as people mature and progress through life, that they would stop behaviors of their youth. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Sadly, adults can be bullies, just as children and teenagers can be bullies. While adults are more likely to use verbal bullying as opposed to physical bullying, the fact of the matter is that adult bullying exists. The goal of an adult bully is to gain power over another person, and make himself or herself the dominant adult. They try to humiliate victims, and “show them who is boss.” There are several different types of adult bullies, and it helps to know how they operate:

  1. Narcissistic Adult Bully
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    This type of adult bully is self-centered and does not share empathy with others. Additionally, there is little anxiety about consequences. He or she seems to feel good about him or herself, but in reality has a brittle narcissism that requires putting others down.

  3. Impulsive Adult Bully:
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    Adult bullies in this category are more spontaneous and plan their bullying out less. Even if consequences are likely, this adult bully has a hard time restraining his or her behavior. In some cases, this type of bullying may be unintentional, resulting in periods of stress, or when the bully is actually upset or concerned about something unconnected with the victim.

  5. Physical Bully:
  6. third4While adult bullying rarely turns to physical confrontation, there are, nonetheless, bullies that use physicality. In some cases, the adult bully may not actually physically harm the victim, but may use the threat of harm, or physical domination through looming. Additionally, a physical bully may damage or steal a victim’s property, rather than physically confronting the victim.

  7. Verbal Adult Bully:
  8. 4thWords can be quite damaging. Adult bullies who use this type of tactic may start rumors about the victim, or use sarcastic or demeaning language to dominate or humiliate another person. This subtle type of bullying also has the advantage – to the bully – of being difficult to document. However, the emotional and psychological impacts of verbal bullying can be felt quite keenly and can result in reduced job performance and even depression.

  9. Secondary Adult Bully:

2pm153-hr904-2This is someone who does not initiate the bullying, but joins in so that he or she does not actually become a victim down the road. Secondary bullies may feel bad about what they are doing, but are more concerned about protecting themselves. (Definitions courtesy of Bullying Statistics http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/)

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Freedom of Speech

the-evaluatordownloadFirst of all you obviously have no idea what it’s like to live life looking over your shoulder, to live in fear, to wake up every day not knowing if it will be your last day at work and fear having to go there, you have probably had everything handed to you on a silver platter.

To be verbally, mentally or physically assaulted and abused while at work, at the doctor’s office, at your local grocery store, no matter where you go.

To look at your bank account to see money missing or an anonymous charge of $1,000 charged to your credit card that you didn’t make and have to make that payment because your bank and all complaints are ignored.

To be continually fired and or forced out of your job for no reason at all.

To be afraid to walk to the corner store and have shady characters follow you and threaten you.

tongueTo be totally defamed and Cyber-Bullied on your social media sites, by words that really have no truth and are hearsay.

To basically have all your human rights denied, not really knowing why, but one right I will exercise is my Freedom of Speech and tell my story, even if it don’t want to be heard.

I suffered in silence but I shall no longer, I have lived this way for most of my life but always smiled and said nothing.

Well since I found my faith, I got the courage and strenght to put my foot down and say no more.

imagesIf you feel that you have to go along with them so as not to fall a victim of the same result, than you are no better then they are, so I will say if you redirect the spot light on the criminal or criminal act they seem to dissipate…or crawl back in their hole.

The one main point we fail to realize here is that this country “CANADA”
has legislation (laws) to protect us from this kind of torture, so do legislation bring relief? I think not.

If I shall die this way, I’m going to make sure the world knows my whole story and if my efforts prevents anyone else from experiencing the same faith and life I’ve lived, then I shall die happy and in Peace.

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Please Help Melvin Obtain a Lawyer

I also want to add that I have just Graduated from Selkirk college in a Program in Web Technologies and Design, I am willing to work or do what ever is required of me to help my cause, such as I will create 5, 10 or even 15 Websites or any other projects with in my realm of experience , what ever it takes for the purpose of reaching my goal. You can view my Portfolio here http://www.ibdestudents.com/melvink/116/unit-f/final/portfolio.html

My Hope is there is one soul that will step forward or if there is a PRO-BONO Lawyer that serves justice and might want to help, anything is worth trying rather than giving up because if I appear to represent myself as I did in 2006, they will dishonor legislation and myself, even though they say you can represent yourself so I am going to try anything and everything so as not to say I did not try, because then I can get another adjournment and another adjournment until I get a lawyer, time is the one thing I do have an abundance of, until I die I will fight for justice, this is the link to my fundrazer
Please Help Melvin obtain a Lawyer
In June of 2008 Melvin was sexually assaulted by a physician and just over a year later was assaulted and fired from his Job of more than six years by management in Mississauga, On.

