GLAAD launches countdown to Spirit Day 2016!


The degree and kind of a man’s sexuality reach up into the ultimate pinnacle of his spirit ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

pink-happy-heart-smiley-emoticonToday Sept 15, 2016 GLAAD launched the official countdown to Spirit Day, the largest and most visible campaign in the world working to advance acceptance of LGBTQ youth. Spirit Day takes place on October 20th and inspires millions around the world to wear purple or ‘go purple’ on their social media accounts, creating a united stand against bullying and in support of LGBTQ youth.

“Since its inception, Spirit Day has brought unparalleled attention to one of the most painful issues that disproportionately affects LGBTQ youthbullying,” said GLAAD President & CEO Sarah Kate Ellis. According to GLSEN’s most recent National School smilie-family-better3Climate Survey, 85% of LGBT students report they have been verbally harassed with 65% percent reporting that they have heard homophobic remarks frequently or often in school. GLSEN also reported that 30% of students missed at least one day of school in a given month because they felt unsafe or uncomfortable in their school environment. Ellis adds, “Young people are our future, and it’s imperative that we empower them to be the leaders of tomorrow. With updated anti-bullying resources in multiple languages, Spirit Day 2016 is sure to reach more youth than ever with messages of acceptance and support.”

Every year, Spirit Day draws the participation and suport of celebrities, corporations, media outlets, sports leagues, schools, faith institutions, national landmarks, and individuals. This year, Spirit Day is made gayheart possible by the generous support of its presenting partners Target and Wells Fargo, official partners, Dow, Google, NBA and WNBA, NFL, and WWE, and supporting partners, American Eagle Outfitters, Barilla, Chobani, Comcast NBCUniversal, Kellogg’s, Kirkland & Ellis, Toyota Financial Services, and Zipcar.

waving_crossed_gay_pride_flags“LGBTQ youth deserve the opportunity to reach their full potential. To be comfortable with and proud of who they are. To be free to be exactly who they were born to be, “said Laysha Ward, Executive Vice President & Chief Corporate Social Responsibility Officer, Target. “Target is excited to be a Spirit Day presenting partner, working with GLAAD to raise awareness around the issue of bullying in the LGBTQ youth community.”

“A child’s true potential should never be diminished by fear,” said John Lake, Wells Fargo’s LGBT segment leader. “We see Spirit Day as a powerful tool to raise awareness of the challenges faced by kids who identify as LGBTQ and to show our solidarity as an ally. We are committed to working alongside GLAAD to help combat bullying and protect LGBTQ youth – an effort that remains at the core of our decades-long commitment to the LGBTQ community.”

smileTo celebrate the countdown to Spirit Day, GLAAD also released crucial anti-bullying resources for educators, parents, and students. GLAAD’s Anti-Bullying Resource Kit provides tools and information teachers the aide in keeping bullying out of the classroom and help both teachers and parents support LGBTQ youth. Additionally, GLAAD released the Spirit Day Kit, which helps people of all ages bring Spirit Day directly to their community, including schools and local media outlets.

Coinciding with National Bullying Prevention Month, Spirit Day began in 2010 after a high untitled-1school student posted the idea to her Tumblr page following the suicide deaths of several LGBTQ and LGBTQ-perceived young people. Previous Spirit Day participants include The White House, The Empire State Building, Britney Spears, Oprah Winfrey, Ellen DeGeneres, Cher, Shaquille O’Neal, Good Morning America, The Today Show, The View, The Talk, The Tonight Show, the NBA, the NFL, Major League Baseball, NASCAR, WWE, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, the Las Vegas Strip, and more.


Spirit Day 2013

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Article by Colin Burke, Spirit Day Intern ~ Sept 15, 2016


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The BULLY Project!


“If they don’t like you for being yourself, be yourself even more.” ~ Taylor Swift



classThank you to our partners, Not in Our School and Facing History and Ourselves, as well as all of the other advocates who supported the campaign to add the word “upstander” to the dictionary. On July 24, 2016 the word was officially added to the Oxford Dictionary!


b-man-project2What would it look like if we had a community of Upstanders heading back to school this fall? Upstanders are the students who choose to speak up, the teachers who reach out, the principals who take new actions in their schools, and the parents who join together to raise awareness about bullying. Through The BULLY Project’s tools and resources that support social emotional learning, as well as creative programs like the Adobe Mural project, we hope to foster more Upstanders in our schools everyday. As we embark on a new school year, let us each take the opportunity to be an Upstander in our own lives and promote Upstanders in our schools and communities.


physicians campaignThe BULLY Project is excited to announce a new campaign that will change how physicians treat doctor-emoticonchildren exposed to bullying! On Friday, August 12th, 2016, The Physicians Campaign was introduced at the Federal Summit for Bullyng Prevention in Washington, DC.
Partnered with Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Adminisration (SAMHSA), Federal Partners in Bullying Prevention,, The NoBLE (No Bullying Live Empowered) Initiative of Beaumont nurse-smileyChildren’s Hospital, The Physicians Campaign will support medical practitioners throughout the nation through comprehensive tools and resources and an innovative medical educational program that features the film BULLY. Whether a child is a bully, victim, or witness, exposure to bullying can have intensive and sometimes lifelong health consequences, according to national studies. That’s why we are calling on all stakeholders, including you, to join our movement to end bullying! For further information contact


HeadphonesFor those times when we have felt like we just didn’t belong, the new band High Dive Heart has released the song “Misfit” as an anthem that celebrates 10being different. Touring with Colbie Caillat this fall, High Dive Heart has created an new music video that supports The BULLY Project. For every single of “Misfit” purchased, High Dive Heart will donate the proceeds to The BULLY Project. Our new friends at Apple Music have become fans and currently the High Dive Heart single is in the hot tracks section of the iTunes store. Please check out the song below and support our ongoing work!


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toolkitFrom Sacramento to Milwaukee, schools around the US are gearing up to use the Educator’s DVD and Toolkit in their classrooms this fall! Join the growing number of schools who are using the Educator’s Toolkit to take a stand against bullying in schools. The toolkit comes with resources to help ignite meaningful dialogue and prevent bullying by developing a respectful school community.
Check out how Michelle Lerner, Head of School at Welsh Hills in Granville Ohio is working hard to promote a safe school environment! Last year, students grades 5 – 9 attended a screening of BULLY as part of a wellness unit.
animated-smileys-television-014“All of our students were absolutely silent during the movie and for a few moments afterwards as well. They tried to put themselves in the shoes of some of the children profiled in the movie in order to understand how they might feel,” Lerner said. Welsh Hills recognises that promoting a culture of anti-bullying is a gradual process.
“Our challenges will be in helping students to internalise new attitudes and to recognise negative behaviours in themselves,” she said. This year, Welsh Hills will host a parent education night to screen BULLY and discuss how to recognise bullying, how the school addresses bullying, and how families can support their children at home!


donateGet creative with your classroom by contributing to the Adobe BULLY Project mural, a digital destination where people can share art, stories, and perspectives about bullying and its impact. Engage sport-handball-smiley-animiert_03_250x250your students in a dynamic and creative medium that allows them to express themselves honestly and create a meaningful dialogue with their peers about bullying. Participating in project-based learning like the BULLY Project Mural brings together social and emotional learning strategies that are aligned with the high-quality academic standards of the Common Core. To learn more about how to bring this activity to your classroom, click here.


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The Bystander Revolution


I believe that at the end of the century the use of words and general educated opinion will have altered so much that one will be able to speak of machines thinking without expecting to be contradicted. ~ Alan Turing

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Worried you’ll bring the bullying on yourself or make the situation worse if you step in? A solution from award-winning author Colum McCann.

Simple acts of kindness, courage, and inclusion anyone can use to take the power out of bullying.

smilie-sign23Bystander Revolution is a website offering practical, crowdsourced advice about simple things individuals can do to defuse bullying and help shift the culture. No matter who you are or what you’re facing, you can find personal stories, suggestions, and encouragement from someone who has dealt with a similar issue. Search by problem or solution to find tips from people who have been targets, people who have been bystanders, and even people who have bullied.

