🇨🇦 How This 15-Year-Old Diana Award Recipient’s Family Tragedy Inspired Her to Help Others

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“Everyone of us needs to show how much we care for each other and, in the process, care for ourselves.” ~ Princess Diana

Bailey DunbarBailey Dunbar👼 is only 15 years old, but she’s already seen more tragedy than many face in a lifetime. Her twin sister, Morgan, 263d022c92752ed6e2b035b1410bf332committed suicide when they were just 13 years old after her sister was targeted by bullieslittle devil

Two years later, the  Fort Saskatchewan, Canada,  native is channeling her loss into something powerful. She’s now honoring Morgan’s memory by fighting bullying and cyber-bullying,  and working on raising mental health awareness among young people.

Bailey👼 is leading the charge on anti-bullying  with her organization, Morgan’s Memorial Mission SocietyThe group engages in volunteer work to combat bullying and encourage kindness and inclusivity — and won aCrown2Untitled-2Diana Award for her efforts last year. Crown2The Diana Award🌹 is given out in the late Crown2Princess Diana’s🌹 name to young role models, ages 9-18 from across the world who are transforming the lives of others. (To nominate a young changemaker for this year’s Diana Award, which will be presented at a ceremony in London this May, click here.)

Dunbar👼 faced bullies little devil of her own after her sister’s death. After Morgan’s suicide, one of the bullies little devil who had tormented her turned his attention towards Bailey👼 . The abuse got so bad, that at a point, her parents were forced Albert-Einstein-albert-einstein-genius-smiley-emoticon-000718-facebookto get the police 👮involved, she says. The bully little devil was later made to apologize and stop contacting Bailey.👼

Seeing the treatment her sister suffered through her own eyes, Bailey👼 was inspired to make a change. She founded Morgan’s Memorial Mission Society, and with the help of her mom, she was granted official non-profit status.

“After I experienced what it was like to be bullied,  I finally understood why you wouldn’t MISSION MEMORIAL SOCIETYwant to go to school or go out,” Bailey 👼  says. “I decided to take action because after having my own experience, I realized it’s not okay.

“A lot of people are insecure about themselves, and they’ll take it out on other people instead of talking about it.”

Morgan’s Mission Memorial Society has been involved in several projects that hope to spark conversation about bullying, mental health awareness and suicide prevention. Bailey👼 has hosted a benefit concert with Robb Nash, done multiple events with Project Semicolon, smilie king newanother suicide prevention and mental health organization, in her hometown of   Edmonton and around Alberta, Canada,  and spoke out about her own bullying  story and losing her sister on “Beautiful Me Day.”

She’s also been working with local government officials, as well as the  Canadian ministers of health, education and justice, to help create anti-bullying legislation in the country. Bailey👼 worked with Fort Saskatchewan Mayor Gale Katchur and Jessica Littlewood, a member of the legislative assembly, on a proclamation for World Suicide Prevention Day in the town in 2015.

“They were shocked that at such a young age, that I’m doing all of this to change how people see mental illness and bullying” she said of her experience working with the government ministers.

smiley-king-23118707Also in her hometown, Bailey,👼 along with a committee of local parents, has created a “Protective Guardian” award, which is given to a student or young person who has actively worked against bullying  in their school or community.

Leading an organization that encourages kindness and inclusivity made Bailey👼 a perfect fit for the Crown2Diana Award,🌹 which she received in 2016.Crown2 The Diana Award 🌹 also created National Kindness Day, celebrated on March 31, in the late royal’s honor.

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The Movember Foundation Canada

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Our fathers, partners, brothers and friends face a health crisis that isn’t being talked about. Men are dying too young. We can’t afford to stay silent.

That’s why we’re taking action.

We’re the only charity tackling men’s health on a global scale, year round. We’re smilie-movember2addressing some of the biggest health issues faced by men: prostate cancer, testicular cancer, and mental health and suicide prevention.

We know what works for men, and how to find and fund the most innovative research to have both a global and local impact. We’re independent of government funding, so we can challenge the status quo and invest quicker in what works. In 13 years we’ve funded more than 1,200 men’s health projects around the world. By 2030 we’ll reduce the number of men dying prematurely by 25%. Help us stop men dying too young. Join the movement.

2016_homepage_tiles_grow_640x640Grow a Mo, save a Bro ~ The moustache is our ribbon, This Movember, grow your Mo and use it to raise funds for men’s health. Sign up ~ Get ready for a hairy month ~ Get growing ~ Grow and groom your moustache for 30 days ~ Put out the call ~ Raise funds for men’s health


billardTake the Move challenge and get physically active during Movember. What is the Move challenge? It’s whatever you make it. Run a race. Learn to rock climb. Work out in costume. Try something new, beat your own personal best, and raise funds for men’s health.

2016_homepage_tiles_host_640x640playing-golf-smiley-emoticonMo Bros and Mo Sistas know how to get creative and have a good time. Whether it’s a golf tournament, band night, or a dinner party – this Movember, get together to raise funds, make some noise, and stop men dying too young.



Our strategy is all about going where men need us most.

We know what works for men. We’re transforming the way research into men’s health is done, and the way health services reach and support men.

We don’t take government funding, so we can challenge the status quo and invest quicker in what works.

Read about our work:

Prostate cancer

Testicular cancer

Mental health and suicide prevention

We report on every initiative we fund so you can see the effect your donations are having.

Thanks to the support of Mo Bros and Mo Sistas we’ve funded more than 1,200 projects saving and improving the lives of men all around the world. Since 2003, we’ve committed ourselves to helping men live happier, healthier, longer lives. Millions have joined us.

From 30 moustaches to 5 million, we couldn’t have done it without you.

From humble beginnings back in 2003 the Movember movement has grown to be a truly global one, inspiring support from over 5 million Mo Bros and Mo Sistas.

The Movember Foundation wouldn’t be where it is without the enthusiasm of all of those men and women around the globe. We’re committed to keeping things fresh, keeping the community informed, and always being transparent and accountable in our practices.

Want to just make a donation? check out the  Official Movember Store




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The Hawn Foundation



pink-happy-heart-smiley-emoticonToday like never before, our children are challenged with incredible amounts of stress and distractions impacting their ability to learn, achieve success and happiness in school and in life. Our children, especially those at risk, need tools and strategies to help them emotionally regulate, reduce their stress, gain perspective, build empathy and resilience, while experiencing the joy of learning.

Our children represent 25% of the current population but 100% of our future. A happy child is a child who can learn. I hope you will join me in creating a better world for our children.

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About Us

Children today are showing signs of distress. School dropout rates are rising. Distractions abound for children, their teachers, and parents.

MG_121A child’s ability to learn is directly linked to their overall state of well-being and mental health, of primary concern to The Hawn Foundation and Founder, Goldie Hawn who was the visionary behind MindUP™.

Assembling a team of educators, neuroscientists, positive psychologists and experts in mindful awareness training, the academy award winning actress, producer, author, child advocate and philanthropist created the evidence-based MindUP™ as a social and emotional literacy curriculum and training program. For 10 years, it has grown as the signature initiative of The Hawn Foundation and currently serves children and schools across five continents.

Accredited by CASEL, MindUP™ equips children, educators and parents with vital social and emotional literacy skills, helping them increase focus, improve academic performance, reduce stress, gain emotional resilience and optimism. Rooted in neuroscience, the program teaches self-regulatory behavioural control while offering engagement strategies for learning and living.

school-bus-smiley-emoticon.gifThe Hawn Foundation enlists educators, scientists, researchers, clinicians, volunteers, parents and children’s advocates as well as the most dynamic mindful awareness practitioners in the world to join us in our efforts to expand MindUP™ globally for children. You’re invited to join us and make a difference today in the lives of children, impacting their opportunities for lifelong success!