On July 12, 2012 Melvin was yet again fired from another job also while employed for six months he was Bullied, harassed and assaulted by management mobbed by employees all due to sexual orientation.

Since being fired in July 2012 he has not been able to obtain work due to defamation of personal and financial characters.

On Oct 29, 2012 he filed a complaint with the OHRT. He was also diagnosed with an anxiety and panic disorder in 2002 and requires medical attention but now experiences high anxiety and fear of receiving treatment from medical professionals.

Due to his financial situation he cannot obtain a legal Representative to pursue the matters at the Ontario Human Rights Tribunal and requires your help.

Please show your support for Equality and Equal rights by helping him achieve his goal of raising $1000.00 to help pay for legal assistance.

You can read the details of the case here at Kinden v Richcraft thank you for your support.

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Evil Landlord #1

new-headerMe in da KitchenFirst I want to apologize, it seems I have missed a whole day, with moderating the sites and the start up of the new affiliate business, it’s been crazy busy getting the pages set up, and it’s not finished yet, and I have fallin behind on my readings, but I will get to them. This post will be yet another addition to “My Story”, I want to take you back to Sept 4, 2009, I was living in Mississauga, Ontario and still working at horror hell “SunGard”. It was sort of their last ditch effort to get rid of me, SunGard that is, any way the story begins with a friend appearing at my door late June of 2009. After a couple of weeks went by I came to find out he was running from the “Law”, to make along story short, he now had to be back in Renfrew Ontario for 5 pm for a meeting with his probation officer, it’s now 12:55 pm, a five hour drive to get him there, knowing it was next impossible to accomplish. So I picked up the phone and placed a call to the officer in question, this gentleman was very upset and yelling on the phone, refusing to give any lead way, saying if he was not on time for his meeting, he would call the police to pick him up and they were going to incarcerate him for one year. After twenty minutes or so, begging and pleading, I managed to convince him to wait as we were leaving immediately. PT CruserWell needless to say while en route I would end up almost losing my vehicle, a new 2008 PT Cruiser only a couple months old to the Ontario Provincial Police due to speeding, she clocked me going 50 kms over the speed limit and in a construction zone no less, current legislation included confiscating the said vehicle and double the normal fine in construction zones for speeding, but for reasons unknown she (the officer) said she would not take my vehicle, and would not double the fine, but I did get a $375 speeding ticket. We arrived in Renfrew one hour late but the guy was in his office waiting, now I had the task of convincing him not to lock a 17 year old boy up for a year with harden criminals, which would do him more harm then good, but he did agree to release him into my custody for 90 days and to return to Mississauga with me, needless to say the boy was as happy as a pig in shit 🙂 I did what I did because I knew him from the day he was born and he has held a special place in my heart and still do, like the son I will never have, even though he is afraid to be seen with me now or to speak to me for that matter. The KitchenThe fact he was going to be living with me for three months, caused issues with my landlord, once he knew I had company living in my unit he wanted more rent. I have been living in this unit for more than 3 years at the time, but to keep the peace I was paying $600 a month, I suggested an increase of $40 a month, he agreed and I assumed that was the end of it, but nooooooooooo I was wrong.One evening I received a call from the landlord regarding a leak under my shower, leaking down to the unit below me, he had to remove my shower to repair it and wanted permission to enter my unit the next day, I granted him the permission, butThe Horror Washroom I would live to regret it though. Arriving home the next day we would find the plumbers in the unit just finishing the shower uninstall, but they had to order a new one, and they would not be able to install it until the next day, leaving us with no running water in the washroom at all, not even for the toilet, I was not impressed but what can you do. I would call him every day for the next four days, inquiring to his intentions for the install of the shower, having to take time off work, 4 days due to no running water, we proceeded back to Renfrew to wait it out. On day four I called one of my brother’s in Brampton and requested he place a call to him for me because he, the landlord had not returned any of my calls or messages. My brother placed a call to him right away but got no answer either but left a message, Me SunGard 2007so on day five I left and headed back to Mississauga, not being able to loose any more time from work, but once I arrived late that night around 11 pm, I was surprised to see the plumbers working so late installing the new shower, it was certainly a relief. It also felt good the next morning, day five to wake up, shower and head to work, but it would be in vain, after 6 1/2 years it would be the day that SunGard would fire me. Now relieved that I no longer had to tolerate the workplace Bullying and Mobbing, but my life was now over, only to get worst. In closing over the last four years I have often wondered why or how I225113_10150978168096890_2016419255_n was still alive, and where my strength was coming from because in late 2010 I spent 8 days in bed, depressed and not able, nor did I have any desire to get out, I just wanted to die, but that’s when by chance I would meet my God sent, the one responsible for where and who I am today….lotsa luv mon ami.
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Don’t be A Victim: Stand up Against Workplace Bullying