Try one of the ideas. Share one with a friend. You can be of real help right away. And if these ideas spread and become habits, it could change the dynamics forever.

Mission and History

hugBystander Revolution was founded by author and parent MacKenzie Bezos to create a source of direct, peer-to-peer advice about practical things individuals can do to help defuse bullying. The ultimate goal is the discussion and spread of simple habits of kindness, courage, and inclusion.

tabletThe site launched in April of 2014 with unscripted content from dozens of passionate students, leaders and celebrities— over 300 short videos for a wide variety of problems and situations, each with a focus on simple but powerful actions bystanders can take to help. In April of 2016, the site was updated to include a number of additional resources: written tips crowdsourced from contributors and partner organizations; discussion materials to facilitate the use of its videos in classrooms and clubs; and The Weekly Stand, an initiative to spread simple habits of action.

Special thanks to our Ambassadors for their work advising the organization and spreading the word about Bystander Revolution online, in the media, and in their communities. These include Ambassador and Strategic Advisor Monica Lewinsky, Ambassador and early contributor Lily Collins, and our Youth Ambassadors: Hannah Alper, Jillian Frantz, Bobby Frantz, Molly Hernandez, Shereen Pimentel, Kat Zouboulakis, Carleigh O’Connell, Liam Clive, Oliver Clive, Natalie Madrigal, Paris Kirk, Katherine Schug, Jiaqi Gao, Alisha Woods, Ashleigh Weldon, and Gurwinder Singh.


  1. Dr. Dorothy Espelage ~ a Professor of Child Development in the Department of Educational Psychology at the University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign.
  2. Gavin de Becker is the nation’s best-known expert on the prediction and management of violence.
  3. doctor-with-stethoscope-smiley-emoticonDr. James McGee served as the Director of Psychology and Director of Law Enforcement and Forensic Services at Sheppard Pratt Hospital in Baltimore, Maryland until his retirement in 2001.
  4. Nicholas Carlisle is a human rights attorney, psychotherapist and the Executive Director of No Bully.
  5. Dr. Philip Zimbardo is Professor Emeritus of Psychology at Stanford University, and taught previously at Yale, NYU and Columbia.

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Study Finds That Homophobic People Are Actually More Likely To Be Gay


Homophobia is more pronounced in individuals with an unacknowledged attraction to the same sex and who grew up with authoritarian parents who forbade such desires, a series of psychology studies demonstrates.

923004_10151331384711890_1479766938_nokEureka to actually hear or read it from a professional stand point as with these professionals at the University of Rochester in New York, the University of California and the University of Essex discovered through  psychological tests that individuals who identify as straight, often showed a strong attraction to the same sex, which I have many times over the years justified, (with reason, authoritarian parents ) that most of the hatred that was directed at me was not due of my sexuality at all but rather the realization that my sexuality represented the dark side of their own sexuality was what they really had issues of hatred dealing with or coming to terms with, not my sexuality, rightly so because 90% did eventually in a round about way bring it up in conversation or exited the closet. My many thanx for your hard work and research. In closing, through my own experiences and a life time of observations, I agree 100% with your findings. Terry.K 

stop-homophobia-d76466947A study has found that people who display homophobic tendencies are more likely to be gay.

Teams at the University of Rochester in New York, the University of California and the University of Essex found that individuals who identify as straight, often showed a strong attraction to the same sex in psychological tests.

Netta Weinstein, a lecturer at the University of Essex and the study’s lead author, said that

These individuals “may be threatened by gays and lesbians because homosexuals remind them of similar tendencies within themselves”.

The study analysed four separate experiments conduced in the US and Germany, which provided evidence that homophobia is in fact ‘external manifestation of repressed sexual desires’.

tumblr_n7vgfoXGtE1sp6e2vo1_r1_250Richard Ryan, a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester in New York, said that: “People who have homophobic attitudes, who are more prejudice or discriminatory against gay people, are themselves more likely to have a discrepancy between their unconscious attractions to same-sex partners than what they are aware of.

“Those people who have such discrepancies, who have really a split between their unconscious attraction and what they consciously say about themselves, are more likely to come from authoritarian homes.”

“If you are a parent who really believes your child should be straight, and when you use whatever means you can to convince them that they’re only good and worthy if they are, that would be very controlling and it creates a lot of conflict in the child.”

Professor Ryan concludes that the way that children process and resolve this information is yes-smileyto act out in a discriminatory or hateful way towards gay and lesbian people.

It’s hoped that the findings might help to explain the dynamics behind bullying and hate crimes.

Article for The Huffington Post UK by Sophie Brown ~ Posted: Jan 17, 2015

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Tyler Clementi’s parents open up about Rutgers freshman’s suicide in new interview


“Never do a wrong thing to make a friend–or to keep one.” ~ Robert E. Lee

Jane Clementi, second from right, the mother of Tyler Clementi, holds onto the arms of Ronnie Kroell, left, and Elliot London, as they walk across the George Washington Bridge in honer of Tyler’s memory and to bring attention to bullying awareness in a 2014 file photo. (Robert Sciarrino | The Star-Ledger) (Robert Sciarrino/The Star-Ledger)

Nearly five years after their son’s suicide, Tyler Clementi’s parents say they are not even close to “healed,” according to an interview scheduled to air Sunday.

tylerJane and Joe Clementi talked about the aftermath of the high-profile death of their son with reporter Erin Moriarty from “CBS Sunday Morning with Charles Osgood.”

Tyler jumped off the George Washington Bridge in 2010. A few days earlier Tyler learned his roommate at Rutgers University used a webcam to share video of the freshman in an intimate encounter with another man.

“Not even near healed,” Jane Clementi said in excerpts of the interview released Thursday by CBS. “I don’t know what ‘healed’ will be like. I don’t even know that there’s a word for healing. I think it’s learning to live through the pain.”

After Tyler’s suicide became a national story, the Clementi family started a foundation in his memory. The Tyler Clementi Foundation is focused on ending bullying.

The foundation is starting a new anti-bullying campaign, according to the CBS report. The “Day One” initiative will ask people to declare on the first day of school or work that they will never treat others differently because of their faith, sex, dress or looks.

In their interview, the Clementis talk about what they should have done differently when Tyler revealed to his parents that he was gay.

images (1)“I think a lot of parents hide,” Jane Clementi said, according to the interview excerpt. “And they don’t talk about their gay children. And they don’t share what’s happening in their gay children’s lives. And, I know when Tyler told me he was gay, what I really wanted was a person of faith, another Christian mom, to go and talk to. But, you know, no one in my faith community ever talked about having a gay child. No one had a gay relative – there was no ‘gay’ in our church.”

The family said they have not planned what they will do on Sept. 22, the fifth anniversary of Tyler’s death. But, they continue to talk about the lessons learned from their experience.

“Don’t underestimate what your child is going through,” Joe Clementi, Tyler’s father, said in the interview. “Even though you may not think it’s a big deal, they may think it’s the end of the world.”

reminder-smiley-faceThe interview airs Sunday at 9 a.m.
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Nova Scotia cyber-bullying law continues to spur debate


6i3zxbkmTwo years later, Cyber Safety Act, written after the death of Rehtaeh Parsons, is criticized for being too broad and praised for being effective

Wayne MacKay, a professor in human rights law at Dalhousie University thinks the legislation is doing its job, although he feels there should be different standards for adults, and accused cyber-bullies should have the chance to defend themselves before a case reaches court.
Wayne MacKay, a professor in human rights law at Dalhousie University thinks the legislation is doing its job, although he feels there should be different standards for adults, and accused cyber-bullies should have the chance to defend themselves before a case reaches court.
HALIFAX—An overwhelming majority of complaints filed under Nova Scotia’s anti-cyber-bullying law have been resolved out of court, proof that the law is working, supporters of the legislation say.

