Nova Scotia cyber-bullying law continues to spur debate

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6i3zxbkmTwo years later, Cyber Safety Act, written after the death of Rehtaeh Parsons, is criticized for being too broad and praised for being effective

Wayne MacKay, a professor in human rights law at Dalhousie University thinks the legislation is doing its job, although he feels there should be different standards for adults, and accused cyber-bullies should have the chance to defend themselves before a case reaches court.
Wayne MacKay, a professor in human rights law at Dalhousie University thinks the legislation is doing its job, although he feels there should be different standards for adults, and accused cyber-bullies should have the chance to defend themselves before a case reaches court.
HALIFAX—An overwhelming majority of complaints filed under Nova Scotia’s anti-cyber-bullying law have been resolved out of court, proof that the law is working, supporters of the legislation say.

Two years after it was passed in April 2013, the bill still faces criticism from legal experts who say it threatens freedom of expression.

The legislation is the first of its kind in Canada.
Two challenges aimed at striking down the controversial law are before the courts, and, in a separate case, an order under the Cyber Safety Act was overturned by the Nova Scotia Supreme Court on grounds it violated charter rights.

But a member of Nova Scotia’s CyberScan unit, established under the act to crack down on cyber-bullying, said there is a side of the law the public doesn’t hear about as much.

Of the 559 complaints of cyber-bullying filed with CyberScan, only two have proceeded to court, with the rest resolved through informal negotiations, said Dana Bowden, one of the five investigators with the unit.

“We’ve had a great deal of success,” Bowden said. Bowden said the unit’s goal is to educate and resolve rather than be punitive.

bg5gtu“I think once you’re able to speak with individuals and they have an understanding of the fact that there is a law in Nova Scotia around cyber-bullying, and how that law works . . . people seem to be getting that message.”

Under the act, people who say they have been victims of cyber-bullying can also bypass the CyberScan unit and apply to a justice of the peace for a protection order. Fewer than 10 protection orders have been issued since the law’s creation in 2013.

One of those was revoked in March, in the case of Debert businessman Jonathan Baha’i, who was accused of posting defamatory information online about his former landlord Anton Self. A judge originally issued a one-year protection order, which included a ban on Baha’i communicating with or about Self, in November 2014.
Lawyer and privacy expert David Fraser, an outspoken critic of the act, said such orders violate the right to free speech.

“Anything that limits what you can or do say on its face infringes section 2B of the charter,” said Fraser, who represents the complainants in the two current court challenges.
Fraser said the legislation, written less than three weeks after the death of Rehtaeh Parsons, was done so in haste.

“My concern with the legislation is that it’s so grotesquely over-broad. It captures a whole lot of stuff that you or I would not even consider to be cyber-bullying.”

12549judge_001Judge Gerald Moir made similar comments when he revoked the protection order on Baha’i in the Supreme Court.
“A neighbour who calls to warn that smoke is coming from your upstairs windows causes fear. A lawyer who sends a demand letter by fax or e-mail causes intimidation,” Moir said in his ruling.

“Each is a cyber-bully according to the literal meaning of the definitions (of the law), no matter the good intentions of the neighbour, (or) the just demand of the lawyer.”
Fraser said it irks him that the judge had to go to such lengths to interpret the legislation.

“The fact that a judge has to essentially rewrite a key part of the law in order to make it make sense, in the context of what it’s intended to do — that tells me that the legislature did not do a good enough job in being clear about what it was trying to do,” he said.
But Wayne MacKay, a professor in human rights law at Dalhousie University, doesn’t see the judge’s comments as condemnations of the act.

“Some would certainly argue that the definition of cyber-bullying itself may be too broad,” said MacKay, who chaired the cyber-bullying task force ordered by the government after Parsons died.
“But another way — and that’s what happened in this case — is to say, ‘Well, we’ll take it on a case-by-case basis.’ ”

There are a couple of things MacKay said he would change about the act: having different standards for adults, as opposed to youth, and giving accused cyber-bullies the chance to defend themselves before a case reaches court.

But overall, MacKay thinks the legislation is doing its job.
“I think the act is a necessary and positive addition to giving victims some remedies they didn’t have before.”


Article posted Fri May 01 2015 Posted by Leah Collins Lipsett The Canadian Press — Follow @leahgcl on Twitter


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Section Two of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms

judge-smiley-emoticon-1Section 2 of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms is the section of the Constitution of Canada that lists what the Charter calls “fundamental freedoms” theoretically applying to everyone in Canada, regardless of whether they are a Canadian citizen, or an individual or corporation. These freedoms can be held against actions of all levels of government and are enforceable by the courts. The fundamental freedoms are freedom of expression, freedom of religion, freedom of thought, freedom of belief, freedom of peaceful assembly, and freedom of association.

Section 1 of the Charter permits Parliament or the provincial legislatures to enact laws that place certain kinds of limited restrictions on the freedoms listed under section 2. Additionally, these freedoms can be temporarily invalidated by the notwithstanding clause of the Charter.

As a part of the Charter and of the larger Constitution Act, 1982, section 2 took legal effect on April 17, 1982. Many of its rights, however, have roots in Canada in the 1960 Canadian Bill of Rights (although this law was of limited effectiveness), and in traditions under a theorized Implied Bill of Rights. Many of the freedoms, such as freedom of expression, have also been at the centre of federalism disputes.

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SUICIDE OF GAY BENGALI ACTRESS SHEDS LIGHT ON HOMOPHOBIA IN ASIA

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doctor-emoticonPriya Vedi, a doctor in India, slit her wrists in a hotel room after she wrote a suicide note on Facebook, which was shared more than 3,500 times. From India Today:

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dishaBengali actress Disha Ganguly, known for her role in the popular sitcom Tumi Ashbey Bole, committed suicide on April 9. Her boyfriend found her body hanging in her house. Officials believe she committed suicide due to social pressures regarding her lesbian relationship with another actress. Her death showcases the harsh treatment of LGBT people in Asia.

“A few months back, this actress friend of Ganguly, started staying at her apartment,” explained one police official. “Soon, Ganguly’s mother arrived from Nairobi (where her parents reside) and objected to their relationship. Her mother even got her friend to move out of the apartment.”

Ganguly was engaged to Vivaan Ghosh, a fellow actor, at the time this second relationship allegedly began. Her parents pushed her to accept his marriage proposal. With pressure from her parents, boyfriend, and girlfriend, police believe “she gave in to death.” After her actress friend found out about Ganguly’s suicide, she attempted to throw herself in front of a train. The locals saved her and she is currently in the hospital.

winking-smiley-carried-sad-angry-ones-3871588Homosexual acts are illegal in 78 countries, including Bangladesh and India. In December 2014, a survey found that 59% of the gays in Bangladesh live in fear of being outed. These laws force LGBT people to leave their families and countries.

Joleen, a Singapore native now known as Joe Wong, was beaten and forced into therapy by her family. She eventually escaped and changed into a man in Bangkok. Joe is now working with the Asia-Pacific Transgender Network rights group.

“I’ve never been more at home than now, even though I’m not at home,” he claimed. “I removed everything that was bringing me down. I removed the toxic people in my life. Now it’s just me and my problems that I have to confront,” said Wong, who did not identify the abusive relative to avoid further straining family ties, “I feel really liberated.”


Article By MARY CHASTAIN for BreitBart – 22 Apr 2015


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One LGBT School’s Effort to Stop Bullying Starts Young

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Computer-Training“Why not now?” he asked, noting that as the country grapples with marriage equality, it will inevitably have to deal with questions of how to better support LGBT families and their children. “This school has always been needed.”