?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????First let me give you an update on my request for an adjournment in the legal matters of Kinden v Richcraft and the Accommodation request for an Adjournment on April 4, 2014, the last update I received, I was informed the request was forwarded to Chairman of the board Madame Jennifer Scott for review but to date their has been no response from the Human Rights Tribunal of Ontario (HRTO) regarding that request. I have forwarded the details of the assault to be added as relevant evidence for the request, also I forwarded the details of a sexual assault by a Physician in late 2008 while working at SunGard during a prostate exam that left me bleeding and in pain for weeks, which is the third assault by a physician in my life time. Over the course of my six years at SunGard the incidents of the unimaginable that I endured that still haunt me today and still causes extreme anxiety, the fear of Doctors and hospitals, I am sure will be with me for the remainder of my life. This assault I will be detailing in a future post. One good thing though is I may have legal representation, but only if the adjournment is approved, as the Lawyer in question requires more time to consider the facts of the case. If they, the HRTO ignores my request than we shall proudly appear and will be unprepared for the hearing and stand firm for the adjournment. For anyone who is now experiencing workplace Bullying or Bullying period the following article holds great advise.

Knowing one’s rights may seem unnecessary in Singapore where people generally follow the law and avoid trouble. But… What if you’re getting harassed? What if you feel persecuted? What if you go to work every day and suffer in silence as your coworkers or bosses drive you, slowly and painfully to the brink of madness or maybe even suicide? Conversely, what if you are a workplace bully – have you pondered your legal liabilities? Francis Goh, a partner at Harry Elias Partnership, delivered an excellent lecture which colloquially framed the legal issues surrounding workplace bullying, assault, battery and harassment, as well as the newly enacted Protection from Harassment Act Bill.

Rely on yourself, not the law
recurring characteristic he noticed in victims of workplace bullying is that they have low self-esteem and as a result, tend to let people climb over their heads without protest. Such people also hold on to the mistaken belief that law would always be on their side and the good will always prevail.

Whilst they are not wrong to think that such an idealistic view causes one to rely on law as their one and only safety net, and in an unsavoury situation, they would be sorely disappointed in their time of need. This is because if a certain legal threshold is not crossed, it may be better to rely on oneself than to place reliance on a bunch of statutes that could be hard to enforce if there is insufficient evidence. Which brings us to the importance of understanding one’s legal rights.

Understanding legal thresholds and their nuances

The definition of workplace bullying is simply an “intentional infliction of a hostile work environment upon employee(s) or co-worker(s) through a combination of verbal and non-verbal behavior“. Francis pointed out that if the aggressor was completely unintentional then they are not, technically, by this definition, a bully.

How does one define ‘unintentional’ conduct? As with all legal cases, there is no fixed answer. And no, we are not just trying to smoke ourselves out of answering a difficult question. This reason for not having a fixed answer is because there are so many nuances in any given situation, and the definition of intentional / unintentional infliction of a hostile work environment boils down to the different variables in a situation.

Take for example a boss whose supervision style is to use coarse language with a congenial tone – this certainly would not amount to hostility, not unless he starts using vulgarities in a harsh tone.

Francis went on to explain the nuances between harassment, battery and assault. Simple gestures without physical contact may qualify as assault – for example spitting at someone, to simply waving your fists at someone. As long as the person on the receiving end feels ‘threatened’, the other party may end up in hot soup.

More importantly, he highlights that men should take extra care not to impinge on the sensitivities of their female counterparts. In fact, Francis recommends avoiding physical contact with female colleagues altogether. That sounds like gender discrimination to us – yet we are sure the guys do not want to be hauled into court by inadvertently offending Eve during their celebratory chest-bumping and morale boosting butt-smacking sessions.

Best to check yourself before you wreck yourself

Lying to the police is a serious offence. It is important not to accuse others just because you are in a position of power (shout-out to the ladies), because once a First Information Report filed with the police contains false statements, even the heavens would not be able to save you from becoming a criminal.