The Giving Way to Happiness

bookWe often focus on how our gifts can help those in need. But the act of giving actually improves our own lives as well. In The Giving Way to Happiness, featuring The Hawn Foundation founder Goldie Hawn and her personal glassesphilanthropy journey, author Jenny Santi overturns conventional thinking about what it takes to be happy by revealing how giving to others – whether in the form of money, expertise, time, or love – has helped people from all walks of life find purpose and joy. Featuring Goldie’s experiences, from starting The Hawn Foundation to writing 10 Mindful Minutes and beyond, the book draws on the wisdom of great thinkers past and present, as well as cutting-edge flower-pink-smiley-emoticon-animationscientific research. Santi makes an eloquent and passionate case that oftentimes the answers to the problems that haunt us, and the key to the happiness that eludes us, lie in helping those around us. Available for purchase on Amazon now!

Help us Help Children Build a Better World


MindUP™ was created through a collaboration of neuroscientists, positive psychologists and educators to create the evidence-based training program for teachers and children called MindUP™.
e861fb7b5d22fc4a6f97d642b05b8b72Based in neuroscience, mindfulness and positive psychology, MindUP™ teaches children greater emotional self-control, resiliency and helps develop better decision-making skills. MindUP™ teaches kids about their brain, their most powerful tool and how to reduce stress.
In 15 lessons, MindUP™ provides training for complex problem solving skills and building greater concentration. The end result – children are able to engage in learning, becoming less reactive and more focused in school.





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Heads Together ~ A Mental Health Campaign


“Bottling everything up can become self-destructive and as men we can be socially awkward. CALM offers a way to break the silence.”~ Esco Williams, musician

Through our work with young people, emergency response, homeless charities, and with veterans, smilie-sherk3we have seen time and time again that unresolved mental health problems lie at the heart of some of our greatest social challenges.

-king-of-the-worldToo often, people feel afraid to admit that they are struggling with their mental health. This fear of prejudice and judgement stops people from getting help and can destroy families and end lives. Heads Together wants to help people feel much more comfortable with their everyday mental well-being and have the practical tools to support their friends and family.

Being the 2017 Virgin Money London Marathon Charity of the Year is the perfect springboard for the Heads Together campaign. We cannot wait to see hundreds of runners hitting the streets of London next April to end the stigma and change the conversation on mental health once and for all.


The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry are spearheading the Heads Together campaign to end stigma around mental health. Heads Together aims to change the national conversation on mental health and well-being, and will be a partnership with inspiring charities with decades of experience in tackling stigma, raising awareness, and providing vital help for people with mental health challenges.

fairy tale princess2There has been huge progress made to tackle stigma surrounding mental woman2health in recent decades, but it still remains a key issue driven by negative associations, experience and language. Through this campaign, Their Royal Highness’s are keen to build on the great work that is already taking place across the country, to ensure that people feel comfortable with their everyday mental well-being, feel able to support their friends and families through difficult times, and that stigma no longer prevents people getting help they need.

They are privileged to be working with partner charities who have achieved so much in tackling stigma, raising awareness, and providing vital help for people with mental health challenges. The team of charity partners working on Heads Together covers a wide range of mental health issues that are close to The Duke and Duchess and Prince Harry’s passions.

They are:

There will be a number of ways to get involved and show your support for the campaign. Sign up to join the campaign and be kept up to date here and apply to run for Heads Together in the 2017 Virgin Money London Marathon. Heads Together runners will raise vital funds and awareness for our charity partners and play their part in starting conversations on mental health with their friends, families and workmates.

Heads Together is an initiative coordinated by The Royal Foundation of The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry, registered charity no. 1132048


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Nowhere fast: The journey in and out of unsupported temporary accommodation


“Hidden Homelessness”

This report shines a light on the predicament facing single homeless adults, who often struggle to access mainstream housing options and so end up cycling in and out of low-quality band-aidtemporary accommodation, which has impacts on their health and creates future costs for local serviceshub2This is the second phase of a three-year project on the lives of homeless people living in what we describe as unsupported temporary accommodation. These tenants will typically have neither a permanent tenancy status nor any structured support plan to move them into settled accommodation. Homeless households with limited access to local authority support, living in private shortstay accommodation such as private hostels, guest houses, B&Bs and houses in multiple occupation (HMOs).

Government data reports that there were 5,910 households placed in B&B accommodation by local authorities in Q3 2015 (DCLG 2015c).

heartThere is, however, reason to believe that the number living in these circumstances is far higher. A report published in 1997 by Shelter estimated that there were 72,550 private tenants (self-referred or referred by another agency/authority) living in B&B accommodation, which is nearly 10 times the government’s count of local authority placements, which stood at 7,660 (Carter 1997).

thekeySimilarly, in 2008, New Philanthropy Capital published a report stating that approximately 260,000 people in England were living on the streets or in temporary accommodation, far above official estimates (Blake et al 2008).

Very little research has been done on the lives of these ‘hidden homeless’ and their paths into and out of these types of accommodation. The first stage of our research culminated in an IPPR report on life in unsupported temporary accommodation, Not home (Rose and Davies 2014). This report set out the context for the project, provided detail about the people who are participating in our research and about the complexities of the system, and set out why it is so vital to address the problems and impacts of unsupported temporary accommodation.

The Not home report highlighted a number of important findings:

• Unsupported temporary accommodation is housing a significant and unaccounted-for proportion of the national homeless population. Many tenants were found to be extremely vulnerable and living in conditions deemed unfit for anyone else.

These tenants are receiving only the weakest protection – or no protection at all – from the existing homelessness ‘safety net’. They are frequently offered no statutory temporary or other accommodation, and no further support from statutory homeless services. There is no plan to support these people during their move into unsupported temporary accommodation, during their stay, or when they come to move out.nurse3

• Monitoring of where these tenants end up living, with whom and for how long is often very limited. This important data is fragmented, with the few statistics that currently aid in identifying the scale of the problem dispersed across a range of government and non-governmental databases.

• Tenants’ health, wellbeing, relationships and finances are seen to significantly deteriorate during their stay in unsupported temporary accommodation, frequently because of dire living conditions, stresses related to unsecure tenure, and chaotic social environments.

Building on this first phase, research in our second year has sought to identify what can be done in practical terms to improve the situation for these households at the local level. In fork-it2this report, therefore, we provide an illustration of the typical experience of those who have participated in our research, and provide examples of how shifts to local authority policy, and local agency and service action, might help to increase the number and effectiveness of interventions into the lives of unsupported temporary accommodation residents

Continue reading this report »»»»»»

It is structured around a tenant’s typical journey – or cycle – through unsupported temporary accommodation.


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Bullied preemies may develop mental illness as adults: Study


The more Bullied as Children, increases the chance they may develop “Depression, Anxiety, Antisocial Behaviour or ADHD” as adults.

mcmasterHamilton, ON (Feb. 17, 2016) – Babies born at an extremely low birth weight (ELBW) are miracles, but they are more likely to be bullied as children, and this can significantly increase their risk for mental health problems as adults.

Not only that, but the more they were bullied as children, the more likely doctor-with-stethoscope-smiley-emoticonthey are to develop problems such as depression, anxiety, antisocial behavior or attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) as adults, says a new study from McMaster University’s Michael G. DeGroote School of Medicine.

“Being bullied has a significant and lasting impact for those preemies, even into their 30s,” said Kimberly Day, lead author of the study and Lawson Postdoctoral Fellow at the Offord Centre for Child Studies at McMaster.

“This has Important implications for parents, teachers, and clinicians who need to be aware of the long-term effects of peer victimization on mental health. They need to watch out for bullying and intervene when possible.”

computer 22The study was published in the journal Pediatrics today. The study included ELBW babies who were 2.2 pounds or less at their birth between 1977 and 1982 in Ontario, who were interviewed at age 8, 22 to 26 and 29 to 36. They were compared to normal birthweight babies of 5.5 pounds or more who were born in the same time span and interviewed at the same intervals.