(Photo: Getty Images)
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It was 2007 when Christian Zsilavetz, a math teacher, started volunteering with a parents’ support group for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender youths at Seattle’s Children’s Hospital. The group was about 40 members strong and met one Sunday each month in the hospital, tucked away behind the lush green foliage of downtown Emerald City. Zsilavetz was already a few years into his own gender transition and, with two decades of teaching experience, decided to help out with the group’s child care. Parents drove hours just to be part of the group. Soon, Zsilavetz could see why.

“You’ve got a lot of gender nonconforming and trans youth on the spectrum, and they don’t fit the mold of most public and private schools,” Zsilavetz, now 45, told TakePart. “There’s still not a lot of room for those pink princess boys.”

In the years since, Zsilavetz, who identifies as a transgender man, started a family of his own. Today, he and his wife have two children: a son, who’s three, and a daughter, who’s six. They consider themselves a transgender family. In 2012, Zsilavetz’s wife got a job at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The family moved to Atlanta and quickly became part of the city’s thriving gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender community, and Zsilavetz took the bold step of starting a school catering specifically to families like his own.

That project, called Pride School, is set to open Atlanta in August. It will be open to K–12 students and is looking to enroll 10–15 students for the upcoming school year. Annual tuition is expected to be $12,000. Students and parents will get access to the school’s gender-neutral bathrooms, the ability to choose their own gender pronouns, and a test-free curriculum built entirely around students’ interests.

SmileyComputerDisconnectedThe idea of an LGBT-specific school isn’t new; New York City’s Harvey Milk High School has been around for two decades. But opening one that so openly challenges gender norms and caters to children as young as four years old is more unconventional. Statistics are scarce, but there’s been a general recognition among researchers that many LGBT youths are coming out at earlier ages. One study found that gay and bisexual boys experience their first same-sex attraction around age eight, and for girls it’s even earlier. Researchers at San Francisco State University released a survey that found many LGBT adults recount being bullied for flouting gender norms throughout their years in school.

But for Zsilavetz, the idea isn’t so much about catering to children who experience bullying because of their own gender or sexual identity. It’s about reaching LGBT parents and teachers who often have to hide behind the rigid gender norms of the schools where they work and send their children.

“We’re not the gay kids’ school,” Zsilavetz said. “Our school is about a community within a community. You’ll have straight parents with queer kids, queer parents with straight kids, along with queer and straight educators.” Teachers are already contacting him about jobs. Some are LGBT people hoping to work in a more open environment.

Still, the school has an uphill climb before it becomes reality. It’s still trying to secure space, and Zsilavetz says students and staff will start crowdsourcing campaigns in about two weeks to raise tuition and salary costs. It also doesn’t have accreditation, which apparently isn’t an issue for younger students. Older students will be able to dually enroll in online programs to meet accreditation standards. But Zsilavetz says the timing is right.


Article published March 28, 2015 By Jamilah King


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Columbia Middle School students make anti-bullying video

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PCWhen people hurt you over and over, think of them like sand paper; They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up useless. **Chris Colfer**

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Columbia Middle School students make anti-bullying video
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COLUMBIA STATION, Ohio – Students from a Lorain County middle school have united to create an anti-bullying video. The video, which was posted to YouTube on Friday , was created by students at Columbia Middle School.
According to the YouTube description , students in the CMS advanced technology class, including Jill Grzywna and Danielle Roginsky, helped craft the video after numerous hours of shooting and editing.

You can watch the video below: Published on Mar 20, 2015

clapper-clapper-film-movie-smiley-emoticon-000232-largeTwitter: cmstechnology@cmsacker Could not be more proud of two students in our advanced technology class. Jill Grzywna and Danielle Roginsky spent an enormous amount of time planning, taping, re-taping, editing, and choosing just the right music (River Flows in You by Yiruma) and the result is this beautiful video that sends a message to all people to make the difference. Also very proud of the rest of the class; they all participated in this video and made a difference!


Article Courtesy of newsnet5.com – by Tim Rearden, Mar 22, 2015


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Tyler Clementi anti-bullying bill reintroduced in Congress

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“Schools need to take bullying, harassment and humiliation seriously, by making it official policy,” Jane Clementi said. “We support this legislation because no other student should have to feel the pain and humiliation that Tyler felt after he had been web-camed by his roommate.”


Legislation named after Tyler Clamenti was reintroduced in Congress. (Photo courtesy Facebook)
Legislation named after Tyler Clamenti was reintroduced in Congress. (Photo courtesy Facebook)
Lawmakers reintroduced a bill in Congress on Wednesday named after an 18-year-old Rutgers University student who committed suicide in 2010 after his roommate posted a video of his private romantic encounter with another man online.

The bill, the Tyler Clementi Higher Education Anti-Harassment Act, was introduced in the House by Rep. Mark Pocan (D-Wis.) and in the Senate by Sen. Patty Murray (D-Wash.). The only out lesbian in the U.S. Senate, Tammy Baldwin (D-Wis.), is an original co-sponsor for the Senate bill.

In a statement, Murray said the legislation is necessary because students need the opportunity to further their education “without the fear of harassment and bullying.” “I am proud that this bill would take meaningful steps to provide schools and students with tools to prevent harassment and protect survivors,” Murray said. “By honoring Tyler’s life with this legislation, we can work to prevent the bullying that far too many students are forced to endure.”

According to the Senate Health, Education, Labor & Pensions Committee, LGBT students are twice as likely as their straight peers to face harassment, but colleges and universities aren’t required to have policies protecting students either from harassment on electronic communications as well as harassment based on sexual orientation, gender identity or religion.

The Tyler Clementi Act would require universities to put those policies in place in addition to creating a grant program to support campus anti-harassment programs.
Pocan, one of six openly LGB members of the House, said the legislation is needed because bullying is “a real and persistent danger for far too many students at our colleges and universities.”

Untitled-1“This bill ensures no student has to suffer the humiliation of being harassed for who they are, or who they love,” Pocan said. “Institutions of higher learning should be a place of open expression, which celebrate diversity and embrace students from all different backgrounds.”

After the incident in which students placed the video of him online, Clementi, who was 18 at the time, jumped to his death off the George Washington Bridge. In 2012, Dharun Ravi, Clementi’s roommate and the student responsible for the video, was sentenced to 30 days in jail, three years probation, 300 hours of community service and a $10,000 fine.

Jane Clementi, founder of the Tyler Clementi Foundation and Tyler’s mother, encouraged Congress to pass the legislation based on the experience of her son.

The Tyler Clementi Act has support from the Human Rights Campaign, the Anti-Defamation League, the American Association for University Women, the Gay, Lesbian, & Straight Education Network (GLSEN), and the Pride Foundation.

A news statement from the Senate HELP Committee lists the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention as a supporter of the bill, but a spokesperson for organization told the Blade it has no official position.


The Washington Blade | March 18, 2015 | by Chris Johnson


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Rehtaeh Parson’s dad speaks to UN on online bullying

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Glen Canning says he’s relieved his daughter’s name can finally be used in relation to a high profile child porn case.

parHALIFAX – The father of Rehtaeh Parsons says he delivered a statement to the United Nations on Monday, telling the commission on the status of women how his daughter’s death after a suicide attempt in 2013 was directly related to cyberbullying.

Glen Canning confirmed in an email that he delivered the statement during a panel discussion entitled Violence in the Digital Age.

Parsons’ family says the girl was 15 years old when she was sexually assaulted in November 2011 and bullied for months after a digital photo of the alleged assault was passed around her school in Cole Harbour, N.S.

A_smiley_face_holding_a_red_heart_balloon_110111-231796-134009In his prepared statement, which appears on his website, Canning says he and the girl’s mother have been advocating for victims of sexual assault and cybercrime, roles that have led to the realization that their daughter’s case is far from unique.