Two years after it was passed in April 2013, the bill still faces criticism from legal experts who say it threatens freedom of expression.

The legislation is the first of its kind in Canada.
Two challenges aimed at striking down the controversial law are before the courts, and, in a separate case, an order under the Cyber Safety Act was overturned by the Nova Scotia Supreme Court on grounds it violated charter rights.

But a member of Nova Scotia’s CyberScan unit, established under the act to crack down on cyber-bullying, said there is a side of the law the public doesn’t hear about as much.

Of the 559 complaints of cyber-bullying filed with CyberScan, only two have proceeded to court, with the rest resolved through informal negotiations, said Dana Bowden, one of the five investigators with the unit.

“We’ve had a great deal of success,” Bowden said. Bowden said the unit’s goal is to educate and resolve rather than be punitive.

bg5gtu“I think once you’re able to speak with individuals and they have an understanding of the fact that there is a law in Nova Scotia around cyber-bullying, and how that law works . . . people seem to be getting that message.”

Under the act, people who say they have been victims of cyber-bullying can also bypass the CyberScan unit and apply to a justice of the peace for a protection order. Fewer than 10 protection orders have been issued since the law’s creation in 2013.

One of those was revoked in March, in the case of Debert businessman Jonathan Baha’i, who was accused of posting defamatory information online about his former landlord Anton Self. A judge originally issued a one-year protection order, which included a ban on Baha’i communicating with or about Self, in November 2014.
Lawyer and privacy expert David Fraser, an outspoken critic of the act, said such orders violate the right to free speech.

“Anything that limits what you can or do say on its face infringes section 2B of the charter,” said Fraser, who represents the complainants in the two current court challenges.
Fraser said the legislation, written less than three weeks after the death of Rehtaeh Parsons, was done so in haste.

“My concern with the legislation is that it’s so grotesquely over-broad. It captures a whole lot of stuff that you or I would not even consider to be cyber-bullying.”

12549judge_001Judge Gerald Moir made similar comments when he revoked the protection order on Baha’i in the Supreme Court.
“A neighbour who calls to warn that smoke is coming from your upstairs windows causes fear. A lawyer who sends a demand letter by fax or e-mail causes intimidation,” Moir said in his ruling.

“Each is a cyber-bully according to the literal meaning of the definitions (of the law), no matter the good intentions of the neighbour, (or) the just demand of the lawyer.”
Fraser said it irks him that the judge had to go to such lengths to interpret the legislation.

“The fact that a judge has to essentially rewrite a key part of the law in order to make it make sense, in the context of what it’s intended to do — that tells me that the legislature did not do a good enough job in being clear about what it was trying to do,” he said.
But Wayne MacKay, a professor in human rights law at Dalhousie University, doesn’t see the judge’s comments as condemnations of the act.

“Some would certainly argue that the definition of cyber-bullying itself may be too broad,” said MacKay, who chaired the cyber-bullying task force ordered by the government after Parsons died.
“But another way — and that’s what happened in this case — is to say, ‘Well, we’ll take it on a case-by-case basis.’ ”

There are a couple of things MacKay said he would change about the act: having different standards for adults, as opposed to youth, and giving accused cyber-bullies the chance to defend themselves before a case reaches court.

But overall, MacKay thinks the legislation is doing its job.
“I think the act is a necessary and positive addition to giving victims some remedies they didn’t have before.”

Article posted Fri May 01 2015 Posted by Leah Collins Lipsett The Canadian Press — Follow @leahgcl on Twitter


Section Two of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms

judge-smiley-emoticon-1Section 2 of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms is the section of the Constitution of Canada that lists what the Charter calls “fundamental freedoms” theoretically applying to everyone in Canada, regardless of whether they are a Canadian citizen, or an individual or corporation. These freedoms can be held against actions of all levels of government and are enforceable by the courts. The fundamental freedoms are freedom of expression, freedom of religion, freedom of thought, freedom of belief, freedom of peaceful assembly, and freedom of association.

Section 1 of the Charter permits Parliament or the provincial legislatures to enact laws that place certain kinds of limited restrictions on the freedoms listed under section 2. Additionally, these freedoms can be temporarily invalidated by the notwithstanding clause of the Charter.

As a part of the Charter and of the larger Constitution Act, 1982, section 2 took legal effect on April 17, 1982. Many of its rights, however, have roots in Canada in the 1960 Canadian Bill of Rights (although this law was of limited effectiveness), and in traditions under a theorized Implied Bill of Rights. Many of the freedoms, such as freedom of expression, have also been at the centre of federalism disputes.

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doctor-emoticonPriya Vedi, a doctor in India, slit her wrists in a hotel room after she wrote a suicide note on Facebook, which was shared more than 3,500 times. From India Today:


dishaBengali actress Disha Ganguly, known for her role in the popular sitcom Tumi Ashbey Bole, committed suicide on April 9. Her boyfriend found her body hanging in her house. Officials believe she committed suicide due to social pressures regarding her lesbian relationship with another actress. Her death showcases the harsh treatment of LGBT people in Asia.

“A few months back, this actress friend of Ganguly, started staying at her apartment,” explained one police official. “Soon, Ganguly’s mother arrived from Nairobi (where her parents reside) and objected to their relationship. Her mother even got her friend to move out of the apartment.”

Ganguly was engaged to Vivaan Ghosh, a fellow actor, at the time this second relationship allegedly began. Her parents pushed her to accept his marriage proposal. With pressure from her parents, boyfriend, and girlfriend, police believe “she gave in to death.” After her actress friend found out about Ganguly’s suicide, she attempted to throw herself in front of a train. The locals saved her and she is currently in the hospital.

winking-smiley-carried-sad-angry-ones-3871588Homosexual acts are illegal in 78 countries, including Bangladesh and India. In December 2014, a survey found that 59% of the gays in Bangladesh live in fear of being outed. These laws force LGBT people to leave their families and countries.

Joleen, a Singapore native now known as Joe Wong, was beaten and forced into therapy by her family. She eventually escaped and changed into a man in Bangkok. Joe is now working with the Asia-Pacific Transgender Network rights group.

“I’ve never been more at home than now, even though I’m not at home,” he claimed. “I removed everything that was bringing me down. I removed the toxic people in my life. Now it’s just me and my problems that I have to confront,” said Wong, who did not identify the abusive relative to avoid further straining family ties, “I feel really liberated.”

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One LGBT School’s Effort to Stop Bullying Starts Young


Computer-Training“Why not now?” he asked, noting that as the country grapples with marriage equality, it will inevitably have to deal with questions of how to better support LGBT families and their children. “This school has always been needed.”

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It was 2007 when Christian Zsilavetz, a math teacher, started volunteering with a parents’ support group for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender youths at Seattle’s Children’s Hospital. The group was about 40 members strong and met one Sunday each month in the hospital, tucked away behind the lush green foliage of downtown Emerald City. Zsilavetz was already a few years into his own gender transition and, with two decades of teaching experience, decided to help out with the group’s child care. Parents drove hours just to be part of the group. Soon, Zsilavetz could see why.

“You’ve got a lot of gender nonconforming and trans youth on the spectrum, and they don’t fit the mold of most public and private schools,” Zsilavetz, now 45, told TakePart. “There’s still not a lot of room for those pink princess boys.”

In the years since, Zsilavetz, who identifies as a transgender man, started a family of his own. Today, he and his wife have two children: a son, who’s three, and a daughter, who’s six. They consider themselves a transgender family. In 2012, Zsilavetz’s wife got a job at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The family moved to Atlanta and quickly became part of the city’s thriving gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender community, and Zsilavetz took the bold step of starting a school catering specifically to families like his own.

That project, called Pride School, is set to open Atlanta in August. It will be open to K–12 students and is looking to enroll 10–15 students for the upcoming school year. Annual tuition is expected to be $12,000. Students and parents will get access to the school’s gender-neutral bathrooms, the ability to choose their own gender pronouns, and a test-free curriculum built entirely around students’ interests.