Bullying is common, with up to one-third of children worldwide facing peer victimization, and ELBW children are even more likely to be victims. ELBW children may be at risk for being bullied because of poor motor abilities, more anxiety and struggles at school, the study said.

doctor-smiley-emoticon“This is the first study to fully illustrate the profound and long-lasting effects of bullying on the mental health of preterm survivors,” said Dr. Ryan Van Lieshout, the senior author of the study and an assistant professor of psychiatry and behavioural neurosciences at McMaster. “Their risk for anxiety disorders is especially high, particularly among those who are exposed to bullying on a regular basis.”

And, of those ELBW children who were bullied, they were nearly twice as likely to develop a mental health problem such as anxiety, depression, or ADHD by the time they were in their 20s. nurses-wHowever, the risk was even higher for those who were bullied more often.

By their 30s, the ELBW adults who had been bullied as children were nearly 3 times more likely to have developed anxiety disorders such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social phobia, and panic disorder. Rates were even higher for those bullied more frequently.

The study was funded by the Canadian Institutes of Health Research and the American National Institutes of Health.

Article by Veronica McGuire ~ vmcguir@mcmaster.ca  McMaster.ca 

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Encounter of The Fourth Kind




ME-1968Another forced sleepless Night gives me this opportunity to finally do what I have been putting of for a few months now, to write a post on my true feeling, what is really happening in my life and the struggles I still confront everyday, a behind the silence that no one sees or knows about, a ruthless evil, an Encounter of the unknown that I call the “The Fourth Kind”.

Anyway let me start by confirming, I try my best to be the best, no the most exceptional person I can be, I have always respected my upbringing, I was taught “To honour and respect everyone” and I applied it to my own existence, I stuck my neck out many times for others only to get a kick in the face, but I kept sticking my neck out for the right reasons, I also lent a hand when I new it wasn’t the right thing to do, not illegal mind you but rather against my morals only because it made someone Happy and smile. Most of all I helped if it was at all possible for me to do so, and mattered most, when it hurt my heart.

For example the following is the kind of thing that truly bothers and upsets me to see, it’s only one of many good deeds I  done out of kindness that I am proud of to this day:

I had friends that lived in the country a few years back, as I would visit them frequently it brings to mind an issue one winter with their sump pump, to make a long story short, the current pump seen it’s last day, a new one would cost $380.00 plus Taxes, money those friends never had. After making some phone calls, we removed the old pump and headed to town.

What kind of person would I be to sit back knowing I had the money while a family had no water, also being February month, I could never live with myself after if I never, so I purchased the new pump for them.

JUSESSo what’s my point you ask? well today I received in the mail a ticket I surprisingly had received on Nov 16, 2015 for, and I QUOTE : “Drove a vehicle while under a Sanctionamount $460.00 ~ Date Nov,16 2015. It also gives me 30 days from the date of the infraction to “PAY” or enter how I “Plead”, “Guilty or Not Guilty” receiving it today leaving me two weeks to respond. My Friend also came down and spoke with the officer on that day in question and said there was no ticket issued, it ended without incident.

From my experience with past parking tickets, once you pay the fine at City Hall as I did, they then contact the SAAQ (in this case), the City then informs and forwards that information to the SAAQ to adjust their records accordingly, this case removing the operating restrictions on my “Driver’s licence” and my “Licence Plate” which were both free and clear, which I received in writing from the SAAQ.

I paid these parking tickets in question in two payments, one on Sept 14, 2015 for $40.00 and the other one on Sept 28, 2015 for $160.00.
The tickets were $30.00 ea. and I didn’t pay them immediately (as if everyone does) so they ended up costing me a total of $100.00 each. I did not dispute that, I paid the $200.00, so why now then do I have to go and explain and show my evidence to a Judge! This I will do, as I am pleading “Not Guilty” and definitely going, only If a judge orders me to pay the $460.00 shall I.


I really think this has gotten out of hand, and they shall never leave me be, as long as there is a lack of justice, crime Thump’s. It baffles me why these people are so determined to destroy me, because in All Honesty, I don’t have no idea who they are or why they hate me so!


Steamed but this video I recorded on that walk home Nov 16, 2015!

It was requested by a Gatineau Police Services officer when he stopped me at 36 Tasse on Nov 16, 2015, in front of my friends building. After the officer checked my information I provided, he informed me of my licence plate suspension for unpaid fines and asked me to park my car and leave it in my friends parking spot until morning after I went to the SAAQ to clear up the misunderstanding, which I did and renewed my plates at the same time for another year. I told him I paid the fines in Sept 2015 and had receipts to prove it, but I did as he said, I parked my car and walked home. This video I recorded on that walk home Nov 16, 2015!



In closing: The tension in my work, home and social life is so thick, you can cut it with a knife. I have loved and losted and I have losted and loved but now I am at the stage in my life, where there are so many great and amazing people surrounding me and offering there help, and don’t get me wrong, I am so Grateful for you and your devotion in showing me the universal road to Love, redemption and freedom but evil still prevails along my path, and until and only until serious measures are taken to put an end to this torture, or I relocate, my road will always lead to failure and disgrace and I am sorry but I will not walk that road lined with demons no longer as I await death.

Article posted by Terry.K ~ Dec 4, 2015

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Why workplace bullying goes underreported



Bullying at work grinds victims down and make them an ‘easy target’ for further abuse, the findings showed.

Bullying at work deteriorates mental health of victims so much that they become anxious, leaving them less able to stand up for themselves and more vulnerable to further harassment, warns a study.

The research suggests that as workplace bullying is a vicious cycle, employers should not only crack down on workplace bullies, but also help victims gain the skills to cope with difficult situations.

india2“Examples of bullying at work include harassing, offending, or socially excluding someone repeatedly over a period of around six months,” pointed out Ana Sanz Vergel from the University of East Anglia in Britain.

“We found that being exposed to workplace bullying leads to deteriorated mental health and decreased well-being. But at the same time, showing anxious behaviour puts the victim in a weak position and makes them an easy target – leading to a spiral of abuse,” Sanz Vergel added.

The research team tested their theory on 348 Spanish employees. Participants were interviewed about their experiences of bullying and assessed for anxiety and vigour.


“We are by no means victim-blaming here

Clearly employers need to have strong policies against workplace bullying. But training programmes to help victims learn coping mechanisms could help to break the vicious cycle,” Sanz Vergel said.

The study appeared in Anxiety, Stress & Coping: An International Journal.
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Webinar: Perspectives on LGBT Suicide Prevention

hands-imgA webinar on the Prevention of LGBT Suicide and the Role of Health Professionals and Religious/Spiritual Advisors

Despite some improvements in public attitudes toward gay marriages and greater acceptance of homosexuality, disparities in suicide ideation and attempts between LGBT and heterosexual youth persist. New research indicates that few LGBT people sought help prior to attempting suicide and when LGBT people did seek help it was not effective in preventing suicide attempts. Further, counseling from a religious or spiritual advisor was associated with worse outcomes. Compared with individuals who did not seek help at all, those who sought help from a religious or spiritual advisor were more likely later to attempt suicide. Black LGBTs were also more likely than White or Latino LGBTs to seek treatment in religious or spiritual settings prior to a suicide attempt.


Ilan H. Meyer, Ph.D., Williams Senior Scholar of Public Policy, Williams Institute, UCLA School of Law
Abbe Land, Executive Director, The Trevor Project
Ann Haas, Ph.D., Senior Consultant, American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
Rev. Delman Coates, Ph.D., Senior Pastor, Mt. Ennon Baptist Church

Peter Goldblum, Ph.D., Professor, Director of the Center for LGBTQ Evidence-based Applied Research (CLEAR), Palo Alto University

Dr. Meyer will summarize recent research showing that, at least in the past, few LGBT people sought help prior to attempting suicide and when LGBT people did seek help it was not effective in preventing suicide attempts. Study respondents who sought mental health or medical treatment at some time prior to their suicide attempt (or, among those who did not attempt suicide, prior to the age when suicide might have been attempted) were as likely as respondents who did not seek any mental health treatment to have a suicide attempt or serious suicide attempt after this time. However, counseling from a religious or spiritual advisor was associated with worse outcomes. Compared with individuals who did not seek help at all, those who sought help from a religious or spiritual advisor were more likely later to attempt suicide.