The statement says that for many women and teenagers suffering from online abuse, reporting such incidents can be heartbreaking and the results are often futile.

As well, the statement suggests that governments have been slow to take action, and victims are being treated as if they are part of the crime.


Article By Staff of The Canadian Press – Courtesy of Global News


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Turmoil on the menu

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4q5sewkWarehouse season-ender serves tragic bullying story when two families sit down to eat

Dinner gets cold: from left, Doug McKeag, Cory Wojcik, Daniel McIntyre-Ridd, Sharon Bajer and Terri Cherniack in Late Company.
Dinner gets cold: from left, Doug McKeag, Cory Wojcik, Daniel McIntyre-Ridd, Sharon Bajer and Terri Cherniack in Late Company.

Late Company, the season-ending play at the Warehouse, takes as its subject a heartbreaking premise: a gay teen’s suicide due to bullying.

But Toronto-based, Ottawa-born playwright Jordan Tannahill layers political context over personal tragedy in the play’s brisk 75-minute running time, set a year after the event.

The dead boy’s parents, a sculptor and a Tory MP (played, respectively, by Terri Cherniack and Doug McKeag) attempt to come to terms with the tragedy by having dinner with the teen boy found to be the principal instigator (Daniel McIntyre-Ridd) and his parents (Sharon Bajer and Cory Wojcik). The objective is closure. The outcome is something else altogether.

If the play has a real-life inspiration, it would be the 2011 suicide of Jamie Hubley, a 15-year-old Ottawa boy suffering from depression exacerbated by continual bullying at school because of his homosexuality.
But for the 26-year-old playwright-filmmaker-choreographer, the play truly gestated in the responses to the suicide.

“What was arresting to me was, sadly, not the spectre of queer teen suicide itself, which has become so commonplace,” Tannahill says. “That’s not what prompted the writing of the play. It was the political reaction to this that, for me, really got under my skin.”

tumblr_nathzu680T1tjrdjpo1_400Tannahill refers specifically to the spectacle of 10 Conservative MPs creating an “It Gets Better” video in response to the tragedy.

It Gets Better, Tannahill explains, is a campaign initiated by sex columnist Dan Savage “in which LGBT adults essentially reassure LGBT youth, who are potentially struggling with identity issues or with bullying, that it gets better, and that they too can have a self-actualized lifestyle or have friends who will love them and family who will love them, and pursue their dreams as LGBT adults.”

The original campaign, Tannahill asserts, was intended as “a conversation between people in the LGBT community.”
“In its essence, the campaign is a very positive force, and for me, the federal Conservatives releasing an It Gets Better video was so tin-eared, it was actually kind of obscene,” he says.

“These were non-gay or not-out MPs, and many of them had actually voted against legislation that would directly improve the lives of queer teens and queer people in Canada,” Tannahill says. (Indeed, one of the participants was former Manitoba MP and public safety minister Vic Toews, a longtime vocal and vociferous Tory warhorse in his stubborn opposition to same-sex marriage through his terms in office.)

“The hypocrisy was so overwhelming,” Tannahill says, adding that he was surprised to find that many friends and acquaintances chose to view the video as a positive sign of progress.
“I had brought this up at a dinner party of some family friends of ours in Ottawa, people of educated middle-class standing within suburban Ottawa, and they could not apprehend the hypocrisy of this. They would say: ‘They’re trying,’ or ‘It’s a gesture.’

“But for me, the idea of ‘it’s a gesture’ is so emblematic of the ways in which so many of us deal with issues of sexual identity and sexual politics,” Tannahill says. “It’s a kind of not-in-my-backyard lip service that’s given to it, and not understanding the ways in which they are directly implicated in perpetuating a society that enacts violence against queer youth all the time.

“It’s not a play about queer teen suicide,” he says. “For me, the play is about larger questions, about collective responsibility about the raising of children in the 21st century. What are our new responsibilities and realities in the 21st century? Who polices the Internet and the cybersphere?”

Tannahill, who recently received the Governor General’s Award for English-language drama, says the attempts to pop the illusory bubble that we live in enlightened times.

“I think we still live in an incredibly conservative, sex-phobic society,” he says. “It ‘tolerates’ other-ness and queer-ness. ‘You have your rights to get married, now please go away and become like us and assimilate.’
“But I think we’re still profoundly troubled and unable to reconcile men who are feminine or flamboyant or a culture that defies that normative vision of what the family is,” he says.
“There’s still a complete lack of awareness about the ways in which people are implicated in the oppression of queer people or people of colour or any of the marginal people of our society.”


The Winnipeg Free Press print edition March 5, 2015 By: Randall King (randall.king@freepress.mb.ca)

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Gay Calgary police officer promotes anti-bullying program of hope

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As a kid, Tad Milmine was bullied by a hostile step-mother, ignored by a drunken father andPolice banished to the basement of the family home in Cambridge, Ont.


alta-fivequestions20nw1School wasn’t any better. After running away at 17, Milmine struggled with his confidence and sexuality. Now, in the job he always wanted, the openly gay Calgary police officer is promoting Bullying Ends Here, a program of hope, writes Allan Maki.

What was your childhood like?

I’d come home from school and go right to the basement, and it was a real basement with concrete walls, no TV, no radio, just a bed. Sometimes I’d be allowed to come up for dinner, most of the time it was left at the top of the stairs so I’d eat it in the basement. … I remember two boys once followed me after school. They kept calling me names. When I got home, I said, ‘Okay, I’m safe.’ I could hear some fumbling around on the porch area. Eventually, I went upstairs. The two guys were gone but I could see the glass screen door was all covered in spit. I didn’t want my stepmom seeing that because I would be the one blamed for it.

How did you end up becoming a police officer?

policeman-smileyAfter I ran away from home and got my own apartment, I was working in retail and restaurants and it was just a fluke encounter that at 32 years old I met someone who was a police officer. I remember saying that was my dream. That’s when he said, ‘Have you ever tried? Why wouldn’t you at least try because you have nothing to lose but potentially everything to gain?’ So I did. I applied. I ended up being hired by the RCMP in Surrey, B.C.

You left the RCMP last year. Was it because of your sexuality?

I was not out as a gay man when I applied. It was two years into being a Mountie that I did. … Leaving was about my [anti-bullying] program. I was doing it on my own time at my own expense. I was served a document from the RCMP – eight pages – that was basically a cease-and-desist order saying I had to stop immediately. Shut the website down. No more e-mails. No more presentations until I could meet all of their demands and then seek the approval of the Human Resources officer. I explained that was not possible and that I was going to keep going with the program. It was very business-like; there was no yelling, no insults. I quit. Obviously, a huge door opened and presented me with a chance at joining the Calgary Police Services.

Have you experienced any abuse from your fellow officers?

police-police-officer-uniform-smiley-emoticon-001085-facebookNot at all, not once. I’m aware of the stereotypes out there, especially in this line of work. I thought there was going to be locker-room challenges. There were going to be jokes. The reality is there isn’t, and I only speak from my own experiences because I’m not naive to say it never happens.

When you do your Bullying Ends Here presentation in schools, what do you say to the students and what do they say to you?

I tell them I received 15,000 e-mails last school year alone and I respond to every one myself. Hundreds of those e-mails are from self-confessed bullies and they’re saying they don’t know how to stop. They say, ‘If I stop, I’m not going to be on that pedestal. I’m going to lose my status within this group.’ That reflects what the program is about. It’s all of us, together.


ALLAN MAKI – The Globe and Mail – Published Friday, Feb. 20 2015,


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Outpouring over German teenager’s video shows how serious bullying is

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Three million clicks and counting … There has been a wave of support in response to a simple video posted online by a German teenager who is asking his peers to stand up to bullying. DW takes a look.