SmileyComputerDisconnectedThe idea of an LGBT-specific school isn’t new; New York City’s Harvey Milk High School has been around for two decades. But opening one that so openly challenges gender norms and caters to children as young as four years old is more unconventional. Statistics are scarce, but there’s been a general recognition among researchers that many LGBT youths are coming out at earlier ages. One study found that gay and bisexual boys experience their first same-sex attraction around age eight, and for girls it’s even earlier. Researchers at San Francisco State University released a survey that found many LGBT adults recount being bullied for flouting gender norms throughout their years in school.

But for Zsilavetz, the idea isn’t so much about catering to children who experience bullying because of their own gender or sexual identity. It’s about reaching LGBT parents and teachers who often have to hide behind the rigid gender norms of the schools where they work and send their children.

“We’re not the gay kids’ school,” Zsilavetz said. “Our school is about a community within a community. You’ll have straight parents with queer kids, queer parents with straight kids, along with queer and straight educators.” Teachers are already contacting him about jobs. Some are LGBT people hoping to work in a more open environment.

Still, the school has an uphill climb before it becomes reality. It’s still trying to secure space, and Zsilavetz says students and staff will start crowdsourcing campaigns in about two weeks to raise tuition and salary costs. It also doesn’t have accreditation, which apparently isn’t an issue for younger students. Older students will be able to dually enroll in online programs to meet accreditation standards. But Zsilavetz says the timing is right.

Article published March 28, 2015 By Jamilah King

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Columbia Middle School students make anti-bullying video


PCWhen people hurt you over and over, think of them like sand paper; They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up useless. **Chris Colfer**

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COLUMBIA STATION, Ohio – Students from a Lorain County middle school have united to create an anti-bullying video. The video, which was posted to YouTube on Friday , was created by students at Columbia Middle School.
According to the YouTube description , students in the CMS advanced technology class, including Jill Grzywna and Danielle Roginsky, helped craft the video after numerous hours of shooting and editing.

You can watch the video below: Published on Mar 20, 2015

clapper-clapper-film-movie-smiley-emoticon-000232-largeTwitter: cmstechnology@cmsacker Could not be more proud of two students in our advanced technology class. Jill Grzywna and Danielle Roginsky spent an enormous amount of time planning, taping, re-taping, editing, and choosing just the right music (River Flows in You by Yiruma) and the result is this beautiful video that sends a message to all people to make the difference. Also very proud of the rest of the class; they all participated in this video and made a difference!

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Rehtaeh Parson’s dad speaks to UN on online bullying



Glen Canning says he’s relieved his daughter’s name can finally be used in relation to a high profile child porn case.

parHALIFAX – The father of Rehtaeh Parsons says he delivered a statement to the United Nations on Monday, telling the commission on the status of women how his daughter’s death after a suicide attempt in 2013 was directly related to cyberbullying.

Glen Canning confirmed in an email that he delivered the statement during a panel discussion entitled Violence in the Digital Age.

Parsons’ family says the girl was 15 years old when she was sexually assaulted in November 2011 and bullied for months after a digital photo of the alleged assault was passed around her school in Cole Harbour, N.S.

A_smiley_face_holding_a_red_heart_balloon_110111-231796-134009In his prepared statement, which appears on his website, Canning says he and the girl’s mother have been advocating for victims of sexual assault and cybercrime, roles that have led to the realization that their daughter’s case is far from unique.

The statement says that for many women and teenagers suffering from online abuse, reporting such incidents can be heartbreaking and the results are often futile.

As well, the statement suggests that governments have been slow to take action, and victims are being treated as if they are part of the crime.

Article By Staff of The Canadian Press – Courtesy of Global News



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Turmoil on the menu


4q5sewkWarehouse season-ender serves tragic bullying story when two families sit down to eat

Dinner gets cold: from left, Doug McKeag, Cory Wojcik, Daniel McIntyre-Ridd, Sharon Bajer and Terri Cherniack in Late Company.
Dinner gets cold: from left, Doug McKeag, Cory Wojcik, Daniel McIntyre-Ridd, Sharon Bajer and Terri Cherniack in Late Company.

Late Company, the season-ending play at the Warehouse, takes as its subject a heartbreaking premise: a gay teen’s suicide due to bullying.

But Toronto-based, Ottawa-born playwright Jordan Tannahill layers political context over personal tragedy in the play’s brisk 75-minute running time, set a year after the event.

The dead boy’s parents, a sculptor and a Tory MP (played, respectively, by Terri Cherniack and Doug McKeag) attempt to come to terms with the tragedy by having dinner with the teen boy found to be the principal instigator (Daniel McIntyre-Ridd) and his parents (Sharon Bajer and Cory Wojcik). The objective is closure. The outcome is something else altogether.

If the play has a real-life inspiration, it would be the 2011 suicide of Jamie Hubley, a 15-year-old Ottawa boy suffering from depression exacerbated by continual bullying at school because of his homosexuality.
But for the 26-year-old playwright-filmmaker-choreographer, the play truly gestated in the responses to the suicide.

“What was arresting to me was, sadly, not the spectre of queer teen suicide itself, which has become so commonplace,” Tannahill says. “That’s not what prompted the writing of the play. It was the political reaction to this that, for me, really got under my skin.”

tumblr_nathzu680T1tjrdjpo1_400Tannahill refers specifically to the spectacle of 10 Conservative MPs creating an “It Gets Better” video in response to the tragedy.

It Gets Better, Tannahill explains, is a campaign initiated by sex columnist Dan Savage “in which LGBT adults essentially reassure LGBT youth, who are potentially struggling with identity issues or with bullying, that it gets better, and that they too can have a self-actualized lifestyle or have friends who will love them and family who will love them, and pursue their dreams as LGBT adults.”

The original campaign, Tannahill asserts, was intended as “a conversation between people in the LGBT community.”
“In its essence, the campaign is a very positive force, and for me, the federal Conservatives releasing an It Gets Better video was so tin-eared, it was actually kind of obscene,” he says.

“These were non-gay or not-out MPs, and many of them had actually voted against legislation that would directly improve the lives of queer teens and queer people in Canada,” Tannahill says. (Indeed, one of the participants was former Manitoba MP and public safety minister Vic Toews, a longtime vocal and vociferous Tory warhorse in his stubborn opposition to same-sex marriage through his terms in office.)

“The hypocrisy was so overwhelming,” Tannahill says, adding that he was surprised to find that many friends and acquaintances chose to view the video as a positive sign of progress.
“I had brought this up at a dinner party of some family friends of ours in Ottawa, people of educated middle-class standing within suburban Ottawa, and they could not apprehend the hypocrisy of this. They would say: ‘They’re trying,’ or ‘It’s a gesture.’

“But for me, the idea of ‘it’s a gesture’ is so emblematic of the ways in which so many of us deal with issues of sexual identity and sexual politics,” Tannahill says. “It’s a kind of not-in-my-backyard lip service that’s given to it, and not understanding the ways in which they are directly implicated in perpetuating a society that enacts violence against queer youth all the time.

“It’s not a play about queer teen suicide,” he says. “For me, the play is about larger questions, about collective responsibility about the raising of children in the 21st century. What are our new responsibilities and realities in the 21st century? Who polices the Internet and the cybersphere?”

Tannahill, who recently received the Governor General’s Award for English-language drama, says the attempts to pop the illusory bubble that we live in enlightened times.

“I think we still live in an incredibly conservative, sex-phobic society,” he says. “It ‘tolerates’ other-ness and queer-ness. ‘You have your rights to get married, now please go away and become like us and assimilate.’
“But I think we’re still profoundly troubled and unable to reconcile men who are feminine or flamboyant or a culture that defies that normative vision of what the family is,” he says.
“There’s still a complete lack of awareness about the ways in which people are implicated in the oppression of queer people or people of colour or any of the marginal people of our society.”