Ms. Land will discuss the role of professionals and trained peer counselors in suicide prevention, especially related to LGBT youth. She will also describe preventive trainings, programs, and model policies offered by The Trevor Project, the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBT and questioning young people ages 13-24.

Dr. Haas will discuss advances and challenges in research of prevention of suicide in LGBT populations.

Rev. Coates is Senior Pastor of Mt. Ennon Baptist Church in Clinton, MD and President of the Black Church Center for Justice and Equality, committed to reclaiming the social justice tradition of the Black church. Rev. Coates believes in keeping the legacy of African American Christian activism and the responsibility of progressive faith leaders to further Christian love and American democracy. He will talk about why he believes it is important for African American pastors to dispel the myth the bible condemns homosexuality and the role of LGBT individuals in the Black church.

Dr. Goldblum is the co-editor of Youth Suicide and Bullying: Challenges and Strategies for Prevention and Intervention (forthcoming September 2014, Oxford University Press). Dr. Goldblum will discuss the four presentations and share from his own extensive experience as director of a clinic that specializes in working with LGBT people.
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Writing for PinkNews.co.uk, Peter Purton, the TUC’s LGBT officer says despite moves forward like same-sex marriage, issues like workplace discrimination are still faced by members of the LGBT community.

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If you’re gay in Brunei, you can get stoned to death, in Uganda, imprisoned for life. In Russia, you can be arrested for saying that being LGB or T is fine. But in Britain, like in France, and much of the USA, we can marry our loved one (unless you live in Northern Ireland). Why shouldn’t the LGBT community celebrate Pride in London on 28 June as a big joyous party?
Unions have long supported Pride and we’ll be there (and at many other Prides over the summer) to join the party. But also to promote our message to the community – life isn’t all that pretty for many of us and the same government that gave us same sex marriage has also, through its policy of continuing austerity, caused much suffering to many in our community.
The largest ever survey of the experience of LGBT people at work confirmed that we are more than two and half times more likely than heterosexual colleagues to face discrimination at work, usually in the form of bullying or harassment. It was the same story across every sector of the economy. Employers with good equality policies were as likely as any not to have a clue how to deal with it. And lots of heterosexual people who say they’re not homophobic didn’t recognise that their bullying behaviour was wrong. So there’s a long way to go before many LGBT workers can feel secure and equal at work. In education, the picture continues to be bleak as homophobia is rampant – even in universities thought of as beacons of tolerance, LGBT students report growing prejudice.
This is bad news for our health and in particular our mental health, but government cuts have slashed mental health services. It’s even worse if you’re young. Young LGBTs are massively overrepresented among people with mental ill health. They’re also more likely to be homeless, victims of a housing crisis created by government policies, but often unable to seek shelter in parental homes. At the same time, hate crimes have risen – a five per cent increase in London last year. But specialist services to help victims have also been subject to spending cuts.
Benefit cuts, in-work poverty caused by low pay and zero-hours contracts, high rents and squeezed public services and with worse still to come, the tough times are set to continue. When life is hard, as it is now for millions, people look for someone to blame, and minorities are always vulnerable.
But there is an alternative. Join us in fighting for a better world and a fairer Britain where all of us can celebrate the big steps we’ve made towards equality. Check out the campaign here.
Peter Purton is the LGBT officer at the Trades Union Congress. The TUC is a PinkNews advertiser.
As with all comment pieces, the views expressed may not necessarily reflect those of PinkNews



Oral Infections Causing More Hospitalizations

30well_dentist-tmagArticleI had mentioned in an earlier post that I had to be proactive and pay my dentist a emergence visit due to the pain caused by one tooth that was now preventing me from the ability to chew or even talk for that matter. I was limited for months on what I could eat, mostly foods that required as little as possible having to be chewed, such as Pork Chops, my favorite :-).
Times when I did say to hell with it because when I did eat pork chops soon after the pain got so excruciating I would sometimes have to take 3 to 6 tylenol 1’s to ease the pain, not to mention afraid to go to sleep knowing I would soon awake once I started grinding my teeth in servere pain which has been the result of alot of sleepless nights.
On May 29, 2014 I was out of T-1’s and no money to buy more, so I decided it was time to be proactive and make a trip to the dentist. So during my visit I find out to my surprise that I had not one but numerous infections, resulting in the dentist removing three teeth, two of which were causing the pain.
After the surgery was completed the dentist also informed me that all the remaining teeth will have to be removed as well, the result was treatment of Antibiotics for ten days.
As I sit here writing this post I think and ask myself, when was the last time I could say “I don’t have any Jaw pain” but I don’t ever remember not having jaw pain, so I guess I will have pork chops. 🙂
I was given a referral to a specialist by my dentist and have an appointment tomorrow about the issue of grinding my teeth while sleeping, which would be an answered pray for it to stop as well.
Well all and good but now this sort of baffled me because thinking about how long I’ve had this condition, the pain and complications, as I now know “infections” it’s been months, I’m not really sure when the pain really got servere, but to me it seems like forever, for more than twelve months for sure.
In closing after all my research on Oral Infections that I had done just recently. I am amazed, astonished and lost for words as to why I am not dead now from the infections, they had such a long life to spread throughout my body, either poisoning me or worst it could have just as easlly killed me according to the medical research. I am now certain that beyond a reasonable doubt, I have a Guardian or Secret Angel.

I am including a snippet below from one of those medical reports I mentioned above, or to read the complete article go to The New York Times.

Oral Infections Causing More Hospitalizations

Left untreated, a serious tooth abscess can eventually kill.

In 2007, Deamonte Driver, a 12-year-old boy in Maryland, died after bacteria from an abscessed tooth spread to his brain. The case drew widespread media attention, and his is the cautionary tale cited whenever politicians and advocates discuss access to oral health care.

But a new study suggests that deaths from these preventable infections may not be as rare as once thought and that the number of Americans hospitalized with them may be on the rise.

Studies have shown that dental problems account for hundreds of thousands of emergency room visits each year. The new analysis, published in the September issue of the Journal of Endodontics, focused on patients who had to be hospitalized because of an infection of the tip of the tooth’s root, called a periapical abscess. It is a common consequence of untreated tooth decay, and it can be dangerous if it spreads.

After reviewing national patient data from 2000 to 2008, researchers in Boston found that the people hospitalized for dental abscesses increased by more than 40 percent, to 8,141 in 2008 from 5,757 in 2000. Some 66 patients died after they were hospitalized, according to the new analysis.


Freedom of Speech

the-evaluatordownloadFirst of all you obviously have no idea what it’s like to live life looking over your shoulder, to live in fear, to wake up every day not knowing if it will be your last day at work and fear having to go there, you have probably had everything handed to you on a silver platter.

To be verbally, mentally or physically assaulted and abused while at work, at the doctor’s office, at your local grocery store, no matter where you go.

To look at your bank account to see money missing or an anonymous charge of $1,000 charged to your credit card that you didn’t make and have to make that payment because your bank and all complaints are ignored.

To be continually fired and or forced out of your job for no reason at all.

To be afraid to walk to the corner store and have shady characters follow you and threaten you.

tongueTo be totally defamed and Cyber-Bullied on your social media sites, by words that really have no truth and are hearsay.

To basically have all your human rights denied, not really knowing why, but one right I will exercise is my Freedom of Speech and tell my story, even if it don’t want to be heard.

I suffered in silence but I shall no longer, I have lived this way for most of my life but always smiled and said nothing.

Well since I found my faith, I got the courage and strenght to put my foot down and say no more.

imagesIf you feel that you have to go along with them so as not to fall a victim of the same result, than you are no better then they are, so I will say if you redirect the spot light on the criminal or criminal act they seem to dissipate…or crawl back in their hole.

The one main point we fail to realize here is that this country “CANADA”
has legislation (laws) to protect us from this kind of torture, so do legislation bring relief? I think not.

If I shall die this way, I’m going to make sure the world knows my whole story and if my efforts prevents anyone else from experiencing the same faith and life I’ve lived, then I shall die happy and in Peace.