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On February 8 at 2:55 p.m., Benjamin “Drews” Fokken posted a video on his Facebook timeline, a pretty regular occurrence for the 19-year-old, who enjoys covering popular songs ranging from Miley Cyrus’ “Wrecking Ball” to Silbermond’s “Ja” – and posting his renditions to his profile.

imagesThe songs do pretty well, with Fokken averaging in the high hundreds for most videos, but what happened with the clip he uploaded on February 8, “Against Bullying!” blew even his wildest dreams out of the water.

Staring into the camera with an expression of vague melancholy, Fokken holds up papers with the following handwritten messages:

People! Nobody is worth less than anyone else just because he or she:

Has a handicap / May not have much money / May not be very smart / May not have the best figure / Is gay, lesbian or bisexual / Has a different skin color / Has a different religion / Comes from a different country

Victims of bullying often feel lonesome and left alone. They hurt their bodies because they think they are different. They have thoughts about suicide!

How would – you – feel about that?

Only TOGETHER can we CHANGE things! =)


Fokken’s video was clicked more than 3 million times within five days. Over 100,000 people have shared and “liked” it. ☆☆ AGAINST BULLYING !! ☆☆

‘Important and necessary’

The wave of support the video has elicited has been covered extensively in German media, with Fokken giving interviews to a number of outlets about why he felt moved to make it and share it with his peers.
“Don’t worry – I’m not in danger of committing suicide,” he told Spiegel Online, admitting that he had cut his arms with a razor blade before. For years, he suffered from verbal attacks by his peers: “Name-calling, because of how round my body and face are. … But only very seldom have I thought that I didn’t want to be alive in the world anymore.”

0,,16820214_401,00Fokken’s video is a kind of homage to Amanda Todd, a Canadian girl who posted a similar clip to YouTube in which she explained the suffering she went through as a result of bullying.

“There is a dramatic difference between Benjamin’s clip and that of Amanda Todd,” said Uwe Leest, who chairs the Bündnis gegen Cybermobbing, a German initiative against Cyberbullying. “Tragically, this young girl killed herself and used YouTube as a way to send a suicide note. Benjamin has used Facebook to send a strong signal in defense of the victims of bullying. And he deserves our respect for this.”

computing-smileThe Bündnis gegen Cybermobbing says that one in four young people in Germany suffers severely from cyberbullying at some point during puberty. Leest told DW that the attention Fokken’s video has received displays the “great dimension of this social problem,” adding that it wasn’t only important as a show of support for victims, but rather – and perhaps more significantly – as a way to show bullies how much their bullying hurts.

“What Benjamin has done is incredibly vital for our society. His courage to ask: ‘How would you feel?’ to the people who have caused him pain. This was important and necessary,” Leest said.
Fokken himself has described the fear that accompanied posting his video online. “At first I was afraid that it would all start again. The bullying, the name-calling, all that crap,” he told Spiegel Online.

Going by the flood of reactions – almost exclusively positive – to his video, exactly the opposite was the case. “It’s the start of a new life for me,” he told Radio Bremen, audibly pleased that this time he let his courage do the talking.

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Keep your paws up little monster, RIP Jamey Rodemeyer in honor of Stop Bullying Day

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ripWhen I learned in Sept 2011 of Jamey Rodemeyer’s suicide and saw his “It Gets Better” video (R.I.P little friend) on Dec 12, 2011 it sparked the creation of what is now known as “THE NEW BULLYING PREVENTION”

Opinions_Logo_01In honor of today being Stop Bullying Day and four years after a young boy committed suicide for being bullied, I am hoping that this editorial will help other kids suffering from bullying and help put an end to this way to often tragic action. If we work together, hopefully we can hope for our future kids to go through life bully-free.

In 2011, Jamey Rodemeyer, a 14 year old boy from Buffalo, New York who identified himself as bisexual hung himself in front of his parents home. Jamey endured anti-gay bullying similar to mine, as well as, many teens of the LGBTQ community.

When in junior high, the anti-gay bullying resulted in Jamey blogging about it on his blogging accounts. He talked about being bullied and suicide on his tumblr account. On YouTube, he seemed happy and full of sunshine. He talked of Lady Gaga who was his idol because she says we were “Born This Way.”

Towards the end of junior high, he put on his poker face and made it appear that things were getting better. He was appearing as if he embraced his differences and his sexuality. He even did a YouTube video for the “It Gets Better” project founded by gay activist and journalist, Dan Savage. In the video he talks about loving oneself and overcoming anti-gay bullying.

Three weeks into high school, on September 18th, he took his own life.

It brings me great sadness that such a handsome and vibrant young boy fell prey to the hurtful words of others. He was trying his hardest to overcome it. His message still rings true, “It gets better, in time.” Somewhere inside of him he lost faith in his own message due to ongoing bullying that became too much. He had a light around him and was taken from us too soon.

I feel proud to say he would accomplished great things if such a tragedy did not occur.

I remember being bullied growing up. It dates back to when I was in grade school. I have always been gay which makes me different and children can be very mean. I recall the words fag and faggot being tossed around back. All I did growing up was hang out with girls. So, it provoked name calling and ridicule.

I was never a fighter.

I found it very hard to fight back. I think one day I threw my book on the concrete ground in retaliation of being bullied.

Yeah jerk, that will teach you…I bet my book hurt you really bad seeing how it’s on the ground! Seriously! What was I thinking?

I was maybe 10 or 11 years old. I was scared. I should have clobbered him with the textbook. I mean let’s think for a moment, textbooks can hurt!

I was scared and felt helpless to the point where I had to go against my nature and fight. But I was also taught, and very well might I add, not to resort to violence either. Now, as I look back, I really wish I was taught violence is okay in self-defense situations.

The anti-gay bullying and name calling only got worse as I got older. In junior high, I was being called fag, sissy, faggot, p*ssy and many other slurs. I was being chased, kicked, shoved and pushed around.

It was always the same reasons. I was gay.

I hung around with the girls and I was not having sex with them. Part of me wants to believe that I was strong enough mentally to endure the anti-gay bullying without having a meltdown, but I also feel I had and still have a strong set of friends who have always been accepting of me.

photoMy best friends back in junior high stuck up for me, maybe not with fists, but with strong words and just through the simple fact that they got involved. They somehow stepped up each and every time that they were around witnessing anti-gay bullying. Back then I felt helpless, but I also was ashamed because I had females fighting my battles which added to my frustrations.

I was truly thankful for them though, and still am.

I look back now and I thank heaven that they stepped up when they did. I used to have to find alternate routes home just to avoid bullying. Obviously, I was not as strong as I’d like to believe. I was very weak emotionally and fragile when it came to bullying. It had a world of negative impact on my confidence and self esteem.

I’m 38 years old now, a long way from those bullying days in grade school. It got better over time. I am fortunate to have survived such hatred and ignorance. Bullying in every form especially anti-gay bullying needs to stop.

The point of my story is not that I am one of the victims. It’s that I am a survivor.

Regardless of what I think I could’ve done differently when faced with such pointless attacks on my character, I did fight through and had a support system around me who exemplified the meaning of “great kid.”

Was I weaker back then than I originally thought? Yes. But the point is kids at that age shouldn’t have to be placed in those ridiculous, meaningless and sometimes character defining situations in the first place.

How many young boys and girls have to die? Why do teens have to find different ways home? Why do they have to suffer everyday making life that much more unbearable? When will people listen and realize we all are different but we are all human? Did you go through bullying growing up? How did it affect you? Did you know someone else who endured such ignorance? Tell me your story!

rip (1)TheCelebrityCafe would like to dedicate this article In Memory of Jamey Rodemeyer and others who have lost their lives due to bullying and we hope it can help others.