The Winnipeg Free Press print edition March 5, 2015 By: Randall King (


It Gets Better – In Memory of Jamie Hubley


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Gay Calgary police officer promotes anti-bullying program of hope


As a kid, Tad Milmine was bullied by a hostile step-mother, ignored by a drunken father andPolice banished to the basement of the family home in Cambridge, Ont.

alta-fivequestions20nw1School wasn’t any better. After running away at 17, Milmine struggled with his confidence and sexuality. Now, in the job he always wanted, the openly gay Calgary police officer is promoting Bullying Ends Here, a program of hope, writes Allan Maki.

What was your childhood like?

I’d come home from school and go right to the basement, and it was a real basement with concrete walls, no TV, no radio, just a bed. Sometimes I’d be allowed to come up for dinner, most of the time it was left at the top of the stairs so I’d eat it in the basement. … I remember two boys once followed me after school. They kept calling me names. When I got home, I said, ‘Okay, I’m safe.’ I could hear some fumbling around on the porch area. Eventually, I went upstairs. The two guys were gone but I could see the glass screen door was all covered in spit. I didn’t want my stepmom seeing that because I would be the one blamed for it.

How did you end up becoming a police officer?

policeman-smileyAfter I ran away from home and got my own apartment, I was working in retail and restaurants and it was just a fluke encounter that at 32 years old I met someone who was a police officer. I remember saying that was my dream. That’s when he said, ‘Have you ever tried? Why wouldn’t you at least try because you have nothing to lose but potentially everything to gain?’ So I did. I applied. I ended up being hired by the RCMP in Surrey, B.C.

You left the RCMP last year. Was it because of your sexuality?

I was not out as a gay man when I applied. It was two years into being a Mountie that I did. … Leaving was about my [anti-bullying] program. I was doing it on my own time at my own expense. I was served a document from the RCMP – eight pages – that was basically a cease-and-desist order saying I had to stop immediately. Shut the website down. No more e-mails. No more presentations until I could meet all of their demands and then seek the approval of the Human Resources officer. I explained that was not possible and that I was going to keep going with the program. It was very business-like; there was no yelling, no insults. I quit. Obviously, a huge door opened and presented me with a chance at joining the Calgary Police Services.

Have you experienced any abuse from your fellow officers?

police-police-officer-uniform-smiley-emoticon-001085-facebookNot at all, not once. I’m aware of the stereotypes out there, especially in this line of work. I thought there was going to be locker-room challenges. There were going to be jokes. The reality is there isn’t, and I only speak from my own experiences because I’m not naive to say it never happens.

When you do your Bullying Ends Here presentation in schools, what do you say to the students and what do they say to you?

I tell them I received 15,000 e-mails last school year alone and I respond to every one myself. Hundreds of those e-mails are from self-confessed bullies and they’re saying they don’t know how to stop. They say, ‘If I stop, I’m not going to be on that pedestal. I’m going to lose my status within this group.’ That reflects what the program is about. It’s all of us, together.

ALLAN MAKI – The Globe and Mail – Published Friday, Feb. 20 2015,


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Outpouring over German teenager’s video shows how serious bullying is


Three million clicks and counting … There has been a wave of support in response to a simple video posted online by a German teenager who is asking his peers to stand up to bullying. DW takes a look.


On February 8 at 2:55 p.m., Benjamin “Drews” Fokken posted a video on his Facebook timeline, a pretty regular occurrence for the 19-year-old, who enjoys covering popular songs ranging from Miley Cyrus’ “Wrecking Ball” to Silbermond’s “Ja” – and posting his renditions to his profile.

imagesThe songs do pretty well, with Fokken averaging in the high hundreds for most videos, but what happened with the clip he uploaded on February 8, “Against Bullying!” blew even his wildest dreams out of the water.

Staring into the camera with an expression of vague melancholy, Fokken holds up papers with the following handwritten messages:

People! Nobody is worth less than anyone else just because he or she:

Has a handicap / May not have much money / May not be very smart / May not have the best figure / Is gay, lesbian or bisexual / Has a different skin color / Has a different religion / Comes from a different country

Victims of bullying often feel lonesome and left alone. They hurt their bodies because they think they are different. They have thoughts about suicide!

How would – you – feel about that?

Only TOGETHER can we CHANGE things! =)

Fokken’s video was clicked more than 3 million times within five days. Over 100,000 people have shared and “liked” it. ☆☆ AGAINST BULLYING !! ☆☆

‘Important and necessary’

The wave of support the video has elicited has been covered extensively in German media, with Fokken giving interviews to a number of outlets about why he felt moved to make it and share it with his peers.
“Don’t worry – I’m not in danger of committing suicide,” he told Spiegel Online, admitting that he had cut his arms with a razor blade before. For years, he suffered from verbal attacks by his peers: “Name-calling, because of how round my body and face are. … But only very seldom have I thought that I didn’t want to be alive in the world anymore.”

0,,16820214_401,00Fokken’s video is a kind of homage to Amanda Todd, a Canadian girl who posted a similar clip to YouTube in which she explained the suffering she went through as a result of bullying.

“There is a dramatic difference between Benjamin’s clip and that of Amanda Todd,” said Uwe Leest, who chairs the Bündnis gegen Cybermobbing, a German initiative against Cyberbullying. “Tragically, this young girl killed herself and used YouTube as a way to send a suicide note. Benjamin has used Facebook to send a strong signal in defense of the victims of bullying. And he deserves our respect for this.”

computing-smileThe Bündnis gegen Cybermobbing says that one in four young people in Germany suffers severely from cyberbullying at some point during puberty. Leest told DW that the attention Fokken’s video has received displays the “great dimension of this social problem,” adding that it wasn’t only important as a show of support for victims, but rather – and perhaps more significantly – as a way to show bullies how much their bullying hurts.

“What Benjamin has done is incredibly vital for our society. His courage to ask: ‘How would you feel?’ to the people who have caused him pain. This was important and necessary,” Leest said.
Fokken himself has described the fear that accompanied posting his video online. “At first I was afraid that it would all start again. The bullying, the name-calling, all that crap,” he told Spiegel Online.

Going by the flood of reactions – almost exclusively positive – to his video, exactly the opposite was the case. “It’s the start of a new life for me,” he told Radio Bremen, audibly pleased that this time he let his courage do the talking.


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Keep your paws up little monster, RIP Jamey Rodemeyer in honor of Stop Bullying Day


ripWhen I learned in Sept 2011 of Jamey Rodemeyer’s suicide and saw his “It Gets Better” video (R.I.P little friend) on Dec 12, 2011 it sparked the creation of what is now known as “THE NEW BULLYING PREVENTION”

Opinions_Logo_01In honor of today being Stop Bullying Day and four years after a young boy committed suicide for being bullied, I am hoping that this editorial will help other kids suffering from bullying and help put an end to this way to often tragic action. If we work together, hopefully we can hope for our future kids to go through life bully-free.

In 2011, Jamey Rodemeyer, a 14 year old boy from Buffalo, New York who identified himself as bisexual hung himself in front of his parents home. Jamey endured anti-gay bullying similar to mine, as well as, many teens of the LGBTQ community.

When in junior high, the anti-gay bullying resulted in Jamey blogging about it on his blogging accounts. He talked about being bullied and suicide on his tumblr account. On YouTube, he seemed happy and full of sunshine. He talked of Lady Gaga who was his idol because she says we were “Born This Way.”

Towards the end of junior high, he put on his poker face and made it appear that things were getting better. He was appearing as if he embraced his differences and his sexuality. He even did a YouTube video for the “It Gets Better” project founded by gay activist and journalist, Dan Savage. In the video he talks about loving oneself and overcoming anti-gay bullying.

Three weeks into high school, on September 18th, he took his own life.

It brings me great sadness that such a handsome and vibrant young boy fell prey to the hurtful words of others. He was trying his hardest to overcome it. His message still rings true, “It gets better, in time.” Somewhere inside of him he lost faith in his own message due to ongoing bullying that became too much. He had a light around him and was taken from us too soon.

I feel proud to say he would accomplished great things if such a tragedy did not occur.