Evil Landlord #1

new-headerMe in da KitchenFirst I want to apologize, it seems I have missed a whole day, with moderating the sites and the start up of the new affiliate business, it’s been crazy busy getting the pages set up, and it’s not finished yet, and I have fallin behind on my readings, but I will get to them. This post will be yet another addition to “My Story”, I want to take you back to Sept 4, 2009, I was living in Mississauga, Ontario and still working at horror hell “SunGard”. It was sort of their last ditch effort to get rid of me, SunGard that is, any way the story begins with a friend appearing at my door late June of 2009. After a couple of weeks went by I came to find out he was running from the “Law”, to make along story short, he now had to be back in Renfrew Ontario for 5 pm for a meeting with his probation officer, it’s now 12:55 pm, a five hour drive to get him there, knowing it was next impossible to accomplish. So I picked up the phone and placed a call to the officer in question, this gentleman was very upset and yelling on the phone, refusing to give any lead way, saying if he was not on time for his meeting, he would call the police to pick him up and they were going to incarcerate him for one year. After twenty minutes or so, begging and pleading, I managed to convince him to wait as we were leaving immediately. PT CruserWell needless to say while en route I would end up almost losing my vehicle, a new 2008 PT Cruiser only a couple months old to the Ontario Provincial Police due to speeding, she clocked me going 50 kms over the speed limit and in a construction zone no less, current legislation included confiscating the said vehicle and double the normal fine in construction zones for speeding, but for reasons unknown she (the officer) said she would not take my vehicle, and would not double the fine, but I did get a $375 speeding ticket. We arrived in Renfrew one hour late but the guy was in his office waiting, now I had the task of convincing him not to lock a 17 year old boy up for a year with harden criminals, which would do him more harm then good, but he did agree to release him into my custody for 90 days and to return to Mississauga with me, needless to say the boy was as happy as a pig in shit 🙂 I did what I did because I knew him from the day he was born and he has held a special place in my heart and still do, like the son I will never have, even though he is afraid to be seen with me now or to speak to me for that matter. The KitchenThe fact he was going to be living with me for three months, caused issues with my landlord, once he knew I had company living in my unit he wanted more rent. I have been living in this unit for more than 3 years at the time, but to keep the peace I was paying $600 a month, I suggested an increase of $40 a month, he agreed and I assumed that was the end of it, but nooooooooooo I was wrong.One evening I received a call from the landlord regarding a leak under my shower, leaking down to the unit below me, he had to remove my shower to repair it and wanted permission to enter my unit the next day, I granted him the permission, butThe Horror Washroom I would live to regret it though. Arriving home the next day we would find the plumbers in the unit just finishing the shower uninstall, but they had to order a new one, and they would not be able to install it until the next day, leaving us with no running water in the washroom at all, not even for the toilet, I was not impressed but what can you do. I would call him every day for the next four days, inquiring to his intentions for the install of the shower, having to take time off work, 4 days due to no running water, we proceeded back to Renfrew to wait it out. On day four I called one of my brother’s in Brampton and requested he place a call to him for me because he, the landlord had not returned any of my calls or messages. My brother placed a call to him right away but got no answer either but left a message, Me SunGard 2007so on day five I left and headed back to Mississauga, not being able to loose any more time from work, but once I arrived late that night around 11 pm, I was surprised to see the plumbers working so late installing the new shower, it was certainly a relief. It also felt good the next morning, day five to wake up, shower and head to work, but it would be in vain, after 6 1/2 years it would be the day that SunGard would fire me. Now relieved that I no longer had to tolerate the workplace Bullying and Mobbing, but my life was now over, only to get worst. In closing over the last four years I have often wondered why or how I225113_10150978168096890_2016419255_n was still alive, and where my strength was coming from because in late 2010 I spent 8 days in bed, depressed and not able, nor did I have any desire to get out, I just wanted to die, but that’s when by chance I would meet my God sent, the one responsible for where and who I am today….lotsa luv mon ami.

Canada, home to the suicide capital of the world

In Pikangikum, gas sniffing is rampant and young people are taking their own lives at a shocking rate. Martin Patriquin
In Pikangikum, gas sniffing is rampant and young people are taking their own lives at a shocking rate.
Martin Patriquin

Randy Keeper is sick of building coffins. A wiry fellow who looks younger than his 49 years, Keeper is proud of his job as a carpenter and crew leader, saying he’s built 25 houses from scratch over 17 years in Pikangikum, the reserve in northwestern Ontario where he has lived his whole life. But when it comes to the wooden boxes he builds for Pikangikum’s dead, he draws a blank. “I don’t count them,” he says from his daughter’s dining room table. He remembers the last ones, though. They were in December. “I had to make two in one day, one for an elder and one for a younger person.”

The dreams started a couple of weeks after that. In one, he’s lying face up in a freshly dug grave, watching as a coffin is slowly lowered toward him. He doesn’t know if there’s anyone inside, but he recognizes his handiwork: 100 lb. of plywood, treated pine and nails, a simple enough thing that takes him no more than 90 minutes to build. In the dream he’s alive but can’t move as it comes down on his chest, smothering him. Then he wakes up. “The elders told me to stop making them,” he says, “but I have no choice because I work for the band. I get nervous, shaky. Once the dreams happened I’d say yes out of respect for chief and council, but sometimes I don’t show up.”

Keeper is in high demand. Pikangikum, a fly-in reserve located about 300 km northeast of Winnipeg, is a place constantly haunted by the spectre of suicide. Over nearly four decades, the people of Pikangikum have seen dozens upon dozens of their friends and family members take their own lives. Last year, six people from the Ojibwa First Nations community killed themselves in as many weeks. In 2011, the community of roughly 2,400 had a suicide rate equivalent to 250 per 100,000—nearly 20 times that of Canada, and far and away the highest in the world. It has been so for 20 nearly uninterrupted years.

In recent months, the Attawapiskat reserve on James Bay served as a reminder of the deplorable conditions in many of Canada’s native communities. The lack of adequate housing in the frigid temperatures, followed by an acrimonious funding fight with the federal government, has kept the James Bay reserve of 1,800 in the public eye for months—a rare feat when it comes to native issues.

Separated by 500 km of northern Ontario wilderness, Attawapiskat and Pikangikum both suffer from a raft of structural and social problems: lack of housing and running water, addiction and poverty. Yet a glance at the numbers suggests Pikangikum is worse off—much worse. Consider how 80 per cent of its housing doesn’t have sewage pipes or running water; consider how the community of 2,400 had just over 3,600 lockups and nearly 5,000 calls for service to police last year. Consider how only two students graduated from high school last year. Consider how, as recently as 2008, fully 40 per cent of referrals to Tikinagan, northern Ontario’s First Nations childhood protection agency, were from Pikangikum. And consider the suicides, which have taken 96 lives—the vast majority of them young—in 20 years.

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Article courtesy of Macleans.ca posted March 30, 2012


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Partners for Mental Health

How are we feeling- - terr.kinnn2@gmail.com - Gmail.clipularToday, we are feeling EXCITED, THANKFUL and (to be honest) a bit ANXIOUS as we launch our second year of the Not Myself Today campaign in workplaces across the country.

We issued a challenge to Corporate Canada to step up and do their part to create and maintain work environments that support mental health. And we are thrilled to say that, so far, more than 110 companies and organizations have risen to this challenge!

They have joined the 2014 Not Myself Today campaign and have committed to organizing events and activities in their workplaces, using the tools and resources we’ve provided, to reduce stigma and help create cultures of acceptance and support for mental health.

Now, are you ready to join these organizations to do your part? Start by telling your own employer about the initiative and encouraging them to participate – it’s never too late. SHARE THE WEBSITE LINK – notmyselftoday.ca – with your Human Resources department or manager today. To effectively tackle this issue and drive long-lasting change, we need even more companies and organizations getting involved.

You can also download your own mini-toolkit to help spark the conversation and promote mental health and well-being in your workplace. LEARN MORE.