TheCelebrityCafe.com – By Marc Regen – Feb, 2, 2015 You can also visit Lady Gaga’s facebook page she also created for awareness of Bullying “Born This Way Foundation


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New workplace anti-bully law (AB2053) is instructive for parents

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AB2053 requires employers to provide workplace training that will give “practical examples aimed at instructing supervisors in the prevention of harassment, discrimination, and retaliation…”

ladyThis year a new anti-bullying law (AB2053) takes effect for the workplace, and it raises good questions for the home and school as well. Lisa Ford-Berry, founder of BRAVE Society, a Carmichael non-profit dedicated to bullying prevention and intervention strategies for the education culture children navigate with hostility hyped by cyber communications. AB2053 requires employers to provide workplace training that will give “practical examples aimed at instructing supervisors in the prevention of harassment, discrimination, and retaliation…”, and in this regard it stands to reason that that bullying at the workplace is ultimately the result of learned behavior at home and in our community.

Ford -Berry lost her teenage son Michael to suicide in 2008 which was his response to a bully culture at school; an all consuming hate-biased harassment experience over a rumor that he was gay convinced him there was no hope for his future. She learned after his death that the social environment our children navigate on campus is incredibly hostile and uncivil because relentless cyber-powered harassment, discrimination and retaliation are ignored and/or tolerated by the adults at school and at home. “This [AB2053] is standard, and the bottom line is if you work you are afforded this protection – meaning our educators are as well,” she said. “So when [educators] claim they don’t know what to do or how to do it; they should simply do for our children what they would do for themselves.”

Family culture and the bully mentality

A recent workplace webinar sponsored by HR Options in Walnut Creek featured Adam Fiss a representative of Littler Mendelson law firm, who addressed the implications for AB2053 from the standpoint of employers. His guidance is to “foster a culture of civility, communication and compliance” at the workplace. This is advice that would also make sense if your desire is to create a peaceful home and a harassment-free learning environment at school.

???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????The idea of creating a culture that is civil at home and school requires thought leadership today, because the norms for civil society that were held up in the community at large are much less so in modern, hyper-connected world. “I think we give too many passes to our children [for uncivil conduct],” Ford-Berry said. “I think poor parenting has created more broken hearts; mine included.”

Signs that your home may not be a ‘bully-free’ zone

  • Your child’s mobile phone is considered private; the parent does not check texting and social media posts to ensure there is a standard of civility
  • Raised voices and foul language are becoming the norm
  • Your children are allowed to make disparaging, hateful remarks about one another and others without correction
    Negative talk and gossip are tolerated as acceptable conversation, and/ or are considered a “phase” when the kids are cruel
  • Your children are spending a lot of time isolated from the family with their mobile devices.

Continue reading this article or for more about strategies for bully intervention at school, go to BRAVE Society.


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The stories behind child abuse and bullying numbers

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2796Consequences of abuse and bullying include physical and mental issues, cyclical abuse, relationship issues, and societal burdens.


Special to the Daily Record

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On Jan. 15, Stacy Pendarvis, program director for the Monique Burr Foundation for Children, educated the Jacksonville Women Lawyers Association about child abuse and bullying prevention.

During this continuing education luncheon, attorneys and professionals learned that cyberbullying and digital abuse affect millions of children in the U.S.

Pendarvis explained that one out of every seven children age 10-17 will be sexually solicited online and that more than half of all youths experience some form of cyberbullying. Girls are disproportionately affected.

images16The impact on Florida alone is staggering. Not only does Florida rank fourth in the nation for the volume of child pornography produced, but the economic impact of child sexual abuse treatment is more than $9 billion annually.

Statistics show 70 percent of children and teenagers admit to hiding their online activities from parents. Much to the shock of many in the room, Pendarvis said the fourth most frequently searched term by children under the age of 7 is “porn.”

She explained there are text codes youths use, such as “Code 9” to indicate there is a parent in the room. Other codes are more sinister, such as “GKY” (go kill yourself) or “GNOC” (get naked on camera).

Many of these childhood victims of abuse or bullying are exposed to multiple forms of victimization and maltreatment, known as polyvictimization. For instance, a child bullied at school is more likely to experience later sexual abuse or physical assault.

There are various pathways to victimization, which the Monique Burr Foundation is seeking to prevent through early childhood education. The foundation has developed a program called Child Safety Matters that is offered at no cost to public schools throughout Florida; Duval County has mandated this program this coming year. Students in kindergarten to sixth grade are taught “no blame, no shame” rules about abuse and bullying. Within four weeks of participating in these programs, more than 40 percent of schools report at least one child disclosing sexual abuse or bullying.

“Don’t think it’s not happening in our communities, to our kids,” Pendarvis said.

The foundation offers a program to empower adults with the knowledge and skills to protect the children in our communities. To find out more, visit MBFChildSafeyMatters.Org.

The next JWLA luncheon, at 11:45 a.m. Feb. 12 at The River Club, will feature Kevin Gay, who will discuss mass incarceration and its impact on poverty in America. Visit JWLA.org to RSVP.


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Anti-Bullying Expert Launches Toolkit to Help Educators, Parents, and Students Address Bullying

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With widespread violence sweeping the nation as a result of bullying, Christi Monk & Associates is pleased to announce the launch of a free bullying toolkit to provide schools and their surrounding communities with guidance that supports a bully-free environment.


gI_90307_bullying_toolkit_cover_small2The Creating a Culture of Connectedness bullying toolkit is available in three variations for educators, parents, and students so that each segment can clearly understand how to prevent and identify bullying behaviors.

The Creating a Culture of Connectedness bullying toolkit was written and developed by Dr. Christi Monk, DM, of Christi Monk and Associates. Dr. Monk received her doctoral degree in Management of Organizational Leadership Studies from the University of Phoenix, is a graduate and certified trainer of the Workplace Bullying Institute, and leadership consultant. Dr. Monk learned through these accomplishments, experiencing bullying firsthand, and extensive research that bullying behaviors are learned at the onset of childhood and that the behavior is likely to continue as an adult in the workplace if it is not properly addressed. All of these elements motivated Dr. Monk to create the toolkit in order to confront bullying early on so that it doesn’t continue throughout one’s life.


3“Although bullying is not 100% preventable, I have developed a strategy that allows parents, educators, and students to step in and do something before bullying occurs or when they see it taking place,” said Dr. Christi Monk, DM. This toolkit is the framework that will catapult schools and communities into developing comprehensible, sustainable programs and initiatives to support school safety and improve learning.”


“Bullying prevention and awareness is the responsibility of everyone.


Tips the Toolkit Mentions:

For Educators: Next to parents, educators spend the most time with students and have the ability to influence them positively and negatively. One trick of the trade is to have students define what bullying looks like to them and use those words to frame the rules of the classroom, and hold the students accountable when those actions occur.

5390776273993728For Parents: Only 16% of parents report bullying to the school. This is indicative that there are opportunities for parents to connect with their children on a deep level to intervene before it is too late. Create a safe home environment first. By doing so, your child will be more prone to sharing his or her negative experiences at school.

For Students: Know your rights as a student. Do not remain silent. When you witness bullying, report it to an adult immediately.
The free toolkit is available here and on Christi Monk and Associate’s website. Dr. Monk and her staff also offer anti-bullying seminars and leadership trainings for schools and organizations nationwide. Visit http://www.christimonk.com for more information.


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About Christi Monk & Associates

Christi Monk & Associates was developed as a conduit for improving how organizations foster cultures that improve leadership behaviors while enhancing and sustaining employee and student engagement. We partner with small to mid-size businesses (public and non-profit), schools, CEOs, HR professionals, and advocacy groups for anti-bullying, leadership coaching, and conflict resolution services


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Bullying Not Allowed in Alberta Schools – Including Bullying Based on Sexual Orientation

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Alberta’s School Act requires school boards to ensure that students enrolled in their schools are provided with a safe and caring environment that fosters and maintains respectful and responsible behaviours.