I remember being bullied growing up. It dates back to when I was in grade school. I have always been gay which makes me different and children can be very mean. I recall the words fag and faggot being tossed around back. All I did growing up was hang out with girls. So, it provoked name calling and ridicule.

I was never a fighter.

I found it very hard to fight back. I think one day I threw my book on the concrete ground in retaliation of being bullied.

Yeah jerk, that will teach you…I bet my book hurt you really bad seeing how it’s on the ground! Seriously! What was I thinking?

I was maybe 10 or 11 years old. I was scared. I should have clobbered him with the textbook. I mean let’s think for a moment, textbooks can hurt!

I was scared and felt helpless to the point where I had to go against my nature and fight. But I was also taught, and very well might I add, not to resort to violence either. Now, as I look back, I really wish I was taught violence is okay in self-defense situations.

The anti-gay bullying and name calling only got worse as I got older. In junior high, I was being called fag, sissy, faggot, p*ssy and many other slurs. I was being chased, kicked, shoved and pushed around.

It was always the same reasons. I was gay.

I hung around with the girls and I was not having sex with them. Part of me wants to believe that I was strong enough mentally to endure the anti-gay bullying without having a meltdown, but I also feel I had and still have a strong set of friends who have always been accepting of me.

photoMy best friends back in junior high stuck up for me, maybe not with fists, but with strong words and just through the simple fact that they got involved. They somehow stepped up each and every time that they were around witnessing anti-gay bullying. Back then I felt helpless, but I also was ashamed because I had females fighting my battles which added to my frustrations.

I was truly thankful for them though, and still am.

I look back now and I thank heaven that they stepped up when they did. I used to have to find alternate routes home just to avoid bullying. Obviously, I was not as strong as I’d like to believe. I was very weak emotionally and fragile when it came to bullying. It had a world of negative impact on my confidence and self esteem.

I’m 38 years old now, a long way from those bullying days in grade school. It got better over time. I am fortunate to have survived such hatred and ignorance. Bullying in every form especially anti-gay bullying needs to stop.

The point of my story is not that I am one of the victims. It’s that I am a survivor.

Regardless of what I think I could’ve done differently when faced with such pointless attacks on my character, I did fight through and had a support system around me who exemplified the meaning of “great kid.”

Was I weaker back then than I originally thought? Yes. But the point is kids at that age shouldn’t have to be placed in those ridiculous, meaningless and sometimes character defining situations in the first place.

How many young boys and girls have to die? Why do teens have to find different ways home? Why do they have to suffer everyday making life that much more unbearable? When will people listen and realize we all are different but we are all human? Did you go through bullying growing up? How did it affect you? Did you know someone else who endured such ignorance? Tell me your story!

rip (1)TheCelebrityCafe would like to dedicate this article In Memory of Jamey Rodemeyer and others who have lost their lives due to bullying and we hope it can help others. – By Marc Regen – Feb, 2, 2015 You can also visit Lady Gaga’s facebook page she also created for awareness of Bullying “Born This Way Foundation


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New workplace anti-bully law (AB2053) is instructive for parents


AB2053 requires employers to provide workplace training that will give “practical examples aimed at instructing supervisors in the prevention of harassment, discrimination, and retaliation…”

ladyThis year a new anti-bullying law (AB2053) takes effect for the workplace, and it raises good questions for the home and school as well. Lisa Ford-Berry, founder of BRAVE Society, a Carmichael non-profit dedicated to bullying prevention and intervention strategies for the education culture children navigate with hostility hyped by cyber communications. AB2053 requires employers to provide workplace training that will give “practical examples aimed at instructing supervisors in the prevention of harassment, discrimination, and retaliation…”, and in this regard it stands to reason that that bullying at the workplace is ultimately the result of learned behavior at home and in our community.

Ford -Berry lost her teenage son Michael to suicide in 2008 which was his response to a bully culture at school; an all consuming hate-biased harassment experience over a rumor that he was gay convinced him there was no hope for his future. She learned after his death that the social environment our children navigate on campus is incredibly hostile and uncivil because relentless cyber-powered harassment, discrimination and retaliation are ignored and/or tolerated by the adults at school and at home. “This [AB2053] is standard, and the bottom line is if you work you are afforded this protection – meaning our educators are as well,” she said. “So when [educators] claim they don’t know what to do or how to do it; they should simply do for our children what they would do for themselves.”

Family culture and the bully mentality

A recent workplace webinar sponsored by HR Options in Walnut Creek featured Adam Fiss a representative of Littler Mendelson law firm, who addressed the implications for AB2053 from the standpoint of employers. His guidance is to “foster a culture of civility, communication and compliance” at the workplace. This is advice that would also make sense if your desire is to create a peaceful home and a harassment-free learning environment at school.

???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????The idea of creating a culture that is civil at home and school requires thought leadership today, because the norms for civil society that were held up in the community at large are much less so in modern, hyper-connected world. “I think we give too many passes to our children [for uncivil conduct],” Ford-Berry said. “I think poor parenting has created more broken hearts; mine included.”

Signs that your home may not be a ‘bully-free’ zone

  • Your child’s mobile phone is considered private; the parent does not check texting and social media posts to ensure there is a standard of civility
  • Raised voices and foul language are becoming the norm
  • Your children are allowed to make disparaging, hateful remarks about one another and others without correction
    Negative talk and gossip are tolerated as acceptable conversation, and/ or are considered a “phase” when the kids are cruel
  • Your children are spending a lot of time isolated from the family with their mobile devices.

Continue reading this article or for more about strategies for bully intervention at school, go to BRAVE Society.


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The stories behind child abuse and bullying numbers


2796Consequences of abuse and bullying include physical and mental issues, cyclical abuse, relationship issues, and societal burdens.

Special to the Daily Record

6218198972104704Victims are people you know. Anyone can be an offender. There is no demographic of an abuser.
On Jan. 15, Stacy Pendarvis, program director for the Monique Burr Foundation for Children, educated the Jacksonville Women Lawyers Association about child abuse and bullying prevention.

During this continuing education luncheon, attorneys and professionals learned that cyberbullying and digital abuse affect millions of children in the U.S.

Pendarvis explained that one out of every seven children age 10-17 will be sexually solicited online and that more than half of all youths experience some form of cyberbullying. Girls are disproportionately affected.

images16The impact on Florida alone is staggering. Not only does Florida rank fourth in the nation for the volume of child pornography produced, but the economic impact of child sexual abuse treatment is more than $9 billion annually.

Statistics show 70 percent of children and teenagers admit to hiding their online activities from parents. Much to the shock of many in the room, Pendarvis said the fourth most frequently searched term by children under the age of 7 is “porn.”

She explained there are text codes youths use, such as “Code 9” to indicate there is a parent in the room. Other codes are more sinister, such as “GKY” (go kill yourself) or “GNOC” (get naked on camera).

Many of these childhood victims of abuse or bullying are exposed to multiple forms of victimization and maltreatment, known as polyvictimization. For instance, a child bullied at school is more likely to experience later sexual abuse or physical assault.

There are various pathways to victimization, which the Monique Burr Foundation is seeking to prevent through early childhood education. The foundation has developed a program called Child Safety Matters that is offered at no cost to public schools throughout Florida; Duval County has mandated this program this coming year. Students in kindergarten to sixth grade are taught “no blame, no shame” rules about abuse and bullying. Within four weeks of participating in these programs, more than 40 percent of schools report at least one child disclosing sexual abuse or bullying.

“Don’t think it’s not happening in our communities, to our kids,” Pendarvis said.

The foundation offers a program to empower adults with the knowledge and skills to protect the children in our communities. To find out more, visit MBFChildSafeyMatters.Org.

The next JWLA luncheon, at 11:45 a.m. Feb. 12 at The River Club, will feature Kevin Gay, who will discuss mass incarceration and its impact on poverty in America. Visit to RSVP.