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Jeff, Leslie, PJ, Wendy, Uyen, Krystle, Katie and volunteers across the country
The Partners for Mental Health team

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Bullying’s Mental Health Toll May Last Years!

Bully Poster Series_1_1Victims of bullying may suffer mental and physical consequences even after bullying occurs, research shows. A new study in the journal Pediatrics finds that bullying is associated with poor physical and mental health among children, particularly among those who were bullied in the past and are being currently bullied. The effects were strongest among children who were bullied continuously, in more than one grade, particularly in terms of psychological health, said lead author Laura Bogart, associate professor of pediatrics at Boston Children’s Hospital. Psychological measures included negative emotions such as anger and depression. “We were able to show that these effects of bullying snowballed and compounded over time,” Bogart said.


imagesResearchers used a large sample of students at public schools in three metropolitan areas: Los Angeles, Houston and Birmingham, Alabama. A total of 4,297 students and their parents participated in all three phases of the study. More than 60% had household incomes of less than $50,000 a year, and less than half of parents had a high school degree or lower, suggesting a high proportion of participants from low socioeconomic status. The children and their parents responded to computer-assisted personal interviews in English or Spanish. The first round took place in fifth grade; the next came two years later, when nearly all the kids were in seventh grade, and then three years after that, when almost everyone was in 10th grade. Questions to assess bullying and victimization included, “How often did kids kick or push you in a mean way during the past 12 months?” If a child responded to of the six questions related to victimization with “about once a week” or “a few times a week,” he or she was considered to have experienced bullying. The children also answered questions about bullying in the context of both the past and present. Researchers evaluated the children on mental and physical health parameters, including depression and self-worth.


MentalHealthResearchers found particularly striking differences in mental health when comparing children who had been bullied with those who had not. Among fifth-graders, about 4% of kids who had not been bullied showed low psychological health, far less than the 31% of kids who had been bullied. In later years, researchers found a strong relationship between low psychological health and bullying, especially among children who said they were being bullied at that time, or both at that time and in the past. The study found that about 45% of children in 10th grade who were bullied both in the past and the present had low psychological health, compared with 31% of those currently bullied, 12% of kids bullied only in the past and about 7% who had not been bullied. Physical health had a similar relationship to bullying, although the relationship between bullying and physical health was not as strong as with mental health. Those who experienced past and present bullying also tended to have worse symptoms of depression than other children surveyed. The worst depression symptoms were shown by 30% of 10th-graders bullied in the past and present, compared with 19% of those bullied only currently, 13% of those bullied in the past only and 8% of those who had not been bullied. Similarly, the largest group of 10th-graders with the lowest self-worth were those who had been bullied in the past and the present. “Although bullying in the present was a stronger predictor of poor health than past bullying, past bullying predicted poorer present health after considering present bullying,” the study said. About 30% of participants said in at least one of the three rounds of interviews that they had experienced frequent bullying.


An ornate clock with the words Time to Heal on its faceWe can’t conclude from this study design that bullying causes poor health outcomes. Researchers looked only at associations. Nonetheless, the findings corroborate many other studies linking bullying to worse health.
Also, the study was conducted in three U.S. metropolitan areas and only in public schools; the situations in different geographic areas, and different kinds of school, may vary.


education“What these results show are a strong argument for an immediate intervention, early intervention, before the effects of bullying can get too serious for mental and physical health,” Bogart said. She encourages parents to have an open line of communication with their children and to always ask how their day went. There may be physical signs of bullying, such as bruises or scrapes, but a more subtle red flag might be a reluctance to go to school. Sadness, depression and isolation are also possible indications of bullying. School-based interventions have shown to be successful, especially when everyone involved in the school participates. “Parents and teachers can teach kids the importance of respect and acceptance of other people and to speak out when they see bullying,” Bogart said.
Post by: Elizabeth Landau – CNN.com Health Writer/Producer
Filed under: Bullying • Mental Health • Psychology

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Human Rights Campaign

946551_10151730310393281_1268639255_nfrom: Chad Griffin, Human Rights Campaign
reply-to: “Chad Griffin, Human Rights Campaign”
to: terr.kinnn2@gmail.com
date: Thu, Nov 28, 2013 at 11:00 AM
subject: Thank you.
Dear Terry,
You are part of something extraordinary.
There are millions of people whose lives will be better next year – truly, tangibly better – because of what you helped achieve this year. So today, I’m writing to thank you.
This year, more than any year in history, we have seen a true shift in momentum for equality in America.
…State by state, marriage equality is becoming reality.
…Case by case, the bonds of love are triumphing over discrimination and hate.
…Vote by vote we are moving toward true fairness in the workplace.
…Step by step, we are building a nation where all people are secure in their full civil rights.
Email-Header-NarrowAnd it’s all because of you, Terry. History is not made by bearing witness. It is made by taking action.
You have generously proven your willingness to see this struggle through to the finish – until the day when every young person in this country will grow up knowing true equality, freedom, and dignity. We know that day will come. We will not rest until it does. And when you look back, you will know you were on the right side of history.
From all of us at HRC – thank you. May you have a warm and happy Thanksgiving.

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Doctor Bullying Raises Risk to Patient care!!!

doctor_bullying_tstockDoctors should stop bullying their colleagues for their sake and to ensure patient safety is not compromised, according to UK-wide medical defence organisation the MDDUS (The Medical and Dental Defence Union of Scotland).

The organisation has issued a warning to the medical profession of the consequences of doctors who bully their colleagues thus failing to follow principles of good practice and risking harm to patient care.

Last week, the GMC’s annual survey of doctors in training revealed that more than a quarter had experienced undermining behaviour and nearly one in five doctors had witnessed someone being bullied.

There was also a survey in the autumn by the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development (CIPD) which found a quarter of doctors and surgeons had been bullied or put under excessive pressure to behave in ways that they believed were not in the best interests of patient care.

Following these surveys, the MDDUS has now advised doctors who persistently undermine or criticised colleagues to consider carefully the potential impact of their behaviour.

MDDUS medical adviser Dr Barry Parker said: “Aside from the very obvious emotional consequences for those subjected to the bullying themselves, there may be a wider impact on patient care and patient safety.

“If there is a breakdown in communication or bad atmosphere between colleagues then it is likely that open communication about patient care will be adversely affected, damaging continuity and the team approach to care that is so important.”

Doctors should always strive to maintain good relationships with colleagues based on mutual respect and trust, he added and pointed to GMC guidance contained in Good Medical Practice, which says: “You must work collaboratively with colleagues, respecting their skills and contributions. You must treat colleagues fairly and with respect and must be aware of how your behaviour may influence others within and outside the team.”

The MDDUS also said junior doctors who experienced an environment of bullying were less likely to develop and learn due to a lack of support from senior colleagues.

Dr Parker said: “Inexperienced doctors may be particularly vulnerable in the face of aggression or rudeness and bullying behaviour can severely impact on their learning and development. Trainee doctors rely on senior colleagues for support and should feel comfortable seeking their advice.

“If they face criticism and are undermined, then this may have an adverse effect on their confidence and performance. It may also make it more difficult for them to seek advice from a senior colleague when this is needed in order to treat patients safely.

“Furthermore, an environment where there is a culture of bullying will not encourage reporting and learning from ‘near misses’ or adverse events. This learning is more likely to occur in a culture where individuals feel supported and safe to raise such matters.”