???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????The Alberta Legislature is concerned with bullying in schools, as evidenced by its recent discussion of Bill 202, Safe and Inclusive Schools Statutes Amendment Act, 2014, and Bill 10, An Act to Amend the Alberta Bill of Rights to Protect our Children. It again is timely to highlight the court’s involvement and the important role school boards have with respect to eliminating bullying in the school environment.

Although Bills 202 and 10 are not currently law, the common law in relation to bullying has developed such that there is a legal obligation on school boards to protect students from bullying. The high profile 2005 British Columbia Court of Appeal case School District No. 44 (North Vancouver) v. Jubran is an unfortunate example of homophobic bullying and the failure of the school to address homophobic insults and harassment.

The B.C. Human Rights’ Tribunal ruled in favour of Azmi Jubran’s human rights complaint of homophobic bullying at school. Jurban, who did not self-identify as gay, had suffered five years of homophobic insults and harassment by other students. Based on the extensive evidence provided to the Tribunal, it found Jubran had been subjected to harassment on a prohibited ground of discrimination and sexual orientation. The North Vancouver School Board was held to have been responsible for the discrimination because it failed to provide an educational environment free from discriminatory harassment. Put another way, it had not done enough to stop the harassment.

Another case reported that a parent was suing an Ottawa school board because her daughter suffered depression and anxiety allegedly as a result of repeated bullying and harassment. She was seeking over $300,000 in damages arising from the school board’s failure to protect her daughter from these events. A settlement was reached. In October, 2010, Law Times reported that four families were suing a school board in southwestern Ontario because their children were allegedly being harassed. They were seeking $35 million in damages.

School Board Duties
School boards owe duty of care to the students under their care and supervision. The law of negligence requires individuals and school boards to take reasonable steps to counter foreseeable risks of injury to those to whom a duty of care is owed. The standard of school boards to its students has been determined by the Court is that of a “reasonable and prudent parent.”

09_LOVE_fixAlberta school boards are also responsible for ensuring that their services do not discriminate against students based on any of the protected grounds in Alberta’s Human Rights Act, and for providing a discrimination-free educational environment. School boards may take the following steps to provide a safe and caring school environment, including providing an environment which is free from homophobic conduct:

  • Promote a climate of understanding and mutual respect so that all students are treated equally with dignity and respect;
  • Identify inappropriate student conduct, including scenarios where students are not treated with dignity and respect, and address these cases in a timely fashion;
  • Continue to educate students about the importance of maintaining a non-discriminatory, tolerant, and respectful school environment; and
  • Continue to educate teachers about available tools to educate their students on respectful behaviours, including:
  • Teach students about the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms and equality rights;
  • Teach students about the importance of tolerance including sexual orientation and gender expression;
  • Promote and talk about the schools’ codes of conduct;
  • Work with students to understand that discriminatory homophobic is not tolerated in schools; and
  • Invite outside speakers to talk to students and teachers about homophobia and other discriminatory behaviours.

images (27)If you are responsible for dealing with bullying or cyberbullying, we recommend you read Nova Scotia’s Task Force Report on Bullying and Cyberbulling: Respectful and Responsible Relationships: There’s No App for That, by Wayne MacKay,CM, QB, Chair Nova Scotia Task Force on Bullying and Cyberbullying.


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New bullying website launched

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6328791100030976A NEW website designed to support and offer assistance to people who suffer bullying in employment has been established.

The site has been set up by Highlands and Islands Labour MSP Rhoda Grant, and has been named Tobie (Tackling Oppressive Behaviour in Employment). It can be found at www.tobie.org.uk

Ms Grant said: “It is a sad reflection on society in the 21st century when bullying is rife within the work place as well as at schools, colleges and in other forms of life.


The individual who suffers at the hands of bullies is scarred for a very long time if not for life.


NV1053” Such behaviour causes mental health issues to the innocent sufferer who is subject to bouts of anxiety, depression, stress, associated illnesses and ultimately absence from work.”

Alisa McDowell, a spokeswoman for the Moray branch of the Unison union, added: “Employees have a right to expect to be treated with dignity and respect in the workplace.

“For those who suffer it, bullying is a humiliating and distressing experience. It is the role of a trade union to ensure that the risks of bullying at work are minimised and, where it does occur, it is dealt with promptly and appropriately.”


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Britain’s Got Talent: Nottinghamshire’s Combat Bullying children to take to the stage

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VICTIMS of bullying will take to the Britain’s Got Talent stage to raise awareness of what children face in schools today.

Nottinghamshire charity Combat Bullying will send 21 youngsters who have suffered at the hands of bullies to perform on the TV talent show this Sunday.

They bagged an audition after sending in a video of themselves performing their song Tell the Teacher, hoping to inspire others to come forward if they are being taunted or intimidated.

Bullying victim Charlie Turner, 9, of Toton, said: “I was bullied in year three and I don’t want this to happen to anyone else. This is why we made the song to stop it.”


8127893-noen-----n-n-n--n--nAt the start of November, Combat Bullying launched the country’s first free 24-hour anti-bullying helpline.


The song was originally made to coincide with the launch of the support service and anti-bullying month.



Sam Thorpe, 9, also of Toton, said: “I am doing this because I have been bullied in the first year of my school and I was really upset about it. When my mum told me about this I really wanted to do it.”

Natalie Harvey founded Combat Bullying having been bullied herself for having curly, ginger hair.

The 37-year-old mother-of-two said: “We are rehearsing every day this week and it is all going great.

“Some of the kids asked if we could send it to BGT. I wasn’t sure to begin with, but after sending a video we were asked to go for an audition.

“The kids have raised their own funds to rent a coach to get there and they are all working very hard.

“They are incredibly excited and it is taking over our lives. We just wanted to raise awareness and the song has already boosted our profile – which we use to help those who are being bullied.”



All those taking part have been practicing in the community room at Tesco Extra in Swiney Way, Toton.

Tesco community champion Tracie Basra, of Harrison Road, Stapleford, said everyone at the store was really excited to support such a worthy act.???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

The 50-year-old, whose 13-year-old daughter is a soloist, said: “My daughter was bullied when she was younger and it had a big impact on her.

“When she started with Combat Bullying she was very shy and didn’t speak a lot but now she has a solo part. They can go all the way but as long as it raises awareness of bullying that’s the main thing.”


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Does Cyber Harassment affect Employees? A Survey

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Cyberbullying is becoming more and more prevalent. Children, celebrities and campaigners are among those who have experienced abuse, whilst evidence suggests that it is also becoming a problem in workplaces.


4727417010651136In the past decade communication technologies have increasingly infiltrated the workplace. For instance, UK office workers send and receive 10,000 emails per year according to researchers at Warwick Business School. Many of these will be generic work requests, a few might be impolite and some could be downright abusive.

There are reasons to believe that cyberbullying behaviours perpetrated in the organisational context are more subtle than those observed among children and adolescents. This is because employees are bound by regulations that prohibit explicit abuse aimed at co-workers and adults may have developed the capacity to disguise bullying behaviours. Despite this, workplace cyberbullying can still cause harm as researchers have linked it to low job satisfaction, mental strain and intention to quit the organisation.

Examples of workplace cyberbullying can include online threats, overly critical emails and the distribution of embarrassing pictures and personal information. Aspects of computer mediated communication mean that workplace cyberbullying differs from offline workplace bullying in several key ways. For instance, it is possible for perpetrators to remain anonymous, the perpetrator and victim are often in different locations when messages are distributed and cyber acts can be seen by a much larger audience. Furthermore, certain acts of cyberbullying are more permanent than the transience of offline bullying acts and they can be experience by employees outside of the work environment.