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Anti-Bullying Expert Launches Toolkit to Help Educators, Parents, and Students Address Bullying


With widespread violence sweeping the nation as a result of bullying, Christi Monk & Associates is pleased to announce the launch of a free bullying toolkit to provide schools and their surrounding communities with guidance that supports a bully-free environment.

gI_90307_bullying_toolkit_cover_small2The Creating a Culture of Connectedness bullying toolkit is available in three variations for educators, parents, and students so that each segment can clearly understand how to prevent and identify bullying behaviors.

The Creating a Culture of Connectedness bullying toolkit was written and developed by Dr. Christi Monk, DM, of Christi Monk and Associates. Dr. Monk received her doctoral degree in Management of Organizational Leadership Studies from the University of Phoenix, is a graduate and certified trainer of the Workplace Bullying Institute, and leadership consultant. Dr. Monk learned through these accomplishments, experiencing bullying firsthand, and extensive research that bullying behaviors are learned at the onset of childhood and that the behavior is likely to continue as an adult in the workplace if it is not properly addressed. All of these elements motivated Dr. Monk to create the toolkit in order to confront bullying early on so that it doesn’t continue throughout one’s life.

3“Although bullying is not 100% preventable, I have developed a strategy that allows parents, educators, and students to step in and do something before bullying occurs or when they see it taking place,” said Dr. Christi Monk, DM. This toolkit is the framework that will catapult schools and communities into developing comprehensible, sustainable programs and initiatives to support school safety and improve learning.”

“Bullying prevention and awareness is the responsibility of everyone.

Tips the Toolkit Mentions:

For Educators: Next to parents, educators spend the most time with students and have the ability to influence them positively and negatively. One trick of the trade is to have students define what bullying looks like to them and use those words to frame the rules of the classroom, and hold the students accountable when those actions occur.

5390776273993728For Parents: Only 16% of parents report bullying to the school. This is indicative that there are opportunities for parents to connect with their children on a deep level to intervene before it is too late. Create a safe home environment first. By doing so, your child will be more prone to sharing his or her negative experiences at school.

For Students: Know your rights as a student. Do not remain silent. When you witness bullying, report it to an adult immediately.
The free toolkit is available here and on Christi Monk and Associate’s website. Dr. Monk and her staff also offer anti-bullying seminars and leadership trainings for schools and organizations nationwide. Visit for more information.

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About Christi Monk & Associates

Christi Monk & Associates was developed as a conduit for improving how organizations foster cultures that improve leadership behaviors while enhancing and sustaining employee and student engagement. We partner with small to mid-size businesses (public and non-profit), schools, CEOs, HR professionals, and advocacy groups for anti-bullying, leadership coaching, and conflict resolution services


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Bullying Not Allowed in Alberta Schools – Including Bullying Based on Sexual Orientation


Alberta’s School Act requires school boards to ensure that students enrolled in their schools are provided with a safe and caring environment that fosters and maintains respectful and responsible behaviours.

???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????The Alberta Legislature is concerned with bullying in schools, as evidenced by its recent discussion of Bill 202, Safe and Inclusive Schools Statutes Amendment Act, 2014, and Bill 10, An Act to Amend the Alberta Bill of Rights to Protect our Children. It again is timely to highlight the court’s involvement and the important role school boards have with respect to eliminating bullying in the school environment.

Although Bills 202 and 10 are not currently law, the common law in relation to bullying has developed such that there is a legal obligation on school boards to protect students from bullying. The high profile 2005 British Columbia Court of Appeal case School District No. 44 (North Vancouver) v. Jubran is an unfortunate example of homophobic bullying and the failure of the school to address homophobic insults and harassment.

The B.C. Human Rights’ Tribunal ruled in favour of Azmi Jubran’s human rights complaint of homophobic bullying at school. Jurban, who did not self-identify as gay, had suffered five years of homophobic insults and harassment by other students. Based on the extensive evidence provided to the Tribunal, it found Jubran had been subjected to harassment on a prohibited ground of discrimination and sexual orientation. The North Vancouver School Board was held to have been responsible for the discrimination because it failed to provide an educational environment free from discriminatory harassment. Put another way, it had not done enough to stop the harassment.

Another case reported that a parent was suing an Ottawa school board because her daughter suffered depression and anxiety allegedly as a result of repeated bullying and harassment. She was seeking over $300,000 in damages arising from the school board’s failure to protect her daughter from these events. A settlement was reached. In October, 2010, Law Times reported that four families were suing a school board in southwestern Ontario because their children were allegedly being harassed. They were seeking $35 million in damages.

School Board Duties
School boards owe duty of care to the students under their care and supervision. The law of negligence requires individuals and school boards to take reasonable steps to counter foreseeable risks of injury to those to whom a duty of care is owed. The standard of school boards to its students has been determined by the Court is that of a “reasonable and prudent parent.”

09_LOVE_fixAlberta school boards are also responsible for ensuring that their services do not discriminate against students based on any of the protected grounds in Alberta’s Human Rights Act, and for providing a discrimination-free educational environment. School boards may take the following steps to provide a safe and caring school environment, including providing an environment which is free from homophobic conduct:

  • Promote a climate of understanding and mutual respect so that all students are treated equally with dignity and respect;
  • Identify inappropriate student conduct, including scenarios where students are not treated with dignity and respect, and address these cases in a timely fashion;
  • Continue to educate students about the importance of maintaining a non-discriminatory, tolerant, and respectful school environment; and
  • Continue to educate teachers about available tools to educate their students on respectful behaviours, including:
  • Teach students about the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms and equality rights;
  • Teach students about the importance of tolerance including sexual orientation and gender expression;
  • Promote and talk about the schools’ codes of conduct;
  • Work with students to understand that discriminatory homophobic is not tolerated in schools; and
  • Invite outside speakers to talk to students and teachers about homophobia and other discriminatory behaviours.

images (27)If you are responsible for dealing with bullying or cyberbullying, we recommend you read Nova Scotia’s Task Force Report on Bullying and Cyberbulling: Respectful and Responsible Relationships: There’s No App for That, by Wayne MacKay,CM, QB, Chair Nova Scotia Task Force on Bullying and Cyberbullying.

By Teresa Haykowsky and David Risling


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New bullying website launched


6328791100030976A NEW website designed to support and offer assistance to people who suffer bullying in employment has been established.

The site has been set up by Highlands and Islands Labour MSP Rhoda Grant, and has been named Tobie (Tackling Oppressive Behaviour in Employment). It can be found at

Ms Grant said: “It is a sad reflection on society in the 21st century when bullying is rife within the work place as well as at schools, colleges and in other forms of life.

The individual who suffers at the hands of bullies is scarred for a very long time if not for life.

NV1053” Such behaviour causes mental health issues to the innocent sufferer who is subject to bouts of anxiety, depression, stress, associated illnesses and ultimately absence from work.”

Alisa McDowell, a spokeswoman for the Moray branch of the Unison union, added: “Employees have a right to expect to be treated with dignity and respect in the workplace.

“For those who suffer it, bullying is a humiliating and distressing experience. It is the role of a trade union to ensure that the risks of bullying at work are minimised and, where it does occur, it is dealt with promptly and appropriately.”

Published: 16/12/2014 10:27


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Britain’s Got Talent: Nottinghamshire’s Combat Bullying children to take to the stage


Founder of Combat Bullying Natalie Harvey
Founder of Combat Bullying Natalie Harvey
VICTIMS of bullying will take to the Britain’s Got Talent stage to raise awareness of what children face in schools today.

Nottinghamshire charity Combat Bullying will send 21 youngsters who have suffered at the hands of bullies to perform on the TV talent show this Sunday.

They bagged an audition after sending in a video of themselves performing their song Tell the Teacher, hoping to inspire others to come forward if they are being taunted or intimidated.

Bullying victim Charlie Turner, 9, of Toton, said: “I was bullied in year three and I don’t want this to happen to anyone else. This is why we made the song to stop it.”