Oftentimes, feeling self-righteous in the moment, may cause emotions to get in the way and the idea of trying to get back at the person is just so tempting. If you ever feel that way, stop.

Francis quips, “You better check yourself before you wreck yourself”. Wise words.

Take a few deep breaths and reflect on your course of conduct – was it your incompetence that caused your colleague boss to react in a certain way? If yes, think about whether their reaction was reasonable. If it were just raising of voices, that’s fine. Alarm bells should only start ringing if they physically assault you.

Stand up for yourself

Francis reiterated that there must be consistent pattern or history of hostile behavior, substantiated by adequate evidence (letters, SMS-es, missed calls etc) before one seeks legal recourse.

As Patrick Tay, NTUC’s Director of the PME Unit and Legal Services Department, has stated in the video above, making a police report should be reserved as a last resort only after exhausting more civilised alternatives such as brandishing knowledge of one’s rights or confiding in HR professionals in your organisation. Alternatively, you can seek the help of your union leaders as they protect over 800,000 over members.

To avoid falling prey to workplace bullies, remember 3 things: Know your rights, be confident and stay objective.……continue reading »»

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Laurentian Bank Complaint

Update: On Jan 21, 2014 the Laurentian Bank ombudsman declined to assist, we have forwarded the complaint to the Canadian Banking Ombudsman
from: Ter Kin terr.kinnn2@gmail.com
to: ombudsman@laurentianbank.ca
Date: Sun, Jan 19, 2014 at 4:48 PM
subject: Laurentian Bank Complaint

To whom it may concern

I am writing to request assistance with an issue with Laurentian Bank located at 770 Boulevard St. Joseph, Gatineau, Quebec, J8Y4B8, on Sept 10, 2013 my vehicle, one 1996 Toyoto Corola ceased to be road worthy at which time it was taken to the scrap yard, I notified the SAAQ to disregard the vehicle and stop all debts from the account on file, they assured me once the vehicle was disregarded in their system it would automaticly stop all debts from my account, I received a notice to that effect (#3 attached) only to discover the SAAQ continued to debt my Laurentian Bank account. On Sept 10, 2013 I requested the Bank apply a stop payment which was never done but rather they proceeded to process the debts causing an NSF overdraft on the account of $ -139.19. I have also attached a copy of the response of the Laurentian Bank after bringing my concerns to their attention, stating “if you wish to stop preauthorized payments, you will need to contact the company directly to request that the direct payments be terminated. You may do this by telephone or by registered mail. If the company is still taking payments, we invite you to contact your branch”. I made numerous requests regarding this issue to know end. I now request your assistance to rectify this situation.
I have attached all required documents and communications (total 6 attachments) to that effect as follows:

SAAQ account Statement
SAAQ dishonoured Statement
SAAQ disregard Vehicle notice
SAAQ notice of claim
Laurentian Bank account Summary
Laurentian Bank reply on stop payment request
Thank you for your attention to this matter.

So is it safe to assume that if you are a member of a major financial corporation or Government affiliate you are above the law?

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Laurentienne Bank (The Corruption Within)

SEMC 3MP DSCFor two years since starting working at Richcraft, I drove the vehicle (Junker) pictured here to the left until Sept 12, 2013 when I had to send it to the scrap yard, it was no longer road worthy. The plates cost $280 per year, I was on a monthly payment plan, the SAAQ (Department of Motor vehicles) debited my account monthly for $21.04, so after the vehicle was gone on Sept 15, 2013, I contacted the SAAQ to cancel the plates as they were not required any longer. I also went to my Bank “Laurentienne Bank” to request a stop payment on my account for that debit, but they refused to apply the stop payment, they said as long as I cancelled the plates the SAAQ would automatically stop the debit. Well I have been receiving my Bank statements from them but did not open the envelopes, I just put them in the file, as I was now using my “ING Direct” Bank account for my Banking, but early December once moving I opened them all only to find the Laurentienne Bank did not apply the stop payment, and the SAAQ kept debiting my account until November 2013, over drawing the account by $-139.19, the SAAQ has now totally cancelled my driving licence, how am I suppose to pay this balance when I barely have enough food to eat.Laurentian Bank - Summary.clipular (2)

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This is the new design I am working on for the NEW Bullying Prevention website. Rather We will NOT be saying Good-bye to WordPress as we will have our very own Domain. The only thing that will change is the location on the world wide web, as we continue to fight the battle of Bullying around this wonder world. Thanx to everyone of our followers for your support. So watch for the transition. cheers and Lotsa Luv
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