Before in-depth research can address workplace cyberbullying it is critical to develop valid and reliable tools to measure it. This is the focus of a study being run by researchers at the University of Sheffield. If you are employed and would like to take part in the study please click on the link below.

Researchers from the University of Sheffield are working with the support of No Bullying to identify how negative behaviours conducted through technology can impact employee health, job satisfaction and working relationships. People are increasingly using technology to communicate with their colleagues. It is therefore important to investigate how negative technology-mediated behaviours affect employees.

If you are employed and would like to contribute to knowledge on cyberbullying within the context of work, we would like to invite you to take a short survey on negative technological experiences, job satisfaction, health and work engagement.

To obtain data that will give a casual indication of how negative technological behaviours affect people, we need to collect data now and again in six months’ time. Therefore we would like to invite you to complete this survey now as well as a second survey that will be distributed in six months.

This study has been ethically approved by the Sheffield University Management School. All responses are anonymous and strictly confidential. You are also free to withdraw from the study at any time by closing the web page. To participate in the study click on this link.


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Sam Farley is a doctoral researcher at Sheffield University Management School – email sjfarley1@sheffield.ac.uk twitter: @sam_farley3


Cyberbullying in the Workplace, Study and Survey Covered by NoBullying Today


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Bullying in fast Forward

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Photo courtesy of Times-Herald.com
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Each week I receive hundreds of emails about “BULLYING” and the effects it has on individuals and society as a whole, with my now busy schedule unfortunately I don’t get a chance to read them all rather I have to pick and choose which ones I will read and or post.
So knowing that, I am going to share a few of my personal selections and you can decide which are most important to you or not. Thank you for following along with B.P, and for your support because the end to “BULLYING” starts with you.
By Terry Kinden – November 10, 2014


LETS BULLY….”HATE”.









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Astronaut Scott Kelly Has a Great Anti-Bullying Message for National Bullying Prevention Awareness Month

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Listen up, Earthlings


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If a victim were capable of fixing things on their own, the world would have no problems. As NASA astronaut Scott Kelly points out, it’s important not to just be a bystander but instead to speak out when you see something that’s unacceptable in society—whether it’s bullying or anything else. It’s important to have vocal allies. If you won’t take it from me, take it from a spaceman.

You may remember astronaut Scott Kelly as the man who will embark on a year-long mission in space to investigate space’s effects on the human body with the help of his twin brother in March 2015. Kelly recorded this message about standing up against bullying to promote October’s National Bullying Prevention Awareness month and the federal government’s push to stop bullying.

“I felt compelled to act after hearing about the various cases of bullying around the country last year. I thought of my own daughters, and I recalled my experiences as a child watching other kids bully others without accountability,” Kelly said. “Bullying affects not only the child adversely but also stunts our growth as a society. It is everyone’s responsibility to stand up against bullying.”



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S.Korean thriller ‘Socialphobia’ tackles cyber bullying

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The cast of 'Socialphobia'. This thriller about Internet-obsessed youngsters is seeking to shed light on a growing culture of cyber-bullying in a country with one of the world's highest youth suicide rates
The cast of ‘Socialphobia’. This thriller about Internet-obsessed youngsters is seeking to shed light on a growing culture of cyber-bullying in a country with one of the world’s highest youth suicide rates

SEOUL: A new South Korean thriller about Internet-obsessed youngsters is seeking to shed light on a growing culture of cyber-bullying in a country with one of the world’s highest youth suicide rates.

“Socialphobia”, which received its world premier at the 19th Busan International Film Festival on Saturday, follows two nascent cyberbullies who become targets themselves.

The first feature film by director Hong Seok-Jae offers a vivid, detailed portrayal of the South’s vibrant yet highly volatile online landscape, where a petty online debate can quickly escalate.

South Korea is one of the world’s most wired nations, with broadband Internet omnipresent and more than 70 percent of the population owning smartphones.

Major Internet portals prominently display hourly updates on the latest trending topics — a practice critics accuse of fanning a herd mentality.

Aggressive cyber bullying, especially targeting celebrities, has been blamed for numerous suicides in recent years including the death of a leading actress in 2008.

It is against this backdrop that the film’s main characters — aspirant police officers named Kim Ji-Woong and Ha Yong-Min — get embroiled in an Internet witch hunt involving a young woman.

Angered by her tweet about a young soldier killed on duty, netizens unearth the woman’s real name, photo and home address.

A group of young men, including Kim and Ha, then organise a trip — live broadcast on a video-streaming website — to her home where they find her dead after apparently hanging herself.

The two young men then become the targets of a cyber backlash, as they are blamed for her suicide.

Seeking redemption, the boys convince themselves that the girl was murdered and set out to investigate her past.

The plot and its characters were inspired by real-life events and Internet commentators, Hong said in an interview with AFP.

“South Korea has such an overgrown Internet community where young people continually form an anonymous clique and look for a battle against some perceived ‘enemy’,” the 31-year-old said.

“For many, bullying seems to have become another form of online game they play,” he added.


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Asperger syndrome and bullying

6227859819462656bully.previewI often get asked what I think is most important in protecting young people diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome (AS) from bullying. I certainly don’t have all the answers, but I do have an answer for this particular question. My answer is always this, “Proactive, trained adults are the key to successful bullying prevention.” Having said this, one of the most crucial aspects of this training must include providing adults with the information they need in order to identify individuals who are extremely high-risk for being targeted. This will enable them to more effectively prevent bullying and intervene when it occurs.

There are a lot of myths surrounding bullying. “Boys will be boys,” “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger,” “Bullying is just human nature, a fact of life,” “Kids can be so cruel,” and my least favorite, “We don’t allow bullying here. We have a zero tolerance policy.” The facts are less palatable. Every day 160,000 children do not go to school because they are afraid of being bullied. Moderate to severe physical and psychological symptoms and disorders can occur as a consequence of being bullied (or from taking on the role of the bully). School avoidance, refusal, and eventually withdrawal can result when children are bullied. Furthermore, there is considerable agreement among many bullying experts that zero tolerance not only doesn’t prevent bullying, it may in fact cause additional problems; including but not limited to, an increase in suspensions and expulsions and a lack of real change in the attitudes affecting school culture.

According to the research of Dr. Liza Little, 94% of children and youth with AS are bullied. Compared to studies of the general population, kids with AS are four times more by their peers or siblings. In my own experiences with facilitating a parent support group for parents of children diagnosed with AS, working as a counselor at a camp for children of all ages with AS, and other relationships and correspondence working and learning from individuals with AS, I feel the incidence of bullying is closer to 100%.

Accordingly, children and youth with AS are over represented in the 5-10% of individuals who are so frequently, chronically, and too often severely bullied and excluded that if they do not receive significant support from adults, they will most likely not be able to progress positively in school and certainly will not reach their potential.

What can adults do in light of these sobering facts? We start by truly understanding and acknowledging the vulnerability of individuals with AS and actively seeking information from them about their social experiences. Because of their high-risk status and social deficits, I feel strongly that students with AS should be given a bullying survey followed by an individual interview concerning their social experiences at school and elsewhere. Special attention should be given to whether they are experiencing any verbal, physical, or social bullying, including peer shunning. Peer shunning is the act of ignoring or excluding someone. Dr. Little identifies a high incidence of peer shunning experienced by individuals with AS, which continues to increase throughout the school years and peaks in high school. Where there is peer shunning, there is social isolation. Social isolation, or being alone, increases the risk of being bullied and decreases the likelihood of peer protection when bullying occurs.