8127893-noen-----n-n-n--n--nAt the start of November, Combat Bullying launched the country’s first free 24-hour anti-bullying helpline.

The song was originally made to coincide with the launch of the support service and anti-bullying month.

Sam Thorpe, 9, also of Toton, said: “I am doing this because I have been bullied in the first year of my school and I was really upset about it. When my mum told me about this I really wanted to do it.”

Natalie Harvey founded Combat Bullying having been bullied herself for having curly, ginger hair.

The 37-year-old mother-of-two said: “We are rehearsing every day this week and it is all going great.

“Some of the kids asked if we could send it to BGT. I wasn’t sure to begin with, but after sending a video we were asked to go for an audition.

“The kids have raised their own funds to rent a coach to get there and they are all working very hard.

“They are incredibly excited and it is taking over our lives. We just wanted to raise awareness and the song has already boosted our profile – which we use to help those who are being bullied.”

All those taking part have been practicing in the community room at Tesco Extra in Swiney Way, Toton.

Tesco community champion Tracie Basra, of Harrison Road, Stapleford, said everyone at the store was really excited to support such a worthy act.???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

The 50-year-old, whose 13-year-old daughter is a soloist, said: “My daughter was bullied when she was younger and it had a big impact on her.

“When she started with Combat Bullying she was very shy and didn’t speak a lot but now she has a solo part. They can go all the way but as long as it raises awareness of bullying that’s the main thing.”

courtesy of Nottingham Post – By DanRussell | Posted: December 01, 2014


Does Cyber Harassment affect Employees? A Survey


Cyberbullying is becoming more and more prevalent. Children, celebrities and campaigners are among those who have experienced abuse, whilst evidence suggests that it is also becoming a problem in workplaces.

4727417010651136In the past decade communication technologies have increasingly infiltrated the workplace. For instance, UK office workers send and receive 10,000 emails per year according to researchers at Warwick Business School. Many of these will be generic work requests, a few might be impolite and some could be downright abusive.

There are reasons to believe that cyberbullying behaviours perpetrated in the organisational context are more subtle than those observed among children and adolescents. This is because employees are bound by regulations that prohibit explicit abuse aimed at co-workers and adults may have developed the capacity to disguise bullying behaviours. Despite this, workplace cyberbullying can still cause harm as researchers have linked it to low job satisfaction, mental strain and intention to quit the organisation.

Examples of workplace cyberbullying can include online threats, overly critical emails and the distribution of embarrassing pictures and personal information. Aspects of computer mediated communication mean that workplace cyberbullying differs from offline workplace bullying in several key ways. For instance, it is possible for perpetrators to remain anonymous, the perpetrator and victim are often in different locations when messages are distributed and cyber acts can be seen by a much larger audience. Furthermore, certain acts of cyberbullying are more permanent than the transience of offline bullying acts and they can be experience by employees outside of the work environment.

Before in-depth research can address workplace cyberbullying it is critical to develop valid and reliable tools to measure it. This is the focus of a study being run by researchers at the University of Sheffield. If you are employed and would like to take part in the study please click on the link below.

Researchers from the University of Sheffield are working with the support of No Bullying to identify how negative behaviours conducted through technology can impact employee health, job satisfaction and working relationships. People are increasingly using technology to communicate with their colleagues. It is therefore important to investigate how negative technology-mediated behaviours affect employees.

If you are employed and would like to contribute to knowledge on cyberbullying within the context of work, we would like to invite you to take a short survey on negative technological experiences, job satisfaction, health and work engagement.

To obtain data that will give a casual indication of how negative technological behaviours affect people, we need to collect data now and again in six months’ time. Therefore we would like to invite you to complete this survey now as well as a second survey that will be distributed in six months.

This study has been ethically approved by the Sheffield University Management School. All responses are anonymous and strictly confidential. You are also free to withdraw from the study at any time by closing the web page. To participate in the study click on this link.

images (10)Learn more about the Study and do take some time to participate in it.smiley-wearing-glasses-reading-a-book

Sam Farley is a doctoral researcher at Sheffield University Management School – email twitter: @sam_farley3

Cyberbullying in the Workplace, Study and Survey Covered by NoBullying Today


Bullying in fast Forward


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Each week I receive hundreds of emails about “BULLYING” and the effects it has on individuals and society as a whole, with my now busy schedule unfortunately I don’t get a chance to read them all rather I have to pick and choose which ones I will read and or post.
So knowing that, I am going to share a few of my personal selections and you can decide which are most important to you or not. Thank you for following along with B.P, and for your support because the end to “BULLYING” starts with you.
By Terry Kinden – November 10, 2014



Astronaut Scott Kelly On National Bullying Prevention Awareness Month



Listen up, Earthlings

"Photo courtesy of NASA"
“Photo courtesy of NASA”
If a victim were capable of fixing things on their own, the world would have no problems. As NASA astronaut Scott Kelly points out, it’s important not to just be a bystander but instead to speak out when you see something that’s unacceptable in society—whether it’s bullying or anything else. It’s important to have vocal allies. If you won’t take it from me, take it from a spaceman.

Astronaut-Astronaut-cosmonaut-Apollo-smiley-emoticon-001119-facebookYou may remember astronaut Scott Kelly as the man who will embark on a year-long mission in space to investigate space’s effects on the human body with the help of his twin brother in March 2015. Kelly recorded this message about standing up against bullying to promote October’s National Bullying Prevention Awareness month and the federal government’s push to stop bullying.

arbeitend_0001“I felt compelled to act after hearing about the various cases of bullying around the country last year. I thought of my own daughters, and I recalled my experiences as a child watching other kids bully others without accountability,” Kelly said. “Bullying affects not only the child adversely but also stunts our growth as a society. It is everyone’s responsibility to stand up against bullying.”

Video Courtesy of NASA Article by Dan Van Winkle for The Mary Sue ~ Friday, October 24th 2014


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S.Korean thriller ‘Socialphobia’ tackles cyber bullying


The cast of 'Socialphobia'. This thriller about Internet-obsessed youngsters is seeking to shed light on a growing culture of cyber-bullying in a country with one of the world's highest youth suicide rates
The cast of ‘Socialphobia’. This thriller about Internet-obsessed youngsters is seeking to shed light on a growing culture of cyber-bullying in a country with one of the world’s highest youth suicide rates

SEOUL: A new South Korean thriller about Internet-obsessed youngsters is seeking to shed light on a growing culture of cyber-bullying in a country with one of the world’s highest youth suicide rates.

“Socialphobia”, which received its world premier at the 19th Busan International Film Festival on Saturday, follows two nascent cyberbullies who become targets themselves.

The first feature film by director Hong Seok-Jae offers a vivid, detailed portrayal of the South’s vibrant yet highly volatile online landscape, where a petty online debate can quickly escalate.

South Korea is one of the world’s most wired nations, with broadband Internet omnipresent and more than 70 percent of the population owning smartphones.

Major Internet portals prominently display hourly updates on the latest trending topics — a practice critics accuse of fanning a herd mentality.

Aggressive cyber bullying, especially targeting celebrities, has been blamed for numerous suicides in recent years including the death of a leading actress in 2008.

It is against this backdrop that the film’s main characters — aspirant police officers named Kim Ji-Woong and Ha Yong-Min — get embroiled in an Internet witch hunt involving a young woman.

Angered by her tweet about a young soldier killed on duty, netizens unearth the woman’s real name, photo and home address.

A group of young men, including Kim and Ha, then organise a trip — live broadcast on a video-streaming website — to her home where they find her dead after apparently hanging herself.

The two young men then become the targets of a cyber backlash, as they are blamed for her suicide.

Seeking redemption, the boys convince themselves that the girl was murdered and set out to investigate her past.

The plot and its characters were inspired by real-life events and Internet commentators, Hong said in an interview with AFP.

“South Korea has such an overgrown Internet community where young people continually form an anonymous clique and look for a battle against some perceived ‘enemy’,” the 31-year-old said.

“For many, bullying seems to have become another form of online game they play,” he added.

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