Workplace Bullying the cause of Alec Meikle’s Anxiety and Depression, Inquest hears

1_alec1-620x349The workplace bullying that teenage apprentice Alec Meikle was allegedly subjected to “appeared to be the sole contributing factor” to the severe depression that ultimately led to his suicide, the Coroner’s Court has heard.
Alec, 17, took his life on October 13, 2008 following months of alleged bullying at the hands of his supervisor and colleagues at the Bathurst operation of train manufacturer, Downer EDI.
An inquest into the teenager’s death has heard that he was allegedly burnt with a welding torch, sprayed with adhesive spray, and set on fire over the course of five months in early to mid 2008.
A number of his colleagues also allegedly subjected him to near-constant verbal abuse, and threatened to anally rape him with a steel dildo.
On Wednesday, a Bathurst psychiatrist who treated Alec in mid 2008, Andrew Frukacz, said the teenager told him he had had suicidal thoughts, including throwing himself in front of the early morning train that passed by his workplace.
“He said ‘dying [would be] a lot easier than going through this’,” Dr Frukacz said.
5129654-3x2-340x227“But at the time there were no plans to follow through on these ideas…I thought he was a low risk. He was away from the situation, he was planning some good things including returning to New Zealand.”
Dr Frukacz diagnosed the teenager with anxiety, depression and an adjustment disorder, and said the bullying he had received at Downer appeared to be the main cause.
“From the history Alec presented to me it appeared that that was the sole contributing factor in the development of his anxiety and depressive condition,” he said.
“He talked about being harassed at the school [St Stanislaus High School] but it clearly never got to the point where he had to see a psychiatrist.”
art-353-alec-300x0“The thing that seemed to really upset him and distress him was the unrelentingly negative comments about his work. That lessened his resilience. If you’re being told consistently that your work is no good, it destroys your sense of self and your inner belief that you can cope with things.”
The inquest heard that in mid 2008 Alec returned to New Zealand, the country of his birth, where he was treated by a psychologist, Kerry Gould.
Ms Gould subsequently wrote in her notes that the workplace bullying Alec was subjected to “had made him doubt his masculinity”.
“He felt like he was a failure in the last suicide attempt and when the opportunity to be alone in his house he proceeded to take it,” Ms Gould said.
The inquest before Deputy NSW Coroner Paul McMahon continues.
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Bill 168, Occupational Health and Safety Amendment.

new-headerTo End The Week On a Positive note, have a great one…lotsa Luvmasthead-A_en
Fonseca, Hon Peter Minister of Labour
stock-photo-stop-intimidation-sign-127734746Bill 168 (Violence and Harassment in the Workplace) 2009 Ontario
Current Status: Royal Assent received Chapter Number: R.S.O. 2009 C.23
An Act to amend the Occupational Health and Safety Act with respect to violence and harassment in the workplace and other matters Ontario
Note: This Act amends the Occupational Health and Safety Act. For the legislative history of the Act, see the Table of Consolidated Public Statutes – Detailed Legislative History on e-laws. Her Majesty, by and with the advice and consent of the Legislative Assembly of the Province of Ontario, enacts as follows:
1. Subsection 1 (1) of the Occupational Health and Safety Act is amended by adding the following definitions: “workplace harassment” means engaging in a course of vexatious comment or conduct against a worker in a workplace that is known or ought reasonably to be known to be unwelcome; (“harcèlement au travail”)
“workplace violence” means:stop_workplace_bullying_mousepad
(a) the exercise of physical force by a person against a worker, in a workplace, that causes or could cause physical injury to the worker,
(b) an attempt to exercise physical force against a worker, in a workplace, that could cause physical injury to the worker,
(c) a statement or behaviour that it is reasonable for a worker to interpret as a threat to exercise physical force against the worker, in a workplace, that could cause physical injury to the worker. (“violence au travail”)
2. Section 25 of the Act is amended by adding the following subsection:
stick_figure_group_bullying_400_wht_9796(3.1) Any explanatory material referred to under clause (2) (i) may be published as part of the poster required under section 2 of the Employment Standards Act, 2000.
3. The Act is amended by adding the following Part:
Policies, violence and harassment

32.0.1 (1) An employer shall,
(a) prepare a policy with respect to workplace violence;
(b) prepare a policy with respect to workplace harassment; and
(c) review the policies as often as is necessary, but at least annually.
I’m not going to post the complete list of amendments involved in Bill 168, you get the idea, this is one piece of legislation, Statutes I will be relying on for “Kinden v Richcraft” and a number of others, all of which occurred in Ontario. I think it’s what’s needed right across the board, you can read the complete legislative Act Here, employers can get more information at “Reg Quest newsletter VOLUME 3, NO. 9” – SEPTEMBER 2010 entitled Bill 168: Employers’ Liability for Workplace Violence and Harassment Read the official article here from “The Legislative Assembly of Ontario”.

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The Bullying Basics: Facts, Tips, and Help for Kids

kids-safe-playground-106677930cpi2013-logo-headerpp-header-top-2013-05-23As a parent, how do you help ensure your kid’s school and community are safe?

It’s important that children understand the different kinds of bullying and why people bully. eSchoolToday provides information and resources in their “Your Basic Facts & Tips on Bullying” lesson that go far beyond the basics. Kids also learn how they can prevent, cope with, and handle the effects of bullying, even if they’re just witnesses to the event.

eSchoolToday has tips for parents, too. One suggestion is for parents to develop a simple plan with their kids, empowering them to work on the issue. Another is to find out the school policies, including if there are anger or emotional management classes for kids.

For more help, our School Bullying Resources and References page is dedicated to helping prevent and control school and youth bullying, such as 10 Ways to Help Reduce Bullying in Schools. CPI_logo-75x75In addition, we offer a Bullying Behaviors refresher option for CPI Certified Instructors in your school district. What suggestions do you have for helping keep your children, school, and community safe?
Oh and don’t forget your free Bullying Prevention Resources Guide also from our trusted friends at CPI . empower-me

It Gets Better (November 13)

cropped-email-header-2011-12-291In October 2010, following an alarming spike in the suicides of bullied gay kids across the country, eight mental health professionals in Chicago gathered to respond. These mental health professionals have worked extensively within the gay and lesbian community. And they have something important to say to you, your families and your friends. Filmed and edited by Michael Stewart.

It started for GMCLA with this video. The movement grew dramatically. We have taken this video to the next step: it gets better Tour. On October 24th, 2010, members of GMCLA, along with their friends and supporters, gathered at Immanuel Presbyterian Church in Los Angeles to sing a song of hope. This is the result of that extraordinary afternoon.

NYC nightlife legend & comedian MURRAY HILL and his friends filmed an important message for the gay kids all over the world live from the Miss LEZ Pageant at the Knitting Factory in Brooklyn, New York. Many queer icons were in the house to share the love, like Michael Musto, World Famous *BOB*, JD Samson, Silas Howard, Bitch, Sarah Greenwood, and many others. All walks of life were present, loud and proud. Overheard in the audience, “It doesn’t get better, it gets f*%king awesome.” Video shot and edited by Jackson Memenza. Get to know Mister Showbiz.

The Columbus Children’s Choir and the Columbus Gay Men’s Chorus from Ohio join together to raise their voices for the It Gets Better campaign. Reflect as they sing the lyrics, “Cause we are beautiful no matter what they say. Yes, words won’t bring us down” Please support www.itgetsbetter.org and www.thetrevorproject.org Dr. Sandra Mathias is the artistic director of the Columbus Children’s Choir. Their mission is Artistic Excellence and Personal Growth
through Music Education and Vocal Performance. Dr. Timothy Sarsany is the artistic director of the Columbus Gay Men’s Chorus. Their mission is Voices Raised, Lives Changed.

“Victims” is a single from UK band Culture Club‘s album Colour by Numbers, released in 1983. As with most early Culture Club singles, the song is about Boy George’s then publicly unknown relationship with drummer Jon Moss. Although the group’s previous single “Karma Chameleon” had been a massive hit throughout the world, “Victims” was only issued in the United Kingdom, Ireland, Germany, and Australia. It peaked at #3 on the UK Singles Chart. In Ireland it peaked at #2, and in Australia it peaked at #4. Despite this global success, it was never released as a single in the United States.