In my book, Perfect Targets: Asperger Syndrome and Bullying–Practical Solutions for Surviving the Social World, I included a modified bullying survey called the “Modified Inventory of Wrongful Activities.” This survey states questions clearly and concisely, using examples to help clarify the intent of social language and nonverbal communication. Unfortunately, some individuals with AS are not even aware when that they are being bullied because of their social naivety and impaired social cognition. As a result, adults must be exceptionally vigilant in their observations and be willing to do additional detective work when problems occur involving the social arena. It has been my experience that sometimes well-meaning adults are often too quick to point out a social error the child with AS has made when such issues occur. This may contribute to further victimization because individuals with AS are very likely to make social blunders or errors because of the innate characteristics of their disability. Since many people who experience chronic, frequent bullying carry a lot of self-blame and shame, we must be careful not to add on any further blame and shame. We cannot expect the most vulnerable, least empowered individual, the child with AS who is being bullied, to fix the problem.

Another critical aspect of our adult role in bullying prevention is to address low-level bullying when it occurs in our presence or is reported to us. When low-level bullying is ignored or even encouraged, it implies acceptance and further victimizes the targeted child. It also creates a heightened sense of hopelessness and feeds the tendency of children not to go to adults for help. A few examples of low-level bullying are name-calling, other types of put-downs, nonverbal gestures and “dirty” looks, and intentionally leaving someone out of a group activity. These are common occurrences in the school environment and only a sampling of the types of bullying children experience. Unfortunately, research indicates that adults almost always underestimate the extent and impact of bullying compared to what students report they are experiencing. Research also indicates a “culture of silence” where children do not report bullying and hold low expectations for the amount of support and help adults will give them. Obviously, we need to be more diligent in our awareness of bullying and our responses when it occurs or is reported to us.

An equally important adult responsibility is to make sure that we model the behaviors we require from our students or our own children. Efforts to impact the behavior and attitudes of our children will fail miserably if we as adults do not hold ourselves to the same or higher levels of respect and accountability. The use of sarcasm is a common type of adult bullying and though it may be useful in the short term at controlling behavior, it comes at the expense of humiliating and angering our youth. For children with AS who may already be experiencing bullying by their peers and have less social support, this can create even more vulnerability and may contribute to them becoming a scapegoat for an entire class or school community. Adult acceptance, support, and protection are extremely critical for any child in this situation. Having an adult take action, take a stand, or even take an interest in this child can make all the difference. Bullying prevention programs are not just programs for kids. Adults play a key role. We have a long way to go before we can expect our children to trust that we are committed to making a difference where bullying is concerned, but the stakes are high and it is worth the effort. Students who are bullied are less likely to succeed in school and are more likely to experience potentially serious psychological and/or physical consequences, including contemplating or committing suicide, as a result of being bullied. It matters less what we say; what matters most is what we do.

Rebekah Heinrichs M.S.N., M.S. Ed. earned a Master’s degree in pediatric nursing (University of Kentucky, 1982) and a Master’s degree in special education/autism and Asperger Syndrome (University of Kansas, 2001) and is the author of Perfect Targets: Asperger Syndrome and Bullying–Practical Solutions for Surviving the Social World

Rebekah Heinrichs M.S.N., M.S. Ed. Courtesy of APPC

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United Nations “Join our International Youth Day…”

5963225073975296Do you want to commemorate International Youth Day, but are unsure how? Then take a read through our IYD toolkit for some ideas to get you started!

International Youth Day
International Youth Day is commemorated on 12 August each year. UN DESA encourages all young people, youth structures, and civil society to celebrate and commemorate International Youth Day in a variety of ways. Many of you already have ideas or plans on what you want to do, but for those of you who aren’t quite sure, take a read through some of the ideas below!

Join our campaign
You can help commemorate IYD with the simple click of a button! Join our online campaign running from 12 June- 12 August 2014. Use the to help spread the wo #MentalHealthMatters rd and reduce stigma surrounding youth with mental health conditions. Join our event page on Facebook to learn more about the campaign and how you can get involved.
We’ll be collecting submissions in the form of artwork, stories, and photos to be included in our celebrations on 12 August. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest to find out more! #MentalHealthMatters #UN4Youth

Organize an Event or Activity
One visible and interactive way to commemorate International Youth Day is by organising an event or activity in your school or community. Whether its 5 or 500 people, you can help celebrate the Day. Work with your youth structure, school or with some friends and/or colleagues to brainstorm about the type of event you want. From a discussion, to performance, online to offline, the possibilities are endless. Below are some suggested activities for you to consider: Seminars, lectures and debates: Initiate round table discussions among adults and young people to promote intergenerational understanding and partnerships on the issue of how to overcome stigma surrounding youth with mental health conditions.

To find out more, click here to view the Toolkit.

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Webinar: Perspectives on LGBT Suicide Prevention

hands-imgA webinar on the Prevention of LGBT Suicide and the Role of Health Professionals and Religious/Spiritual Advisors

Despite some improvements in public attitudes toward gay marriages and greater acceptance of homosexuality, disparities in suicide ideation and attempts between LGBT and heterosexual youth persist. New research indicates that few LGBT people sought help prior to attempting suicide and when LGBT people did seek help it was not effective in preventing suicide attempts. Further, counseling from a religious or spiritual advisor was associated with worse outcomes. Compared with individuals who did not seek help at all, those who sought help from a religious or spiritual advisor were more likely later to attempt suicide. Black LGBTs were also more likely than White or Latino LGBTs to seek treatment in religious or spiritual settings prior to a suicide attempt.

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Speakers:
Ilan H. Meyer, Ph.D., Williams Senior Scholar of Public Policy, Williams Institute, UCLA School of Law
Abbe Land, Executive Director, The Trevor Project
Ann Haas, Ph.D., Senior Consultant, American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
Rev. Delman Coates, Ph.D., Senior Pastor, Mt. Ennon Baptist Church

Discussant:
Peter Goldblum, Ph.D., Professor, Director of the Center for LGBTQ Evidence-based Applied Research (CLEAR), Palo Alto University

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Dr. Meyer will summarize recent research showing that, at least in the past, few LGBT people sought help prior to attempting suicide and when LGBT people did seek help it was not effective in preventing suicide attempts. Study respondents who sought mental health or medical treatment at some time prior to their suicide attempt (or, among those who did not attempt suicide, prior to the age when suicide might have been attempted) were as likely as respondents who did not seek any mental health treatment to have a suicide attempt or serious suicide attempt after this time. However, counseling from a religious or spiritual advisor was associated with worse outcomes. Compared with individuals who did not seek help at all, those who sought help from a religious or spiritual advisor were more likely later to attempt suicide.

Ms. Land will discuss the role of professionals and trained peer counselors in suicide prevention, especially related to LGBT youth. She will also describe preventive trainings, programs, and model policies offered by The Trevor Project, the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBT and questioning young people ages 13-24.

Dr. Haas will discuss advances and challenges in research of prevention of suicide in LGBT populations.

Rev. Coates is Senior Pastor of Mt. Ennon Baptist Church in Clinton, MD and President of the Black Church Center for Justice and Equality, committed to reclaiming the social justice tradition of the Black church. Rev. Coates believes in keeping the legacy of African American Christian activism and the responsibility of progressive faith leaders to further Christian love and American democracy. He will talk about why he believes it is important for African American pastors to dispel the myth the bible condemns homosexuality and the role of LGBT individuals in the Black church.

Dr. Goldblum is the co-editor of Youth Suicide and Bullying: Challenges and Strategies for Prevention and Intervention (forthcoming September 2014, Oxford University Press). Dr. Goldblum will discuss the four presentations and share from his own extensive experience as director of a clinic that specializes in working with LGBT people.
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