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Sheldon Kennedy Applauds Worksafe BC’s new Anti-Harassment and Bullying Legislation

20131113-Sheldon_KennedyEverywhere you look today there are signs of society’s increasing intolerance for bullying, harassment and all forms of maltreatment in sports, schools and the workplace. Hot on the heels of the NFL suspension, and the Penn State settlement, Worksafe BC is enforcing its new anti bullying and harassment legislation. (www.worksafebc.ca/bullying)
“I applaud the actions of Worksafe BC for taking a leadership role in addressing workplace bullying and harassment through getting employers to proactively step up to address these issues. The new legislation requires that all employers train every employee on how to recognize and eliminate bullying and to implement policies and procedures to keep their workplaces respectful” says Sheldon Kennedy, former NHL player, anti bullying and harassment advocate and Co-founder of Respect Group Inc.
In today’s world where the average worker spends more than 50% of their waking hours at work, thinking about work or commuting to work, ensuring that they are respected and engaged at work becomes critically important for productivity and employee wellness ” says Debby Carreau CEO and Founder of Inspired HR. (www.inspiredhr.ca)
On November 1st, 2013 Worksafe BC began enforcing new anti-harassment and bullying legislation targeted at requiring all employers to be proactive in addressing workplace incivility.
Respect Group, who has already trained over 300,000 Canadians on Respect, has stepped up their commitment in BC to help train thousands more Canadians on-line to create respectful environments and to comply with legislation around these issues. “Carreau continues. (www.respectgroupinc.com)
“Society has changed; employees, athletes and students are no longer willing to accept poor behavior from bosses, coaches or teachers” says Kennedy. “Today they expect to be treated with respect, to feel safe and to know organizations are doing their part to avoid environments where unacceptable behaviour can thrive.”
“Organizations like Respect Group Inc. will be critical in helping organizations navigate the waters of the new legislation through training, consulting and making it easier for employers to comply”, says Carreau.
About Respect group Inc. Respect Group was founded by Sheldon Kennedy and Wayne McNeil, to pursue their common passion; the prevention of abuse, bullying and harassment. Respect Group created a best-in-class e-learning platform, designed for mass consumption. Expert content and a professional on-line certification model round out Respect Group’s fully outsourced risk management/behavior change solutions for sport, schools and the workplace.
About Inspired HR Ltd- Inspired HR helps workplaces leverage their most important asset: people. They do this creating through creating productive, respectful and engaged workplaces.

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Second of Five Freedoms for Freedom from Workplace Bullies Week

#2: Freedom to enjoy Dignity at Work
FreedomWeek-13-2In the American workplace, all rights are owned by employers as a matter of both law and tradition. The rare exceptions are when bargaining agreements proscribe how each side must act. The foundation for treating others with dignity (often called their “due dignity”) is respect. Respectful, non-abusive, treatment acknowledges the quality of the other person being worthy and honorable. The origins of the word Dignity derive from the Old French dignete, and from Latin dignitas, from dignus “worthy.” According to Wikipedia, philosopher Immanuel Kant related human dignity to “free will,” the ability of humans to choose their own actions. Being human alone is considered by Protestantism, Catholicism and Judaism to imbue that person with dignity in that he or she was created in the image of God. Islam and Buddhism speak of dignity as intertwined with seeking self perfection. From the Enlightenment era (also the time of the birth of the USA) comes the notion that personal worth, a proper sense of pride and self-respect are inherent and inalienable human rights. The inherent property directly contradicts some modern notions that dignity must be “earned.”
Inherent dignity at work should not be infringed by employers. but it is routinely done. They should have no right to invade employees’ privacy, their sense of personal integrity or well-being. Canadian and EU laws prohibiting bullying and mobbing often refer to the sanctity of one’s psychological integrity or self-worth or self-esteem.
These declarations would be an unimaginable inclusion in our anti-bullying Healthy Workplace Bill in the U.S. We Americans choose to delude ourselves about our “toughness” while denying the reality of the science of stress-related diseases. Bullying assaults generate distress, which, in turn, causes health-harming stress-related diseases. There is no such thing as a biology unique to American bodies. All humans, as a species, share the human stress response. Perpetrators who act with contempt toward the targeted individuals they bully refuse to acknowledge the humanity of their prey. This level of disrespect tramples targets’ sense of self-worth. Common to all forms of abuse is this outside interference with victims’ sense of worth. Abuse victims are made to feel worthless. Bullied targets feel worthless and incompetent over time, too. Their dignity is shattered. Unfettered Dignity at Work should be routine, not the exception. Workers should not have to be grateful when an inherent right is granted. It makes beggars of us all. So, during Freedom Week especially, stand proud and insist on your right to Dignity.
Pass on the empowerment. Finally, please never stand idly by when you witness another person’s Dignity being crushed. (via Workplace Bullying Institute)

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Father Fights Back Against Bullying After Son’s Suicide

Brad Lewis makes a video plea to end bullying after his son, Jordan, killed himself after ‘being picked on at school.’ The comments only make his case stronger.

Brad Lewis and his son, Jordan, in an undated photo. After Jordan's suicide
Brad Lewis and his son, Jordan, in an undated photo. After Jordan’s suicide
An Illinois dad got the call on Thursday that no parent ever wants to receive. Brad Lewis’ ex-wife was on the phone: Their 15-year-old son had shot himself in the chest. In the note Jordan Lewis left behind, he laid blame on bullying. Although stricken with grief, Lewis, 47, found resolve. He took to Facebook that night and posted a series of videos explaining his son’s death and the events leading up to it: the alleged bullying, the concern of his son’s best friend, the wellness visit by police the night before the suicide, and the 911 call his son made shortly before pulling the trigger. His mission isn’t vengeance, he said, but justice — for his son and for victims of bullying from across the country.
article-2417074-1BBF157E000005DC-939_306x423“This bullying has to stop. People have to stop treating other people the way they do,” Lewis said into a webcam from his Collinsville, Ill., home. “Because some people just don’t have the strength to overcome the humiliation, the continuation of being picked on constantly every day to the point that they have no out.” Jordan’s death comes as the nation is following several high-profile cases in which children committed suicide after persistent bullying by peers. In September, 12-year-old “Rebecca Ann Sedwick” jumped from a silo at an abandoned cement plant in Lakeland, Fla., after police say she endured repeated taunts by peers in school and on social media. Jordan, a sophomore at Carterville High School, cheered for the Chicago Bears and played video games. He had always played football — and he played for the Carterville Lions during his freshman year. But he quit after the first day of practice this year, his father said. Lewis, who lives about a two-hour drive northwest of Cambria, Ill., where his son and ex-wife lived, talked to Jordan about why he left the team. “You wouldn’t understand, Dad,” Jordan said. sp day 2“I’m being picked on at school.” At the time, Lewis told his son how he himself had once been the target of bullies for having glasses and red hair. He then told his son to report bullies to the principal or his teachers. In 2008, Yale University researchers compiled studies into the effects of bullying and found that children who were subjected to bullying were between two and nine times more likely to commit suicide. Jordan, according to his father, was pushed into lockers and hit at least once in the head by a football teammate. Lewis said that on Wednesday — the day before his son’s death — his son watched an anti-bullying video at school. “At the end of the video, the kid that was being bullied went home and killed himself,” Lewis said, adding that police are investigating how Jordan, who lived with his mother, got ahold of a gun. Jordan had, however, texted a friend that he was considering hurting himself. prevention-awareness-month_imageThe friend, alarmed, told her grandmother — who tried contacting Jordan’s parents but eventually called police, who made a wellness visit Wednesday night, Lewis said. The next morning, after his mother left for work, Jordan called 911 and pointed the gun at his heart. Lewis worries that his son felt hopeless and lost, and that the video at school may have swayed him to send a message. Thursday was “Spirit Day” — a national effort to raise awareness about bullying — and October is National Bullying Prevention Month. “My son knows me well enough, that if he couldn’t get anything accomplished, I could take on what he wanted stopped,” Lewis said. In the wake of Jordan’s death, school administrators have told Lewis that they didn’t receive any reports about poor treatment directed at Jordan. Calls to Carterville High School and the Carterville School District were not immediately returned. His son’s death was the impetus, but Lewis said he has become frustrated by the steady reports of teens ending their lives because of mounting torment by bullies.By Matt Hamilton-October 19, 2013

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